AIBU……just not responding to texts.

No news is good news, it is said.

Why did you decide to let her use your holiday home? You don't seem to like her much.

Is your OH upset about this as well, or does he think it is her normal behaviour? If you haven't txt'd since 2021 I wouldn't be surprised that she hasn't replied. I hope she gives you a nice thankyou present for your generosity..

I don't know why you expected a reply if she didn’t reply to your last one 2 years ago, she obviously does not use texting to communicate, maybe she will phone at the end of her stay.

If it bothers you this much maybe you should not let people stay for free in your holiday let.

Perhaps she communicates but with her brother , op’s dh, who knows.
Hope she gets in touch later or at the end of the break (with a nice thank you gift),
Otherwise think twice about repeating the kind offer.

I wouldn’t be letting her stay there again,either. I think she is a
very rude woman. Next time she asks, make an excuse !

What Cabbie21 said

Update!

My husband called her, everything was fine, she is clearly just rude!

That’s the last free holiday she gets then. What breathtaking rudeness and ingratitude.

Had she received your text?

In that case Sago I would agree that, to me, she is rude. I wouldn't be offering her accommodation again.

However, I often think things people do are rude beyond belief when they think is is the norm. People shouting on phones in cafes, people interrupting conversations to take phone calls (except in urgent situations), people who use my drive to park on when visiting their friends, people who allow their children to jump all over seats, people who can't say 'excuse me' and just push you out of the way... the list is endless.

Thanks for update. She is just rude! No more free holidays. She doesn't deserve them.

Sago

Update!

My husband called her, everything was fine, she is clearly just rude!

Thanks for letting us know!

You've had a 'mixed' response here - including one which appears to be chiding you for your kind gesture on the basis of you being 'bothered' by the lack of a response to your text!

When did simple courtesy / good manners become unfashionable?

It really does not take more than a couple of minutes - quite literally - to text "arrived safely, thanks". Or a 'thumbs up'. Even those who don't like bothering with text messages can manage that, surely?

I’m a stickler for good manners and yes, it’s rude. Always posters coming out with excuses for bad behaviour. Unless something untoward has occurred then she should have replied. A thumbs up would suffice but no response is inexcusable imo.

YANBU

I got told off this morning by MrA. We split up for an hour at the shops and forgot to confirm meeting up time and place. He sent me a text saying 'see you 12.30 at xxxxx'. I read it as an 'instruction' so didn't reply as there was nothing to discuss. He considered it a question and was waiting for agreement 😄

My sister and brother in law manage a holiday park in crystal palace. I have twice stayed in late season for considerably reduced fees but would not expect to stay free as they have to pay for a cleaner and other amenities.

When I text on my android phone there is usually a short response that you can send without bothering to spell it out - ok, sounds good, etc. I often use that as a response.

I see you have finally made contact with your cousin but it was definitely rude of her not to have responded to your text sooner.
Phones these days enable us to see if our message has been read by the recipient, so if she had time to read your message she could have spent thirty seconds sending a very brief reply.

It would have been thoughtful of her to have sent you another text a bit later saying how lovely your holiday home is and to thank you again for letting them stay. It’s what most folk would do surely?

It will be interesting to see if you are given a small thank you gift when she returns home.

Some people are not that big on texting.

The person in question has a phone so presumably uses it and a few seconds taken fir a quick thanks for free holiday accommodation is surely not too much to ask.

It's actually quite a lot of work to sort out the linen before and after a visit and we live three hours away so there aren't many people to whom we will lend our holiday let. We've found in the past that most people don't seem to appreciate it and take us for granted.
And I would ALWAYS respond to a text like that from the OP. In fact I usually respond to texts from people I know, even if it isn't strictly necessary.

Ignore some of the nasty replies you’ve had! I’m always roaring laughing reading the responses people get on here to AIBU posts. Clearly there are a lot of very saintly followers of gransnet ( I am not one of them) I think she’s rude Sago and if you let me stay for free in your holiday let I promise I will text you every day.

In response to JenniferEccles, it's surprising how many people didn't consider giving us a small gift after visiting our house.
The most generous was from the person who was our cleaner at the time who not only replaced the food she had used but left us some lovely additions to our food store as a thank you.
Many people don't even bother to replace tins of food, cartons of UHT milk or fruit juice that they've used or household products that have run out.

tickingbird

I’m a stickler for good manners and yes, it’s rude. Always posters coming out with excuses for bad behaviour. Unless something untoward has occurred then she should have replied. A thumbs up would suffice but no response is inexcusable imo.

YANBU

I second that.

You are definitely not being unreasonable!