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To think this is weird?

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Germanshepherdsmum Sun 11-Feb-24 18:10:24

I have never seen a dead (human) body. I would rather remember people as they were in life, even if very ill, and I would rather be remembered that way.

Callistemon21 Sun 11-Feb-24 18:07:44

Juliet27

I had the same experience Callistemon when I saw my dad. 😢

She wouldn't have been happy. I think she'd have nudged me and said "What were they thinking?!"

Callistemon21 Sun 11-Feb-24 18:06:23

Perhaps it's frivolous (sorry kittylester) but it reminded me of the Stephanie Plum books. Grandma Mazur and friends used to meet up at the local funeral parlour
Grandma Mazur also frequents the local funeral parlors because they are the social centers of the neighborhood. She sometimes peeks underneath the casket lid to see the dead body, causing hysteria in the parlor.

Juliet27 Sun 11-Feb-24 18:03:21

I had the same experience Callistemon when I saw my dad. 😢

Chestnut Sun 11-Feb-24 17:52:27

In this instance who actually knows what the deceased lady or the family wanted in this respect? I certainly find it weird that her ex boss would want to view her body.

Viewing dead bodies is something I find completely freaky and I have no idea why anyone would want to do it. Obviously we must all be different because the Victorians used to prop them up and take photos as if they were still alive. It's beyond my understanding.

Thank you for saying that GSM because I hadn't even thought about anyone viewing my body but I will make it clear I don't want that either.

Callistemon21 Sun 11-Feb-24 17:48:46

It does seem rather odd, I'd rather remember people as they are. I remember going to see MIL and the way the undertaker had arranged her just wasn't her and I can't forget that.

I'm sorry to hear about your friend, kittylester, it's difficult losing close friends, I know how it feels. 💐

Celieanne86 Sun 11-Feb-24 17:46:08

As a retired funeral director I can tell you we have many requests to view the deceased person. It is not up to us to decide who does or doesn’t. All and any requests are passed on to the family it is their decision and theirs alone who should visit their loved one. Remember your friend as she was in life and the happy times you spent together.

kittylester Sun 11-Feb-24 17:44:31

It doesn't bother me - I just thought it was odd. She did go in with them.

BlueBelle Sun 11-Feb-24 17:42:11

They may have gone at the same time but I don’t think they would have gone into the room together I think they normally let two at a time in
I wouldn’t let it bother you
I always prefer to remember people as they were I don’t like viewing bodies I didn’t go to see either of my much loved parents I had no choice with my son-in-law as it was in Ireland and he was there for everyone to see

Judy54 Sun 11-Feb-24 17:41:43

I have done so as a member of the family but never as a friend. I would say that this is something personal normally for close family members.

Germanshepherdsmum Sun 11-Feb-24 17:38:49

I don’t want anyone to view my body, but unless your friend left instructions to that effect - as I have - I suppose people outside the family can do so if the family are happy with it.

kittylester Sun 11-Feb-24 17:31:43

One of my oldest and dearest friends died a couple of weeks ago - her funeral is tomorrow.

We found out today that another of her friends and ex boss went to see her at the undertaker's with her son and daughter in law.

I have no problem with her going to see her ( I wasn't asked but I wouldn't want to) but I find it odd that she went with my friend's family - presumably she asked rather than being invited.

Or am I being unreasonable.