DH habits

Another night owl here Yup, i am that annoying person at midnight, happily bouncing around.

My other half is a lark, 'coffee's ready' he will call at the weekends....if i don't appear he has learnt to leave me alone Similarly i do not gripe when he is ready for bed at 11pm.

At weekends, if i don't appear, my other half takes the dog, has breakfast and generally potters, leaving me to have a leisurely shower etc.

So, yes, i think you are being unreasonable. He's retired and his body clock will adjust to it's normal (for him) rhythm. Unless of course he is sleeping loads, fatigued etc in which case a GP visit would be on the cards.

Callistemon21

Ps I'm bright and annoyingly breezy at 11pm!

Me too.
And at 1 or 2 am!

This is making me laugh. I get up 6.45 and make the tea and a coffee for DH which he later reheats in the microwave. I put washing on ,take pills and unpack the top layer of the dishwasher( bad back). Alarm goes at 7.30 by which time I’m back in bed with the newspaper online in the spare room. DH turns off alarm and goes back to sleep. This morning I really couldn’t wake up and I’m struggling with the time change. We alternate owlness and larkness

He is an adult and can do as he likes, leave the man alone.

If it annoys you then go out or sleep in another room.

Our clocks are reasonably well matched, although I tend to go to bed first while DH catches up with overseas news or whatever. We have a relaxing start most days, breakfast an wordle and I relish it after years of commuting/getting children rounded up for school. Having run my own small business for a few years, I still celebrate the lack of texts from staff saying they are ill/car won't start etc., all necessitating me having to reschedule the working day. I love my mornings, just pottering.

I'm feeling really sorry for your DH who just wants to relax.

After years of having to get up early it's so nice to have a gentle start to the day.

Ps I'm bright and annoyingly breezy at 11pm!

Poppyred

Sorry, but I sympathise with him. You sound like an early bird and I find them very annoying!

DH gets up early and brings me a cuppa at about 8.00 am. I might get up then or might not.

After years of getting up at 6.30am , putting together packed lunches, feeding and getting children off to school, getting ready for work on autopilot then dashing out of the door it's great to know that I don't have to do that daily.

I'm like Snoopy.

You’ve posted about your husband irritating you before NanaTuesday on holiday, so now he’s retired, he’s around more.
As others have suggested, take yourself out in the morning if it really irritates you so much.
Or just accept, after all this time, you’re different and let him get on with it.

I'm not a morning person. I tend to come to life around 11am unless I have to keep an appointment, although I do try to make them at a later hour! So my sympathy is with the OP's husband. I hope they can enjoy the rest of the day together.

I’m definitely #teamhusband. I spent 60+ years adapting to a morning world, and it’s sheer joy not to have to do so any longer. I’ve no idea what my husband does for the two/three/four hours he’s awake before me, and no desire to find out.

Although retired for several years, my DH is still in the habit of early to bed, early to rise. I am the opposite, a real night owl and late riser. My DH enjoys his early morning time to himself and likewise I love my time catching up on TV, reading etc after he’s gone to bed. It works perfectly for us.

I so envy your DH. He sounds so relaxed.
I wish I could sleep like that LHA

Jackiest

Just leave him in bed and do whatever you want to do. Housework, shopping or meetup with friends for coffee. Maybe avoid hoovering the bedroom though.

Well said. That's what I would do.

Yes YABU.

I sympathise (sort of). My DH won’t get out of bed until after 9, sits and reads the news, does wordle, texts friends and then at 10.30 goes up for a wash and shave. Our morning doesn’t start until 11 at the earliest, even when we are going out or he’s going to the allotment. I go out early on 2 days to avoid this frustration and am considering other morning activities so that I don’t constantly feel that time is being wasted. Maybe think about doing the same NanaTuesday?

I really sympathise with your husband. He's spent his working life getting up early and now that he can luxuriate and reflect quietly in bed you are ruining it for him.. Let him do what he wants to do.. it's his choice..his life You are being very selfish

I'm an owl, and I like to wake up naturally when my body is ready. DH is an owl too, but he's also a lark! He goes to bed very late, but he still wakes up very early, even at the weekends, or when on holiday! The annoying thing is that he can't understand why I can't wake up early too, full of the joys of spring! I've been like this since I was a teenager, so I'm not going to change now! I only hope that, when he retires, and he no longer has to get up early for work, his body clock will eventually change to be more in sync with mine!

I am another owl.
I think you are probably quite annoying!

My husband regularly brings me tea in bed and I always say "thank you" because it comes from a place of love.... but honestly, if he didn't I think I'd prefer it. I've suggested (strongly) several times that I'll have tea later but ge continues to say "it's no trouble".

I love him and he loves me. I'm lucky to have him. Please try to get over your annoyance.

I told my daughter.
My mum used to call about 9am on a Saturday without fail she’d say “oh good your up” I worked Friday night shift for over 10 years and finished at 8 am

My mum’s mantra was “ I’m up your up”!
She was always having a go at my daughter, I told her “no one has moral superiority over you just because they got up earlier”

I’m agree with GSM. I love not having to get up early, and would resent someone chivvying me to get up ‘just because’. There is nothing special about early mornings. It is not morally superior to do things first thing. So long as your husband does what he needs to do while he is up, why does it matter when he does it?

I don’t think that office hours are good for a lot of people. Some of us are very in the morning and get much more alert and productive as the day goes on. In our day, working usually meant being present in the workplace when required. After a lifetime of fitting into that, why not do what comes naturally when we can?

I agree. He deserves to get up when he chooses now. All my working life I got up first at 6.45 and made a cup of tea for everybody which i took to their rooms. Kids got ready and off to school, husband came down about 7.30-8.

When I retired I decided to get up when I wanted to. I now get MY tea in bed and it’s lovely!

I'm the owl and Mr Louella is a lark. I go to bed at 2 or 3. He goes at 11.

No problems here. As Susan56 says I'd not be happy either, to change my sleeping habits to suit him!

I am a lark and my husband is an owl.I wouldn’t like him telling me I had to stay up really late so am not going to tell him to get up early!

I quite enjoy the slow and quiet start to the day doing my own thing.