Taking in neighbours parcels

What's the point of asking if we want them REDELIVERED on a certain day if we need to for the actual driver to totally ignore that and just do what they feel like, as they cant be bothered to come back another day.

It comes down to you and whether or not you feel doing a favour for your neighbours is how you want to live
If you want to live in splendid isolation, that’s fine. Alternatively if mutual help for and fro your neighbours is your attitude. Then equally fine.
I just think back to occasions when my neighbours went above and beyond on my and Paw’s behalf ( neighbours on both sides offering beds for the night for family members the night he died for instance) and am hugely grateful that I have lovely neighbours!

I actually ask for my LANDSEND parcels to be put over the side gate as they well wrapped in plastic and soft clothes

Last week i told Royal mail just to REDELIVER my parcel next day instead as i wasnt going to be in- did they take notice of that?- No they did not and left it with neighbour just so they wouldnt have to trail back next day!- i was mortified as the same neighbour had already been given 2 parcels for me before we even moved in! (Not my fault) and we were out most of day as i knew we would be- so poor woman must have been thinking i was expecting her to bring it to me all day!

When my daughter was a student she lived in a fairly transient area, with just a few permanent residents. I sent her several parcels that ended up delivered to a particular neighbour who denied all knowledge of them. I tried to time them to arrive on Saturdays so she could be in, but it doesn't always work out like that. It turned out that the neighbour was well-known by the students as being a thief, who had taken in parcels for everyone who had lived in the street for years, and never admitting it. When she moved out, my daughter left a note for the girl who took over, warning her. I don't know what she could have done though - you can use RM to deliver on a Saturday, but a lot of retailers don't offer a choice of deliverers and just give a vague idea of times.

We live 300 yards from our nearest neighbours and one day a delivery arrived and the driver dumped it in the driveway of a cluster of houses at the bottom of our hill. Not notifying anyone. The particular neighbour whose drive it was left in spotted our address on it and drove up the hill to inform my husband. We only know two of the neighbours living at the bottom of the hill.
I looked out of the window to see my husband getting into an car with an unknown lady driver and disappear down the road. He was gone for sometime before I heard puffing and panting as he lugged a full sized ladder up the hill ! We don’t usually get other folks delivery’s or visa versa thank goodness.

Its same here- new built homes and seemingly one certain courier(DPD) have been only going to one or 2 addresses at most and dumping other folks parcels with them when theyve given them theirs- i thought it was just the end ones as theirs were only numbers popping up on a search- but no- the lazy blighter took one of ours to one further in and had to pass our house to get to theirs! So it made no sense!- my sons parcel went missing and he was told courier left it& went back for it- not sure if that was true or not- as he never dropped it here- but after son complained to retailer item turned up after a few days mysteriously with a different driver!- i wish couriers wouldnt drop them with neighbours as ‐1.i dont like to pester them or put them to the bother & 2- we are all new here so no idea wether these neighbours are trustworthy or which are or arent(some arent as much as others i think) plus i really didnt want our names bandied about the entire neighbourhood- who knows what might happen?(once moved from somewhere and few months later it turns out next tenant had took out a catalogue in my name & run up a huge bill- i had to supply info from landlord& council tax etc to prove exactly when i had moved so they knew it wasnt me!) So i dont fancy that happening again.

My post code spreads over a mile area. I am at the top of the list alphabetically so some delivery drivers come to my house and leave parcels on the doorstep. One neighbour had to get in her car and drive about a mile to collect her parcel.
Parcel Force will not deliver to our house. The delivery driver leaves the parcel at a local post office 2 miles away for collection and sends a card second class to tell us where our parcel is. The post office owner goes out to deliver parcels instead.
Delivery companies should go over to "What3words" or update their sat navs.

I rather like 'a sad sunset' as a collective noun for un-neighbourly people DrWatson!

Aaaarggghhh- not "sad suNset" --- "suBset"!!!

As BigBertha says, most communities will do the right thing and take in parcels. However, as plenty have said, there is a sad sunset of people, thoughtless and/or selfish, who expect you to become a courier too.

These days this topic is made more complex because not all couriers do leave a card, though the various online delivery monitors tend to say that it's been delivered . . .somewhere!

Our village has a steady stream of people appealing for help to locate their parcel -- showing a plaintive picture of the bottom of somebody's front door with a parcel placed there. Or the similar "where does Mrs Blodgit live, I've got her parcel which was addressed here, but she doesn't live here" ones?!

Couriers are expected to deliver about a million a day, so will leave things somewhere, anywhere, take one of those daft pictures (WHAT USE is the picture of the bottom of a door -- sometimes with a pair of feet in shot??) - and whizz off in a few seconds. We've caught RM Parcels putting a 'not in' card through the door when they didn't ring and we were both in!

