Cat Sitting Dilemma

Well as jane hasn’t come back in two days I guess she’s not interested in our comments

This is absolutely unreasonable!! Tell your DD you can not do it . It is clear she does not want the cat so persuade her to re-home it. This is not your responsibility and your DD is pushing her luck . If she can't get to a rehoming shelter are you in a position to do that on her behalf. Cats and babies can be together, it just needs some planning. If she is unwilling to sort this , then you have no option but to take the advice you have been given and pot the cat in its carrier and return it to your DD. Although this cat deserves so much more , poor thing.

This is awful. I'm feeling so sorry for this poor cat. Please let someone who actually likes cats to adopt it.

I admit, I actually detest cats but and would never cause harm to one and I agree with Gilly, this poor cat needs to be in a home where it is loved and cared for.
The OP is not being unreasonable in asking for it to be wormed, de-flead and tested etc, she is taking responsibility for her own welfare (as well as that of the cat) and it is so unfair of her DD to not step up to facilitate this.

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I think the whole lot of you need to grow up, particularly your daughter who has relinquished the responsibility for an innocent cat that nobody seems to want. The poor thing should be rehomed immediately with someone who will love and care for it, not hand it around like a parcel. You obviously have your own health concerns and should not have agreed to your daughters request in the first place, the reason for which sounds ludicrous to me but you have so I'm sorry to say that you must do what is right and I think you are well aware what this is. !!

Does anyone actually love this poor cat?

OP, your daughter needs to get her big girl pants on and take responsibility for the cat, which should obviously include regular flea and worm treatment on a regular basis. It doesn't need a vet appointment.
Managing a cat litter tray isn't rocket science, its basic hygiene and disposable gloves make it simple.
Also take a look at this advice from the Cats Protection website

www.cats.org.uk/help-and-advice/cats-and-your-family/cats-and-babies

And for heavens sake, if no one wants this poor animal, get it rehomed via one of the rescue agencies.

When I was pregnant, I didn't change the cat litter, himself did it.
Good point Chardy.

Screwfix sells boxes of disposable gloves.

When I was pregnant, I didn't change the cat litter, himself did it. But apart from that we had a baby and cats. I was twitchy a cat would sit on baby's face! So I made a kind of mosquito tent hanging from the ceiling, but as soon as he was big enough to raise his head, that went.

For Pete!s sake! Pop it in the cat basket and take it back. I had three children under five and two cats. Absolutely fine.

Will she try to offload her child as well when it becomes to much trouble
Possibly!

Gillycats

This cat needs rehoming. Nobody wants the poor thing. Get in touch with your local Cat Protection or cat rescue. This poor creature deserves better.

Yes, this.
As other posters have suggested too.

How did my DD and my DIL manage with a cat, a baby and one had two dogs as well.
They must be Superwomen!

Poor unloved cat. Breaks my heart when people take on pets and won’t care for and love them properly. Your DD should be ashamed of herself. She must try to rehome this kitty to someone who will care for and about it.

Will she try to offload her child as well when it becomes to much trouble.

The Archers - Hilda. Just saying

flappergirl

This seems to be the latest trend with young mothers. They cannot possibly have pets within half a mile of a newborn. I read a thread on mumsnet just the other day with women almost fainting at the very thought. One new mother even insisted that every visitor removed their shoes.

My newborn son came home to a small holding with goats, chickens, 2 dogs and 2 cats. It actually gets on my wick.

If your daughter does rehome the cat though OP, please ask her to do it responsibly through a registered shelter or charity. Please don't advertise it on Facebook to a good home. There are some nasty people out there.

Poor cat!
I had my younger daughter at home. The day she was born my lovely G P came to visit on her way home, she said (she wanted to coo over the baby) I
was in the bed with my new baby, her sister, and the two cat asleep at my feet. I apologise for the cats but she said it was fine, the baby and cats were going to live together so they should start early!

Hi Jane 52
It's a shame your DD has put you in this situation, insisting on you caring for her cat.
Sometimes we have to say NO to our AC and in this case I would have said a big fat NO.
You have health issues and I'm sure you don't need any of this stress.
You are being pressured by your family and you need to resist.
They won't like it at first but will have to accept it.
I would return the cat to your DD ASAP.
She can then decide how to deal with the poor cat.
Good luck.

Her cat, her problem. Your kindness in taking the cat doesn’t sound to be appreciated. Return cat asap.

Rehome the cat. It deserves someone who wants it and cares for it and that means getting it regularly checked by a vet, de-flead and wormed.

flappergirl

This seems to be the latest trend with young mothers. They cannot possibly have pets within half a mile of a newborn. I read a thread on mumsnet just the other day with women almost fainting at the very thought. One new mother even insisted that every visitor removed their shoes.

My newborn son came home to a small holding with goats, chickens, 2 dogs and 2 cats. It actually gets on my wick.

If your daughter does rehome the cat though OP, please ask her to do it responsibly through a registered shelter or charity. Please don't advertise it on Facebook to a good home. There are some nasty people out there.

Removing shoes is just good hygiene.

Removing loved furry family members is odd

This seems to be the latest trend with young mothers. They cannot possibly have pets within half a mile of a newborn. I read a thread on mumsnet just the other day with women almost fainting at the very thought. One new mother even insisted that every visitor removed their shoes.

My newborn son came home to a small holding with goats, chickens, 2 dogs and 2 cats. It actually gets on my wick.

If your daughter does rehome the cat though OP, please ask her to do it responsibly through a registered shelter or charity. Please don't advertise it on Facebook to a good home. There are some nasty people out there.

Why can’t your dd have the cat? It is her responsibility.

The poor cat.

I am convinced animals know when they are unwanted. The poor cat is probably very confused.

This cat needs rehoming. Nobody wants the poor thing. Get in touch with your local Cat Protection or cat rescue. This poor creature deserves better.

Poor cat, it would be kinder to rehome it with someone who actually wants a cat.

As everyone else has said Jane52 take the cat back to your daughter and explain your health precludes you from caring for it.

I totally agree.
I dare not say any more.