Looking after DGS for 2 weeks

I think Unasmum must be thinking about it...?

So unsatisfactory when the OP disappears and doesn't tell us what's happened.

No, not unreasonable, 2 weeks is far to long to expect someone else to look after their 5 year old. Long weekend, no problem and I get that parents want a little break but 2 weeks is taking the p**s to be honest

Quite agree. It's called parenthood. They should accept their responsibility.

I can’t understand why your DS and wife want to go away without their child. They’re a family so should want to be together. I never left my children for more than 1 overnight stay with my parents because I would have missed them. Two weeks would have been unthinkable. My daughter is exactly the same with her children.
What if after a couple of days the little boy gets upset and can’t be consoled. You’d have to deal with the stress of that coupled with the care of your DH. I’m sorry to say but your son is being utterly selfish both with you and his son, especially knowing his DD is recovering from a heart attack. Beggars belief.

Two weeks with a child that young is a big ask and with your husband needing your attention as well I think it would be too much. I find having my 5 year old great grandson overnight is tiring so no you are not being unreasonable at all

Selfish parents. Tell them it’s not on and to ask again in 5 years.

Unasmum
Have we helped you at all with your decision?

sungliq how on earth could anyone even consider asking that or going that to a child!! How awful

eh, safeguarding ???

Somebody my husband knows sent out an e Mail asking if anybody could look after her grandson who had come from America with his dad for a few days . She wanted to go to a wedding abroad while the son going to a conference abroad leaving the boy aged 6!!! My husband replied that we could do it !!😟. I said it wasn’t suitable as we didn’t know the boy at all and fortunately they all got covid . Stern words later my plonker ( sometimes) husband agreed he would never do that again -especially without even asking me and I know it would have been me doing most of the care like it is with our own grandchildren . They are apparently very intelligent people - really ? Unbelievable and I would never have done that to a grandchild of mine .

I think this might be a school’s out thread, no response from OP.

What do YOU think Unasmum ?

I agree with others, two weeks is a long time to be left with a five year old. It would be especially difficult if there were two weeks of school runs to do.

I'll never understand how parents could be away from their child for two weeks

No it's not your responsibility to look after 2 children. They can be hard work at that age and if your husband is recovering from a heart attack neither of you need the work or stress involved.

Far too long. We've had our 7 year old GS for about 6 days (half terms) for past few years. He's a good boy who loves staying with us and we love having him. However, don't think we could cope with 2 weeks.

I hope you told your son that he is being insensitive and inconsiderate.

HIS Father is recovering from a heart attack! This is no time to have a five year old staying even overnight, and certainly not for a fortnight. (Which is far too long for a five-year old to do without his parents, anyway.)

You are tired after the shock of your husband's heart attack, at least I imagine so, and a visit from your grandson will be tiring.

You don't say you have a district nurse coming in, or a home help, so if you are looking after a convalescent husband all on your own, you certainly cannot look after a five year old as well.

If you are afraid of offending yourthoughtless son and DIl, just say that your husband is taking all yoru time, and that it would neither be fair to him, nor to your grandson to have the boy staying right now.

Has the child no young godparents or aunts and uncles who could look after him? Or maternal grandparents? Or have they all wisely said, "Not on your life"?

You should have lost your temper with them as soon as it was suggested. And told them why you thought them irresponsible and unthinking about the health of yourself and husband. Let alone leaving a 5 yr old to be looked after by elderly people with health problems. If either of you became unable to cope with the child, didn’t they realise that he would be taken into care? And what would Social Services think of parents who would leave a 5yr old for 2 weeks ?

Yanbu, More entitled parents! Long weekend ok fair enough but two weeks. And your husband not in good health. Tell them NO.

Sad that they want to leave a 5 year old for 2 weeks they are the ones unreasonable to even ask if it were a family emergency yes but just because they fancy a child free holiday I would say no as the physical aspect and the responsibility on top of your dh health is selfish of them to ask

DITTO to all those who are saying NO YOU ARE NOT!!!!

That’s terrible, they either take their child with them or defer the trip until he is much older. How selfish!

Wow 2 weeks, really!! YANBU definitely not - they are being very selfish!!!

Agree with everyone who said no …. 2weeks is a long time for a little one and far too long for you as Curly surly said if your husband needed to go in to hospital …You both need to relax .🩷