Am I being too fussy

I don't ask anyone to remove their shoes but I do appreciate it when they do.
When you consider all the muck our shoes pick up, taking off your shoes at the door is the right thing to do.

Maybe as I have always lived in the countryside rather than a town that makes a difference. I think also as small children are often in my home crawling and playing on the floor and will pick up bits to put in their mouths it seemed sensible for guests to remove outdoor shoes so as not to tread things in. DH and I always wear slippers and regular visitors who know us always bring their slippers. I just seen to have got more fussy with the occasional caller who treads in small stones, mud etc with all this rain we have had🤷‍♀️

I think that is what doormats were invented for so people could wipe their feet before entering your home. I never ask anyone to remove their shoes but I have found that the workman I have dealt with are considerate especially when they are outside doing digging work. My Virgin Media engineers always cover their shoes with plastic covers.

Most tradespeople carry the blue shoe covers and I like this as it’s respectful as many of them wear big heavy ‘dirty’ boots… not a class thing at all .. am very working class😊

I think if your concerned, offer shoe protectors, some people can’t bend to take off shoes. My friends remove theirs as I do when visiting but I personally wouldn't ask, would if it were a builder say with mucky boots or something. Only a few minutes to vac but if you’ve a door mat the shoes should be clean enough.

Grammaretto

Can you provide slippers? Or shoe protectors
Some people find it hard to physically remove lace up shoes or boots.
An alternative would to only invite him into a part of the house without carpets.

This- l think it’s not only polite, but prevents all sorts of germs , particularly if you have young children, Grandchildren. I would provide shoe covers x

I always take my shoes off when visiting.
I don't think it's wrong to ask people to do this and the friend that makes you ask is a game player he probably thinks it gun

Fun lol not gun

I wear clogs when I go to people's houses, so I can remove them without problems. Also, to this guy who you have to remind 'each time' please tell him, the next time you do, that by now you ought to know this...... and his reaction will tell you whether he is doing it on purpose... which I think he is.

I don’t blame you
Many people prefer this
I don’t expect it I would prefer people to protect their feet as I have hard floors and four dogs
But I would not want anyone going upstairs with their shoes on

I tend to walk barefoot so putting my shoes on would be cleaner Yes even in the winter although I don't go into town barefoot in the winter

It's really up to each of us, but if you think about how much dirt/pathogens we bring in off our shoes from outside, then it makes sense to take shoes off in our homes. Who wants that on their carpets? We take our own shoes off, wear slippers indoors and I provide slippers for guests plus we clean our carpets fairly regularly.

It's your home and your rules. You don't want dirty/muddy shoes mucking up your lovely carpets and floors.

Hubby and I always ask at the door if our hosts want us to take our shoes off or not, and we're more than happy to do it if they want.

Nope not too fussy at all. We have carpet in two of three rooms downstairs and have had mud trodden through into them. Now I ask if they could remove their shoes(or they do it anyway) otherwise we sit in the room with wooden floors.
We are shortly to have a not cheap hall carpet fitted. I don’t want mud walked through it! (Even if they do wipe their feet).
Interestingly I worked from home for years, admitting clients into the house and 90% offered to remove their shoes without me even mentioning it!

Shoes off in my house
My house my rules !

It's your home so your rules, do what makes you feel comfortable.
I never ask anyone to remove their shoes simply because l have hard floors, rugs downstairs plus a rather large dog.
Tradesmen are usually pretty good though and wipe their feet.

I think so. I live in London and neither ask people to take off shoes or do so myself in other people's houses.

I hate unshod feet on my floors. Fungal toenails, athletes foot, plantar warts, stinky feet. I’ve always wondered why people think bare feet are more hygienic. I’d ask people to use the doormat, as we used to, years ago.

When visiting German friends, in the UK or in Germany, I know that it's their custom to remove shoes.
But I don't do it gladly; I don't like having cold feet, I don't like my outfit being unbalanced by the lack of shoes, I actually feel infantilised without my shoes on.
I don't expect people coming into my house to take their shoes off, nor would I expect to be asked to remove shoes in most houses.
On the other hand, if it's muddy, they would of course remove boots/shoes, as I would when entering another's house.

PS Bare feet in a house where there are dogs? No thank you.

Granny Ivy I think you’ve got a serious problem

Your home, but it's a bit much, provide shoe protectors. Just as well you didn't live in my home, the boys would go fishing in the estuary, and come home filthy and stinking but it didn't bother me, it is a home, not a house, it's what makes the world go round.

It’s your home so it’s your rules I don’t have a problem taking my shoes off I respect other people’s wishes

So many people don't even wipe their feet on the mat! I now don't have any carpets. Laminate is easy to clean and doesn't look dirty unless there's been a huge amount of dirt brought in.

I wouldn't have room, but I think having a set of slippers for guests is a really nice idea. Our carers used to remove their shoes but now they have rubber "brothel creepers" where the rubber come off on the bathroom tiles, giving me extra work, what with damp towels left on the bed and things like that.

I wouldn’t fancy being handed slippers that others had worn.