Simple things that men are unable to do!

I recognise most things that are tongue in cheek - did you mean that?

lemsip

some people do not recognise tongue and cheek unfortunately.

I think this post says it all.

I don’t post very often simply because posts gets twisted by certain posters.

I usually avoid very ‘certain’ personalities in real life too.

So if I had lost a child, but still chose to read the light hearted threads of those mums who share jokes and funny stories of their children, should I think that they were being "smug"? Of course not
Just to say, if you had ever lost a child, and my sincere apologies if you have, but my experience was to run a mile from mums’ groups” sharing jokes and funny stories of their children” , and I am relieved and grateful to say my friends were considerate and tactful enough to be aware of this.

In the light of which
Yes.
“Some men”, possibly,
“Men” - who is to say? My (late) DH, no.

Has anyone noticed that this is posted in AIBU, in other words, inviting different viewpoints.

Straddling the fence, as I so often do, I think that the reason that some people don't feel the need, e.g. to tear off loo paper neatly is because they have different priorities.

So to those who find the differences amusing, that could be an explanation. To those who find the whole comparison thing belittling of others, it would help explain why we are different. "Different" being the operative word. Neither group (however you divide humanity up) is inferior nor superior to the other.

Thank you Quizzer for trying to start a light hearted thread. I have really enjoyed the fun posts. It is strange how some posters are so defensive of anyone recently widowed etc (quite rightly) but don’t mind hurting the OP by chastising them so rudely and abruptly.

What a shame a lovely lighthearted thread has been derailed. I was enjoying it but now it has become nasty and spiteful so I’m off to find another thread 👋

lemsip

I think less people are starting threads on gransnet lately as whatever the subject of their thread they are frightened away by attacks!

Absolutely! The world is in a terrible state. This country is falling apart. So it isn’t allowable to make a light-hearted observation any more? An observation. based on the verb ‘to observe’…

Much of the best comedy is based on real life observation, the simple everyday (with apologies to IKEA). Those who can’t see the difference between a gently poke at the ridiculous and genuine misandry, racism, etc. are to be pitied.

some people do not recognise tongue and cheek unfortunately.

It is no surprise to me that many posters do not bother with GN any more.

This thread shows how quickly a lighthearted comment can be misconstrued.

Quizzer, if you had just worded it differently: 'Things your partner simply can't do (lighthearted)' - then you'd have set the context. We should know, by now, how these things go.

This was supposed to be a light hearted post to give everyone a laugh.
It has been turned into a political correctness rant by the “woke” brigade.
Sorry I ever started it!

lemsip, perhaps they should engage their brains first? They need to ask themselves 'Is this sexist, racist, ageist or offensive to others?'

Still, having been through grief, I think there's no need for the oversensitivity towards the grieving. Nobody will be capable of 'saying the wrong thing' or upsetting us to any real degree. It's only ever a little drop in the ocean of our grief - so do carry on as normal.

lemsip

I think less people are starting threads on gransnet lately as whatever the subject of their thread they are frightened away by attacks!

I agree. This thread was lighthearted, it is not about dementure, bereavement or any other things that are sad in life.
Do we stop having a sense of humour because of the horrible things that happen?
I think it is smug to pull people up just because it does not suit you, as seen on this thread some people are not offended. There are lots of threads about dementure and bereavement which I rarely go on, but others do, it's what people are interested in/or find comfort and help.
I hope this thread goes back to what it was intended to be light hearted and humorous.

lemsip

I think less people are starting threads on gransnet lately as whatever the subject of their thread they are frightened away by attacks!

I agree with you lemsip. Quite a few of the regular funny posters have stopped and I know personally of one from abroad who has,as they have complained to me.
There is a group who are backing each other and shooting down or ignoring everyone else.
I joined the Goodmorning for about 5 weeks as an experiment and the only posts that were even commented on were from people I already pm so I stopped.
Everything does not have to bepolitically correct and I'm going to add to the original light hearted post by saying my DH only knows how to write Christmas cards to his brother, one friend and myself. His mind is closed to the others we get and have to reply to .I can do them if I want.

I think less people are starting threads on gransnet lately as whatever the subject of their thread they are frightened away by attacks!

I blame the parents (of either, any or all genders) if a person really can't do ordinary, everyday things. (Of course, there's just one thing to learn - look it up on YouTube.)

Still, I'm very familiar (aren't we all?) with the popular 'Do it really badly and they won't ever ask me again' tactic - along with the being far too busy with 'important' things.

A useful counter-move at these attempts at resistance? Being utterly exhausted (having cleaned the kitchen, cut the grass, walked the dog - and cooked the dinner) so only capable of sleep (aka the sex strike).

Grammaretto

Foxygloves

I think someone lonely because of bereavement or confined to the house because of caring duties might be exactly the sort of person to be in need of friendly online companionship or an uplifting chat.
But that’s just my opinion (and experience).

I agree. This forum was, and still is, a godsend, when we were in the midst of DH's final illness.
Thanks so much to everyone who helped me through.
Sorry to prolong the discussion if not appropriate.

There’s reference earlier to ‘recent’ bereavements, with those in that category unlikely to look at threads like this.
Gramaretto and foxygloves speak from their experience. It’s just a year today from my lovely husband’s first stroke. He had 2 more and died 7 days after the first.
I feel I;m doing ok but at times it feels like yesterday.

Jackiest makes a valid point about dividing people.

Making fun of any group race, gender, colour or any other way you care to divide people is never nice and should be avoided.

Foxygloves

I think someone lonely because of bereavement or confined to the house because of caring duties might be exactly the sort of person to be in need of friendly online companionship or an uplifting chat.
But that’s just my opinion (and experience).

I agree. This forum was, and still is, a godsend, when we were in the midst of DH's final illness.
Thanks so much to everyone who helped me through.
Sorry to prolong the discussion if not appropriate.

Smug? Wow, just wow

Wow, indeed.
But let’s leave it there shall we? .

I think someone lonely because of bereavement or confined to the house because of caring duties might be exactly the sort of person to be in need of friendly online companionship or an uplifting chat.
But that’s just my opinion (and experience).

I doubt those looking after partners with dementia or who have very recently lost someone would have the time or the inclination to look at this thread anyway. I can’t see a problem, either.

I don’t think OP is being unfair to men it’s just observation about how they sometimes do things differently. My DH is perfectly capable and adept at doing certain things better than me mainly because arthritis restricts me. However other jobs in the house he isn’t quite so good at especially cooking he’s not a natural cook.

Yes I agree multi tasking can be problematic for my DH. The most ridiculous thing is asking where something is when it’s right in front of him an everyday occurrence.