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AIBU about meeting halfway?

(113 Posts)
Cossy Wed 08-May-24 11:12:29

I think it’s a sensible arrangement, but if it upsets you or you think it’s unreasonable then tell her. You’re doing them the favour.

Is it because you don’t like driving, or the route, or some other reason)

Theexwife Wed 08-May-24 11:11:25

It makes sense for you both to drive 3 hrs rather than one to have to drive 6 hrs.

It is unreasonable of you to agree to do it then complain about it, if you dont want to do it then then dont.

Jewelle Wed 08-May-24 11:02:18

No definitely not being unreasonable to meet halfway! Very cheeky of her to ask, as you’re doing her the favour having the GS.

MissAdventure Wed 08-May-24 10:53:29

Yeah, better for her parents to have a 6 hour one.

fancythat Wed 08-May-24 10:50:14

I think it is ok for her to ask.

Maybe 1 hour away from you and two, from her would be acceptable?

Even then though, she does have a 4 hour round trip.

denbylover Wed 08-May-24 10:39:40

Isn’t this what family’s do, work in and help each other out. I think you are being unreasonable.

Grammaretto Wed 08-May-24 10:22:28

Who is doing who a favour?
I don't think YABU at all.

I guess it would be different if you or DH had suggested it but they are jetting off and want you to drive half way with all the stress that that entails.

cornergran Wed 08-May-24 10:20:46

I’d be happy to do it to help them and look forward to time with a grandson. We’ve done similar things many times. I’m wondering though how the relationship is generally. Is that a factor in feeling disgruntled? Hope you can get over feeling it’s cheeky and enjoy the weekend.

MissAdventure Wed 08-May-24 10:17:15

No, I don't believe its unreasonable of you

eazybee Wed 08-May-24 10:17:03

Yes it is cheeky. And the same arrangements when they return, presumably?

Germanshepherdsmum Wed 08-May-24 10:16:06

It saves her driving for six hours when presumably she is busy trying to prepare for going on holiday. Yes, I do think YABU.

Calipso Wed 08-May-24 10:15:09

Yes, YABU

KatyaStrings Wed 08-May-24 10:12:59

My stepdaughter lives 3 hours away and we are looking after GS while she and hubby go to Spain for a long weekend.

AIBU to think it's a bit cheeky of her to ask us to pick GS up from a halfway point rather than bringing him all the way here the day before they jet off? I realise it's the sort of thing co-parents do all the time, but this is a bit different, surely?