AIBU about meeting halfway?

Yes, YABU

It saves her driving for six hours when presumably she is busy trying to prepare for going on holiday. Yes, I do think YABU.

Yes it is cheeky. And the same arrangements when they return, presumably?

No, I don't believe its unreasonable of you

I’d be happy to do it to help them and look forward to time with a grandson. We’ve done similar things many times. I’m wondering though how the relationship is generally. Is that a factor in feeling disgruntled? Hope you can get over feeling it’s cheeky and enjoy the weekend.

Who is doing who a favour?
I don't think YABU at all.

I guess it would be different if you or DH had suggested it but they are jetting off and want you to drive half way with all the stress that that entails.

Isn’t this what family’s do, work in and help each other out. I think you are being unreasonable.

I think it is ok for her to ask.

Maybe 1 hour away from you and two, from her would be acceptable?

Even then though, she does have a 4 hour round trip.

Yeah, better for her parents to have a 6 hour one.

No definitely not being unreasonable to meet halfway! Very cheeky of her to ask, as you’re doing her the favour having the GS.

It makes sense for you both to drive 3 hrs rather than one to have to drive 6 hrs.

It is unreasonable of you to agree to do it then complain about it, if you dont want to do it then then dont.

I think it’s a sensible arrangement, but if it upsets you or you think it’s unreasonable then tell her. You’re doing them the favour.

Is it because you don’t like driving, or the route, or some other reason)

YABU - unless the cost of fuel is a problem for you.

Yes I think YABU I have done this many times what stress is involved for you to drive half way they are only going for a few days

I sense some family friction here …

Step daughter lives three hours away from you and has asked. for you to look after GS during a holiday - I don't think it unreasonable of her to ask to meet at a half way point to collect the child. I used to do this all the time when our dad stayed with family. Helping one another is what families do isn't it?
Their journey would be around 7 hours otherwise - that's a full day taken up travelling.

Oh my, the jury is definitely out on this one! No wonder I was feeling conflicted.

A couple of commenters wondered whether there are other issues playing into this. GS is 4 and looked after a lot by people other than his parents - after school club, childminders, work colleagues, and his other grandparents. He is becoming quite a withdrawn and anxious little boy. I am quite worried about him. So I have a tendency to bridle when there is yet another instance of his parents possibly swerving their responsibilities. Well spotted!

I can’t believe I’ve been so judgmental - it’s unlike me, but I’ve done the same sort of thing, from Durham to Sheffield, going much further than half way, just to collect DD2’s dog on a regular basis!! I like driving and it saved DD2 a drive - it’s just what you do?
There does seem to be an underlying current GSM but I hope katy has a good week with her DGS, irrespective of this issue.

We do this all the time when we have our granddaughter to stay although in our case it is a 6 hour drive each way. We meet half way for the handover. Still if you object then say so to her rather than letting it spoil the weekend with your grandson. Do his parents usually bring him to your house when you have him to stay? Perhaps there is a reason for the change this time.

I live a 3 hour drive from my son and family. I think the half way meet up is ideal in this situation. I wouldn’t dream of wanting them to do a 6 hour round trip the day before going on holiday to save me a 3 hour trip.

I think as a one off it looks like YABU but clearly there are tensions around this that I do hope can be addressed so all the best.

Germanshepherdsmum

I sense some family friction here …

Exactly what I was thinking.

Is the other part of "we" your stepdaughter's father? What does he think? Do you both need to go and collect GS?

Wyllow3

I think as a one off it looks like YABU but clearly there are tensions around this that I do hope can be addressed so all the best.

I agree.
Tho whatever happens means the poor kid has a six hour drive in one day.

I don’t see the problem . I do this with my mum when she visits my sister who’s a 3 hour drive away . We find a petrol station with a coffee shop at a halfway point and do a hand over .