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Things you find stressful that other people don't notice.

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kircubbin2000 Fri 22-Dec-23 12:01:43

For example,we usually meet at a local cafe 5 minutes from home. This morning one lady changed the venue to a trendy cafe in town meaning having to drive and park.
The noise was unbearable both from the coffee machines and the acoustics.Service was poor and the coffee was cold. We couldn't hear each other over the noise and I felt so relieved to get home. No one else complained.

polomint Thu 28-Mar-24 22:57:49

No one has mentioned air conditioning in shopping malls. There is a particular area in my local one where its so annoying. Cold air blowing makes my eyes water and my nose needs blowing often. I'm cold too. I don't think there is any need for air conditioning in our country in winter. Even in summer I hate it

joannapiano Thu 28-Mar-24 20:12:00

Wind chimes outside a house. Our new neighbours have just hung some up. And it’s very windy tonight. And I have very acute hearing.

Suzieque66 Thu 28-Mar-24 18:13:27

Dogs , and Dogs and people saying " Oh he wont hurt you " ... I dont want any dog near me and the barking drives me bonkers ...

Kim19 Fri 19-Jan-24 20:53:46

HelterSkelter1, the garage who do my servicing put air in my tyres for free and with pleasure. I simply call up and ask for this and we arrange a day and time that suits them. It's usually at the end of their day and takes ten minutes while I wait in reception. Worth a try? They can only say no or offer you a minimum charge. I very much hope they will do neither.

emmasnan Fri 19-Jan-24 19:14:05

Gales especially overnight. I live in an exposed area and the wind can be very damaging. I hate it when it swirls round the house and the loud the buffeting noises.
I think other people here notice it but don't loose sleep or feel as nervous as I do.

sodapop Fri 19-Jan-24 17:47:45

We do that now Siope our social life is centred around lunch rather than an evening meal or afternoon performances at the cinema etc.

HousePlantQueen Fri 19-Jan-24 11:32:29

Driving at night especially a stretch of road which is unfamiliar. As I am not the only one, we usually now arrange to meet friends for lunch rather than dinner.

NotSpaghetti Fri 19-Jan-24 11:15:33

I think some people do this because they are nervous or lonely. I don't like it Siope but don't find it stressful.

charliebb Fri 19-Jan-24 11:07:26

Those tiny packets of sugar that coffee shops and cafes serve, is this health and hygiene gone mad? What happened to sugar cubes and tongs! If, like me, you need several packets because there is so little in them, by the time you've got them all open the coffee has gone cold.

NotSpaghetti Fri 19-Jan-24 11:01:28

Taking blood pressure.
Even at home.
🥺

Jaxjacky Fri 19-Jan-24 10:41:13

Reported

DonaldBloomer Fri 19-Jan-24 10:21:37

Strange to see. Well the value to stress vary from person to person. I mostly enjoy at coffee shops or cafeterias. I feel stress mostly due to workload and study. Whenever I feel this stress I take lexapro. One Of my friend recommend me wellbutrin. If you want to read their difference, give a read at itsmyownway.com/wellbutrin-vs-lexapro-a-guide-to-your-anxiety-medication-options/.

HelterSkelter1 Mon 08-Jan-24 14:31:28

Multi storey parking for the first time in a new one stresses me no end. Once I have done it once I am OK.

Also putting air in the tyres. The bending and then trying to see the numbers on the machine. Sometimes in bad weather and trying to hurry before it stops.

I would pay someone to do it for me. I must ask a friend who I heard got the chap in the Quick Fit tyre place to do it for her. Don't know if as a one off or if she paid or tipped and has been back regularly.

HomeAgain123 Mon 08-Jan-24 14:30:35

Hubby saying in a minute no rush 🙈🙈🙈🙈 but please put shoes away now not in a few hours aghhh this morning he was ordering son’s birthday gift online in a minute 6 hours later …..

