DH habits

eazybee
Actually it wasn’t a silly post ‘ as I started my op with
‘My DH like others of yours I imagine , has annoying habits ‘
Yet no one really mentions their DH annoying habits just focused on my apparent failings .

Because, Nana Tuesday, yours is such a silly post.

My DH is early to bed and gets up early morning too. I don't wake up naturally as I constantly get disturbed by toilet visits. I don't get up late I don't see the point if I'm awake.
We make arrangements for whatever I will call my DH only to find him sleeping. I feel as if I spend half the day waiting for him to shift. I will call to him when a meal is being served again I will find him asleep. It could start WW 3 but it's not worth an argument life is too short.

eazybee
ThankYou for the helpfulness in your response . I also have no idea why on numerous threads people indicate that things may be in your words eazybee a “wind up” or made up .

If you have been married long enough to know his habit of not being an early riser, why are you intent on spoiling his new retirement by trying to force him out of bed?

Perhaps he stays there to avoid you.

Or perhaps this is a wind-up.

BlueBelle

I have no idea ‘ why ‘ it bothers me . Maybe I feel that we could sit & chat in the mornings before we get on with our day . Obviously , not as soon as I wake as we have been married for long enough that I know his habit of not being n early riser .

🙏

Ahh NanaTuesday as the young would say ‘lighten up’
I m an early riser and often awake from 4am I don’t have a husband to worry about but if I stay anywhere I m aware I need to stay still and quiet until the rest of the house is on the move so I would read or play games on my iPad
If I was in your shoes I d get up and happily leave my husband asleep for as long as he wants, as long as we didn’t have anything planned for the day and I d just quietly goes on with what I wanted
He’s no right to be annoyed at your lark like activities and
you ve no right to be annoyed with his later sleeping habits
You re really way too hung up on this, why does it matter ??

Callistemon21

^But has been semi restored^
Oh, we all need a semi-restored, or better still fully restored, man!

Actually, mustn't grumble, he just vacuumed all through upstairs. And brings me a cup of tea every morning.

😁

There are for worse habits that your DH could HAVE.

NanaTuesday

Callistemon21

I see you need to criticise every single error . TIA , I’ll leave you to your critiquing .

Retired became restored , a typical typo nothing to make fun of .

It was funny, though, you have to admit!! 😂
My imagination was running riot.

I'll admit to making typos myself, but they're boring ones. 😁

petra Tue 02-Apr-24 12:36:38
You are joking, aren’t you 🤷‍♀️
petra Tue 02-Apr-24 12:40:39
You’re on a roll today, aren’t you. Is there anything/ anybody who makes you happy, probably not. 😩

I am perfectly happy , thank you . However like most people things sometimes irritate and my DH staying in bed is one . I will be taking on board the fact that it is my problem not his , as wholeheartedly pointed out in all these responses .

If Callistemon hadn’t commented on ‘restored’ I would have done. No malice there - it was amusing.

Callistemon21

I see you need to criticise every single error . TIA , I’ll leave you to your critiquing .

Retired became restored , a typical typo nothing to make fun of .

But has been semi restored
Oh, we all need a semi-restored, or better still fully restored, man!

Actually, mustn't grumble, he just vacuumed all through upstairs. And brings me a cup of tea every morning.

I wish I could sleep in longer like your husband. I usually wake too early and can’t get back to sleep, so I envy those who can. But each to their own. Let him sleep.

You’re on a roll today, aren’t you. Is there anything/ anybody who makes you happy, probably not. 😩

You are joking, aren’t you 🤷‍♀️

Dogmum2
TBH he has recently as in last week retired . But has been semi restored for 6/7 years .
As far as I am concerned you are a long time dead .

Stansgran
I’ll happily take your 😹 It made me smile & as a rule of thumb , that is exactly what my getting up earlier consists of .
I get up , not always between those exact times either but that is the earliest I’ll wake as a rule of thumb ,
I’ll empty dishwasher , have general tidy put washing in machine . Then I’ll make Coffee, take it up stairs . Where I’ll either go back with mine & do as you& others have said read, catch up on messages do some messages in bed together watch breakfast TV in winter especially “ Morning Live “ is a good watch or I just get up & get on with my day .

DH will still be snoring away & no matter what the time is it’ always say 10 more minutes .
Maybe I need another job .

Jaxjacky Tu

Yes, Jaxjacky Tu, I have & if you remember that you’ll also remember that it was the same thing & despite what every other gransnetter say’s it is highly annoying …!!!!
He doesn’t keep late nights in fact he is the one to say “ it’s late’

Spot on grandtanteJE65 my husband is a late riser but will get up earlier if we are going out. I take the dogs out early then have an hour with breakfast and catching up with messages etc. He takes the dogs out in the afternoon and last thing at night.
I enjoy the time on my own before starting on the daily round. We are both happy with the status quo.

Unless your husband has a specific job to do that means he has to get up early, then he should be free to get up when he pleases now that he is retired.

You may be a 'couple' but each of us is an individual in our own right, and I don't believe you should be dictating his activity level or what time he starts his day.

Why do so many early risers feel the need to convert other members of their households to their view?

It is not more virtuous to get up early or to go to bed early for that matter.

It happens to suit you - fine.

It does not happen to suit your husband - fine.

I wake up between 7 and 8 but get up much later, when I’ve watched the news and wasted time messed about for a bit on Gransnet. I get up early if I need to, but I enjoy relaxing in bed, drinking coffee and reading, or having a conversation with my daughter in NZ, because it’s her evening in our morning.
Mr M is an early riser, normally up by 6.30 to 7. That’s his affair, so long as he doesn’t expect me to join him. So leave your husband in bed and get on with whatever you feel like doing.