Taking in neighbours parcels

Am I being unreasonable in being fed up with taking in parcels for the neighbours, when the same delivery woman, chucked my parcel, a jacket over the back gate

I suppose it depends on your relationship with your neighbours. We live in a small road with 18 houses and have a good community spirit amongst us. We take in parcels , feed cats , put out bins if people are away . I wouldn’t have a problem with it. I don’t understand the link between the delivery woman throwing your parcel over the gate and you not taking in parcels .

I’ll take in parcels for anyone and would expect my neighbours to do the same for me - I always did, as I used to be at home far more than them. However, we had an incident with our strange family (they did a bunk a couple of weeks ago) some years ago and I wouldn’t take anything in for them if you paid me!!
I sense the OP is annoyed that the Delivery woman knocks to ask her to take in the parcel for a neighbour, but just dumps her stuff anywhere. I think I’d be a bit miffed too. Fortunately, I have an unlocked porch where my parcels are left.

Happy to take in parcels, our couple next door are out at work all day, it's not a problem. Works both ways

It is not the fault of your neighbours that the delivery driver wasn’t careful with your parcel.

There are only 7 houses in the road I live on so we always take in parcels for each other.

I have no problem, apart from one neighbour, who never comes for them.
The delivery drivers all know we will take each other's parcel.

Tersagreen321

Am I being unreasonable in being fed up with taking in parcels for the neighbours, when the same delivery woman, chucked my parcel, a jacket over the back gate

Yes I think you are- also illogical and not very neighbourly

Well, I understand you feeling rather fed up - but in these days of so many delivery companies and carriers, as others have said, there isn't a link (unless it is the same courier!)

Not at all. We too live in a small close and all help one another.

We live in a built up area but our particular street has only 5 houses. We're happy to help each other out!
Tersagreen321 talk to the delivery person but if it happens again, report her!!

I have no problem with it. I’m in more than I used to be so it happens a lot, but when I was out at work people used to take them in for me. There was a delivery for next door yesterday and for the second time in a couple of days (different deliverers) the driver asked whether anyone lived there. It was 3.45pm - they were at work, like most people . Unless more people now work from home than go out, surely that’s normal?

I don’t know my neighbours that well just to say good morning to but I wouldn’t think twice about taking in their parcels or expect them to help me if needed however as I live two doors from a shop I usually get them redirected there if I m going to be out

Thank you all.

We live in a small close of new houses and everyone looks out for each takes the bins in and out and parcels especially if they are sitting in the rain. We don't pop in and out of each others houses and people retain their privacy its just neighbourlyness. (is that a word).

Marydoll

I have no problem, apart from one neighbour, who never comes for them.
The delivery drivers all know we will take each other's parcel.

In theory I'm very happy to take in parcels for my neighbours but there have been occasions when these parcels have hung about in my hallway for a week. The worse culprits have moved away now but I did get to the stage where I refused to take their parcels. Not very neighbourly I know but it wasn't very neighbourly of them not to collect them!

RosiesMaw

Tersagreen321

Am I being unreasonable in being fed up with taking in parcels for the neighbours, when the same delivery woman, chucked my parcel, a jacket over the back gate

Yes I think you are- also illogical and not very neighbourly

Well I don't think you are being unneighbourly or illogical, why are they using you as the local drop-off centre when they can't be bothered to knock and see if you are in?
You are doing both your neighbours and the delivery people a favour so why can't they do their job as they are meant to and knock?
We had a spate of this in our village where the main street unfortunately has no name. Certain people who had lists of the houses and the names of the residents were used by the drivers, we all took them in.
We then found we were not receiving our own parcels. One of mine went missing for over 4 months when I contacted the company it had been left in an open garage and only when my next door neighbour was visiting them and saw it did I eventually receive it. I refused to keep any more parcels for the family.
We also have a family who never come and pick their parcels up when a card has been left, you have to take it round for them up a muddy lane. Parcels for them are refused by everyone.
We are a very friendly small village and all help each other in many ways and even have a village coffee morning and events.

I think the delivery woman was in the wrong regarding your parcel and would complain about her.

As to taking in other peoples parcels, well that's just being a good neighbour.

I'm happy to accept parcels for my neighbours and they do the same although there's one house that people are starting to refuse acceptance for.

The person has deliveries most days but will not answer the door... usually within 10/15 minutes, they will then come to collect the parcel.
There doesn't appear to be any difficulties for this person and they do go out, appear to get shopping etc and open the door to others, just not delivery people!

It's not the neighbours' fault the delivery person is useless, is it?

We take in parcels for our immediate neighbours only now. We used to take them for the whole street but since one house complained that we were so far away (100 yards) and didn't even say thank you I refuse for the rest of the street. Plus there are more people at home now anyway.

A couple of posters have mentioned their neighbours not picking up their parcels - which is something I find difficult to comprehend.

I had a neighbour - only a couple of doors down the road - who did this and it meant that I had to re-deliver to her after the parcels had sat in my hallway for days on end.

Why? What is the thinking behind this?

I no longer take in her deliveries - and told the courier the reason why I wouldn't accept them.

I have taken deliveries for my neighbours and they always pick them up as soon as they get back home. No problem at all.

Dickens

A couple of posters have mentioned their neighbours not picking up their parcels - which is something I find difficult to comprehend.

I had a neighbour - only a couple of doors down the road - who did this and it meant that I had to re-deliver to her after the parcels had sat in my hallway for days on end.

Why? What is the thinking behind this?

I no longer take in her deliveries - and told the courier the reason why I wouldn't accept them.

Are you sure the deliverers have left a card? I once had a parcel delivered to a house three down, and I had no idea it was there until the neighbour brought it three days later. I had been complaining to Amazon that it hadn't been delivered, although their system was showing that it had been.

Oh yes Doodledog - I can see her house from mine, and watched the courier put a note through her door. I made sure because I've heard that some couriers just dump the parcels with you and pretend they've notified the recipient... or forget!

My neighbour has a closed gate with a key pad and delivery men can’t get through. So no I do not take in his parcels.