Cat Sitting Dilemma

For Pete!s sake! Pop it in the cat basket and take it back. I had three children under five and two cats. Absolutely fine.

When I was pregnant, I didn't change the cat litter, himself did it. But apart from that we had a baby and cats. I was twitchy a cat would sit on baby's face! So I made a kind of mosquito tent hanging from the ceiling, but as soon as he was big enough to raise his head, that went.

When I was pregnant, I didn't change the cat litter, himself did it.
Good point Chardy.

Screwfix sells boxes of disposable gloves.

Does anyone actually love this poor cat?

OP, your daughter needs to get her big girl pants on and take responsibility for the cat, which should obviously include regular flea and worm treatment on a regular basis. It doesn't need a vet appointment.
Managing a cat litter tray isn't rocket science, its basic hygiene and disposable gloves make it simple.
Also take a look at this advice from the Cats Protection website

www.cats.org.uk/help-and-advice/cats-and-your-family/cats-and-babies

And for heavens sake, if no one wants this poor animal, get it rehomed via one of the rescue agencies.

I think the whole lot of you need to grow up, particularly your daughter who has relinquished the responsibility for an innocent cat that nobody seems to want. The poor thing should be rehomed immediately with someone who will love and care for it, not hand it around like a parcel. You obviously have your own health concerns and should not have agreed to your daughters request in the first place, the reason for which sounds ludicrous to me but you have so I'm sorry to say that you must do what is right and I think you are well aware what this is. !!

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I admit, I actually detest cats but and would never cause harm to one and I agree with Gilly, this poor cat needs to be in a home where it is loved and cared for.
The OP is not being unreasonable in asking for it to be wormed, de-flead and tested etc, she is taking responsibility for her own welfare (as well as that of the cat) and it is so unfair of her DD to not step up to facilitate this.

This is awful. I'm feeling so sorry for this poor cat. Please let someone who actually likes cats to adopt it.

This is absolutely unreasonable!! Tell your DD you can not do it . It is clear she does not want the cat so persuade her to re-home it. This is not your responsibility and your DD is pushing her luck . If she can't get to a rehoming shelter are you in a position to do that on her behalf. Cats and babies can be together, it just needs some planning. If she is unwilling to sort this , then you have no option but to take the advice you have been given and pot the cat in its carrier and return it to your DD. Although this cat deserves so much more , poor thing.

Well as jane hasn’t come back in two days I guess she’s not interested in our comments

The cat's probably done what cats do, is now mewing pathetically at a door of a neighbouring house.

Every pet deserves to be loved, and clearly this poor little cat isn't loved by anyone. I feel so sorry for it and hope it really is "mewing at the door of a neighbouring house" as Callistemon says, and that someone will fall in love with it.

When did your daughter start being spoiled ?

FHS ... Put your Big Girl Pants on and say NO ....Its not your cat ...

as is said on Mumsnet, "No is a complete sentence"

Caleo

When did your daughter start being spoiled ?

hahahaha

"A cat is for life not just for christmas"

I wouldnt take the cat back to the daughter.. she clearly doesnt want it. That wouldnt be fair to the cat.
The poor thing needs to be re-homed to someone who does want it.
Where does it say you cant have a cat with a new baby.. I did. (After my second son was born, admittedly, the cat left home, never to be seen again!)
I feel that (some of) this generation are so entitled - I say this because I have three adult children of my own who have become entitled brats and think they are owed something.

www.rspca.org.uk/findapet/rehomeapet/process/rehomeacat

Poor cat- this sort of thing makes my blood boil. Charge her the same as a cattery would- no, just find the cat another home. Makes me seeth...

We always had a cat in our house.From before i was born, and i can never remember a time ŵhen we didnt have one.Also i had 7 children and always hada cat.Now all my AC have cat/cats.They mostly all have had a baby in the house and never had to palm it on to someone else!- i think she has realised its a lot of work.so palming it off on you or your son.Tell her to either get it rehomed or you will.

LisaP- "the cat left home" 😅

Germanshepherdsmum

Poor unwanted cat. I don’t understand why it can’t live at home. Obviously your grandson has no interest in it and I don’t think your daughter has either. It would be better off living with someone who actually wants it.

I hate calling the cat ‘it’ but you have given no indication of sex, simply called it ‘cat’..

Poor cat, nothing but an inconvenience to all concerned.

I agree GSM and it makes me angry and sad! No one should take on a pet of any nature if they’re not prepared to see it as a lifelong (life of pet) commitment. Poor cat!

I had a British Blue when son was born. All was fine. Fast forward 17 years, when I broke my ankle, son had to run our boarding cattery and loves cats 🐈‍⬛.
Think it’s your daughter’s responsibility and catteries are not cheap.

Since poster is not back, what are we to assume?
It is a genuine poster as gn have not withdrawn it?
Does gn itself do stories?

I would like to know for another time, so as to know how to respond or not.

Absolutely agree Germanshepherds mum- poor little cat - just a nuisance to everyone concerned. Please please find a loving home for him/her - or take him/her to the RSPCA or a cat rescue organisation asap.

My daughter had 2 cats when my grandchildren were born. One took little notice - more interested in doing cat things (sleeping mostly!) and the other was like a father hen - he would sit happily purring on the arm of the chair where the crib was and watch over the baby. No problems health or otherwise in 8 years!
It seems your grandson wants to have a pet but not look after it - his mum was quite wrong in allowing it, unless she was willing to take it on (as do most mums and dads with their children's pets!)
You need a solution and the cat really really needs and deserves a new loving home, but I can see that you don't want to upset your grandson, so, I wonder if you could resort to a little bribery? Say that you can see that GS loves the cat, but doesn't really have time to look after him/her right now, but maybe would do in the future, when he isn't so busy, so you will put some money into an account so he can get another cat when he is older and re-home this one to someone who has the time to love and look after him/her now.
A bit sneaky, but it might work?