Retirement is it what you thought it would be?

I'm very happily retired and really enjoy voluntary work. You could volunteer to be a helpline person or to make social phone calls to housebound people. There's quite a call for that.

No. I suppose probably because it was pretty much forced upon me, rather than a conscious decision, but I hate it. I seem to have lost so much confidence and 'get up and go'. Now almost every day just seems the same - and unfortunately my deteriorating health means that finding another job or volunteering role isn't really an option.

I love being retired, the freedom to do as I chose with no real or few deadlines.
Sometimes the pleasures are quite small ones, at other times the chance to do something on the ‘wish list’.

Yes.

The first grandchild didn’t arrive until I was 67 - quite a while ago now! - after I’d already been retired for a few years, so I was glad to have the time to help to some extent with childcare.

Dh retired at about the same time, so we really enjoyed being able to go away at very short notice - outside school holiday times! - if we felt like it.

I still enjoy being able to (largely) choose what I do, or don’t do,
and have certainly never felt bored. We still enjoy having the 3 Gdcs to stay for a few days during the school holidays. I don’t think I could cope with very tiny ones for long any more, but except for the fact that they’re all permanently ‘starving’, ours are all now delightfully ‘easy’.

yes, I love not having to get up early, unless I want to. we've been retired fo 20 years now, always had cleaning jobs part time since the children grew up.At the begining I used to feel guilty just getting up later in the mornings...but I soon grew out of that

Witzend, we were the same, I was 64 when our first GD arrived.
babysitting was a joy...

We love being able to take our time in the mornings now. Whenever DH says we should really get going and do something, I remind him that we’ve had years and years of having to get our three up, fed, dressed and delivered to the school bus a mile away, plus me to work etc etc. Now it’s often midday before we’re really starting on the jobs of the day. But hey, why not?

I was at a conference once where this was discussed. The general feeling was that one must decide to actively do things in order to be happy and to live longer. One suggestion was to look back to your earlier life hobbies and see if you wanted to take one or more of them up again. Another view was learn a language, or revise a foreign language that one once had a smattering or more of. You can also look for and join a local club, whether active (like walking together) or quiet (like a book group). If one has a transmittable skill then see if you can teach others, probably free via some local organisation or other. And finally, as I remember it, it is excellent to volunteer for something, like helping in your local library or charity shop.

Someone once pointed out that volunteering is so good for you one would think the government would make it compulsory...

Few if any felt that going back to paid work in your old job was a great idea, unless one desperately needed the money. Non-paid work usually involved new people and places and this was beneficial and a much better bet.

Me, when I retired I taught computing skills for free for an aged charity, and also relearned French and Chinese which I had done years earlier. In the end and after several years I gave up on all of these. Too old and tired to travel to teach the skills and I finally discovered that with the languages what I learned one day had kind of disappeared the day after, so I stopped the language stuff then. This was maybe two or three years later.

I also joined a book group which made me read a book a month that I otherwise would probably not have found and then enter into the somewhat boozy discussion session about it. I tried to take a walk each day which worked well but eventually it got down to one or two days a week, owing to health problems and my aversion to getting wet when it rained.

Hope that helps.