Some weeks back, a large item was left by the village hall door, a roll of material (over £100 apparently). We took it home, told the vendor that the process had gone wrong, the postcode was correct for the village hall, but the rest of the address was somewhere 10 miles away, no such roads in the village (the label postcode was one character out). They arranged to get it collected, I even heard from the courier firm they selected to do that (not the original one, who'd just dumped it despite most of the address being all wrong). The collection never happened, and a couple of days later a further (replacement) item turned up at the Hall (!!), this time taken in by the hirer that day. Exactly the same incorrect label. About 2 weeks later a van did turn up to collect two rolls of material, though I came within a whisker of selling them! (as compensation for half a dozen phone calls and about 20 emails!).

I always ask the delivery driver to notify my neighbour that I have their parcel. They always come and collect it.

I don’t have any problems taking in my neighbors parcels. It’s called being a good neighbor. Your post shouldn’t be about your neighbors it should be about your delivery woman you can’t blame your neighbors for your bad experience

Yes…very disobliging!

We would always take in parcels for both our neighbours, put out/bring in Bins etc & they would do the same for us. We did the same when our new neighbours moved in, but they did not reciprocate, so we stopped.

I recently ordered an item (quite expensive) for my daughter's birthday, to be delivered to her address via Evri. I rang her to warn her to expect it and she said "oh, one of the neighbours will take it if I'm not in". However, I had been given a code number that had to be quoted to the driver before s/he was allowed to leave the parcel so she would have had to give all her neighbours this code, not knowing which one might be at home. Apparently that was not allowed - she would have had to specify a particular neighbour which was totally impossible. So she had to work from home that day, and it all worked out okay - but it was a worry. Maybe Evri are introducing this system to avoid parcels going missing, but it could certainly cause practical problems.

I agree with the poster re kids' Christmas presents - we had a neighbour who used us as a storage centre. Kids have left home now, but it still grates on me.

I'm very slow and have to use a rollator round the house so by the time I get to the door the delivery driver has gone.

We are a small close and have a good rapport with our neighbours so help each other out. We always ask first though.

From time to time we do. Not an issue.

I must be one of the few who are blessed with lovely neighbours! We happily take in and sign for each other's parcels. Knowing that I was away for the weekend, my neighbours intercepted the Evri courier, took my parcels off him, signed for them and then texted me to tell me that they had arrived safely and they'd keep them until I got home. Hadn't realised how lucky I was until I read this thread!

We live at the bottom of a cul-de-sac, with a small number of houses, and everyone is very good about looking out for everyone else, but I have to admit I have one or two neighbours that I don’t like to take parcels for any more. I have always been at home, so postmen, delivery men etc, tend to see my house as the occupied one and I think I’ve done more than my fair share of parcel minding for others over the years. I have one particular neighbour that I prefer not to interact with more than the bare minimum, because she complains about everything, and another I don’t like to take parcels for because a few years ago they used me as a storage unit for their kids toys at Christmas, so they wouldn’t have to hide them in their own house, and so the kids wouldn’t see them! I took a larger toy to their door after holding it for almost a week waiting for them to come and claim it, and was met with the door opened a chink to be told they ‘didn’t want the boys to see that’, as if I was spoiling Christmas and was just expected to keep it till it suited them, probably on Christmas Eve. I wouldn’t have minded so much if they had asked me, but they were just trying to make use of me. I told our regular postie so he knew for quite a while after that, not to ask me to take parcels for them. Not so bad now though. I never need anyone to take our parcels, as there is always somebody home, which is handy because I don’t like having to go and ask for them.

I’m happy to take in parcels for any neighbour but am only really asked to take in for immediate neighbours. They happily do the same for us. The issue with the delivery person is a different one.

I'm happy to take in parcels, I'm not working now, so happy to do this, it also works if I'm out and the neighbours take ours in for us too, there's only 1 neighbour I have a 'niggle' with, there a lovely young couple with a little boy, and I take in there parcels regularly, but they go away a lot hols, week ends etc, and I had 3 largish parcels delivered at different times, that I ended up having at mine for 5 days till they came back home, 🙈 it's not the 1st time this has happened either

Yes I would do it for anyone.I’m still working so it’s helpful when sometimes a parcel comes a bit later than expected and a neighbour takes it in. I’m two years off retirement and would be happy to help anyone when I’m at home full time.

i only have 2 neighbours and the neighbours opposite told the postman that they wouldn't take a parcel in for me as they 'never see me'. Consequently I had to drive around 15 miles to the nearest town to retrieve my parcel. I'm hoping I'm asked to take a parcel in for them so that I can make a show of taking it across the road to deliver to them with a smile!