Primrose53 Mon 08-Jan-24 14:30:08

kircubbin2000

For example,we usually meet at a local cafe 5 minutes from home. This morning one lady changed the venue to a trendy cafe in town meaning having to drive and park.
The noise was unbearable both from the coffee machines and the acoustics.Service was poor and the coffee was cold. We couldn't hear each other over the noise and I felt so relieved to get home. No one else complained.

I would hate that too. I swear that in some places the staff just wait until you sit down then start banging the metal thing with the coffee grounds as hard as they can.

I mention it to people and they say “they have to do that, it’s a posh machine, it’s quite usual.” Err no, it’s not. Surely there is something they can do to lessen the noise. It is just not right in a relaxing environment.

joot Mon 08-Jan-24 14:16:58

Absolutely agree about dogs being on very long leads or loose. The dog may be lovely but i freeze in terror ! I was attacked as a child and it stayed with me.

Winniewit Fri 05-Jan-24 18:56:10

kircubbin2000

I asked for it to be turned down in an hotel but was told no as the owner liked it.

We stayed in a hotel were the music on the dining room at breakfast was Shirley Bassey and Tom Jones..the music was so fast that people were eating to keep up with the singing..

Margomar Thu 04-Jan-24 09:25:54

Interesting how many people find loud music in restaurants etc stressful- as I posted a few months ago about a 70th birthday celebration being ruined by a DJ and many people sympathised. I belong to an organisation called Pipedown which campaigns for public areas like hospitals and hotels to be free of Muzak.( only last night I had to visit my DD who is in hospital with a horrible acute ear infection - several televisions on and the noise was unbearable) I always ask, politely, for music to be turned down in restaurants, response is mixed, one coffee shop owner said “ No, it’s our vibe” ( well he lost my custom !) but most oblige . I agree with those saying how tiring and stressful it is to try and join in conversations when you can barely hear what others are saying.

Spuddy Wed 03-Jan-24 14:24:44

Loud ''music'' in cafe's and restaurants and shops, if it's loud enough where I can't hear what my hubby is saying then I won't go in! I'm also partly deaf so the noise puts out my natural ear gyro system.

Mogsmaw Tue 02-Jan-24 23:44:57

Dogs!
Dogs on long leads wandering with a moron staring at a ‘phone on the other end.
Dogs leaping out at you and the owner saying “it won’t touch you. When it has , and you’re terrified!

annodomini Tue 02-Jan-24 23:10:31

Very large retail outlets with even larger car parks. I'd need a map to get round certain vast supermarkets. The car park of the store I'm thinking of are un-numbered and I find it difficult to get my bearings. If you see a white haired old woman looking for her little white Kia, be kind to me!

PestyOne Tue 02-Jan-24 22:59:09

Car parks stress me out (not just multi storey ones either)!

Nice, normal people who normally drive courtesly and carefully seem to lose all sense in a car park - no giving way, indicating, etc. 😡
And as for pedestrians - they seem to wander around oblivious to the fact that there's moving vehicles all around them and especially behind them 😳!

Baggs Sun 24-Dec-23 14:35:19

Bella23

I hate being late or others being late. I can't give direct instructions to adults I make open suggestions.

This made me laugh, Bella, because it reminded me of when MrB and I were sailing in our Wayfarer dinghy. MrB was helming and said "You might like to tighten the jib". I looked at the jib and thought "Looks fine to me" and left it. MrB was really puzzled 😂.

lemsip Sun 24-Dec-23 13:44:32

you say no one else complained
Did you complain?

Washerwoman Sun 24-Dec-23 13:22:16

Yes to the wrapping paper sticky labels !This seems to be a recent thing and so frustrating as impossible to peel off cleanly.
And also driving on Motorways has lately made me stressed to the point I feel I shouldn't be using them.Difficult to avoid as I go to our DDs regularly and need to go on one of the busiest -mercifully only for a short stretch. I really think I've been a competent driver but have had seen such aggressive driving lately that it's eroding my confidence.