Things you find stressful that other people don't notice.

Timetables, I have diagnosed myself as having dyscalculia and anything with numbers bothers me, also money matters etc. I fret over how much to tip and splitting bills. I stare at my diary when having to arrange dates…

Passwords. Even correct passwords get refused. Why?
Tiny writing on instructions when I have to get a magnifying glass to read them.

Spuddy - some people are really VILE .
It's obvious that I have trouble walking and there's been a couple of guys on the bus , who refuse to move across so I can sit down .
My neighbour with the flashing lights ignores me in the supermarket and knows that I struggle home with my shopping .
He and his wife both have cars .
My poor father once asked them to get him some basic shopping and they made him feel like a leper .
At the moment , they babysit their granddaughters for their sons , who live miles away .
I wonder if these sons will help them out in the future .

spuddy that is very mean. Several shops around here have signs saying that if you have trouble entering or leaving please ring the bell.

I'm disabled and use a 4-wheeled seated Rollator outside and it really stresses me out and makes me fume, when I'm having to back into a shop doorway, push my back against the door, which has a long metal hard bar across it so it hurts my already damaged back, then PUSH in hard as the door is heavy and stiff, I'm really pushing hard backwards while trying to pull my Rollator and keep the door open at the same time and able-bodied people outside can see I'm struggling but instead of hanging on for just a few seconds before trying to enter, they literally just barge past me, knocking the Rollator from my hands and sending it wheeling then storm into the shop as if I'm invisible.

One of the women who works at our local Spar is a sod for that, and her kid, they've done it to me twice so far. I feel like ramming my Rollator into their legs ... hard ... and barking at them to bloody well wait for a few seconds!

Kittycat, I know EXACTLY what you're saying!

I'm physically disabled too and have a RADAR key but whenever I go somewhere new I HAVE to find out where loo's are before I do anything, just in case!

Sometimes they're upstairs and there's no lift or escalator and stair climbing is very awkward for me!

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I asked for it to be turned down in an hotel but was told no as the owner liked it.

Wasn’t at Lulworth Cove was it?😂

kircubbin2000

For example,we usually meet at a local cafe 5 minutes from home. This morning one lady changed the venue to a trendy cafe in town meaning having to drive and park.
The noise was unbearable both from the coffee machines and the acoustics.Service was poor and the coffee was cold. We couldn't hear each other over the noise and I felt so relieved to get home. No one else complained.

That is totally me! i hate the clashing and banging of the staff who use these coffee machines. I know they have to knock out the coffee grounds but I swear some staff just wait until you are all relaxed and give it a good old BANG!! not relaxing atmosphere at all.

I hate filling in forms. My friend used to always say to fill in one page at a time and not worry about the whole picture and I try and do that.

I really enjoy going to cafes in the little town in which I live , but I hate the sound of the coffee machine and the radio in the one that serves the best food .
Two of my friends can't even enter this cafe .
Other friends seem to enjoy the buzz .
Visiting people who leave their TV on at full volume .
Friends , who have blaring radios on and shout over the top in their cars .
I think that one friend can't stand the sound of silence .

I also find people swearing and losing their tempers really frightening on the bus .
On a couple of occasions , the drivers have locked the doors and called the Police .
Last time , the offender was swearing at and spitting on us hoping we'd get Covid .

Our neighbour opposite has flashing lights set up on 1st December and earlier each year despite being politely requested as both my neighbour and I suffer from migraine .
Her migraine is more serious and frequent than mine and she finds it hard to use a computer at work when she has an attack .
People who ring the doorbell and immediately walk away .
I've found that this is frequent with Friday night charity collectors .
I have stopped answering the door unless I'm expecting a parcel .
Friends can message me first .

Having to drive to unknown places. Struggling with parking apps.

For those anxious about driving skills - can I suggest having a driving lesson? I got worried about negotiating roundabouts after being hooted at by another driver. The instructor was brilliant (once he got over the shock of someone with a clean licence requesting a lesson). He confirmed I was doing everything right (phew) and pointed out the odd thing I could improve on - using my near side wing mirror was one - I had to tell him when I started driving near side wing mirrors were not obligatory! It was a huge confidence boost - it is very odd that anyone doing a sport etc goes on having lessons for ever but once people pass their driving test that's it. Maybe we should all invest in an annual lesson.

Here's a silly one. A neighbour has a fatsia shrub next to the pavement. It has very large leaves which tend to die off one by one and look brown and withered. I find it very frustrating when these eyesores are left to accumulate and I can't do anything about it without offending.

I had forgotten the gaps in the timber planks on a pier!!
I also surprised myself reading my earlier answer about putting air in tyres. Thank you Kim 19 for your suggestion.

Getting up from sitting down on a chair.I went to a concert at GD2’s school on Tuesday. We had to sit on those fairly small school chairs and I spent much of the time worrying if I would be able to get up again. I did so rather inelegantly and with some difficulty.😊

I’m sorry to read that maddyone that must be so upsetting for you.

I don't like flashing Christmas lights either, in fact, two Christmas's ago I refused to have the tree up at all as I wasn't 'in a good place'.
Having to walk over tramlines when crossing the roads in the city really stresses me too, along with walking along a pier and seeing the water below through the gaps in the timber.

Airports. Hate them. Especially the po faced staff who absolutely always seem to want to frisk me. I feel like complaining but they would probably make life difficult re boarding so I don’t. I once pointed out that we don’t go through all that to get on a bus or train.

Noise levels just before singing in a concert. The choir assembles in a room with a low ceiling and everyone is talking instead of resting their voices. The noise gets louder and louder and I want to put my hands over my ears.

Going anywhere unfamiliar in my car. I might as well be driving off the edge of the known world! I have been known to spend days agonising about routes. Yes I have a sat nav. My is full of “what ifs” these days. Hopeless case.

Not knowing where the nearest loo is coach journeys for same reason

New technologies/roadworks etc designed without thinking about the users.

Trying to comment or complain about goods/service is so challenging. What happened to the customer is always right?

Seeing bikes on pavements. Including electric bikes! It's the norm now.

When a recipe states the word 'delicious' in the title or a picture of a portion of food on a plate with a 'fork' next to it.

Interesting how many people find noise, be it loud music, loud speech, or loud anything, really stressful.
I find at the moment, the thing that stresses me the most is when my daughter rings me and is upset and crying because she’s going through a difficult divorce and lives in another country. I guess other people would find that stressful too to be honest. If I have a difficult conversation with her and she’s crying, I can’t sleep afterwards because I want to make it better and I can’t. I think I’m quite stressed about the whole situation all the time to be honest.

Checking in online for a flight. I‘ve no problem with anything else online, but putting in those names, dates of birth and passport details, then checking, re-checking and checking again brings me out in a cold sweat. Especially when I get constant offers of help popping up from the website and blocking half the screen, probably because I’m taking so long the system thinks I might have expired in the middle of the process….

And yes I do find it stressful. I agree with there is too much noise in cafes which is stressful trying to hear a conversation. Plus the noise of those coffee machines drives me mad!