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OldHag Sun 12-May-24 13:47:07

AIBU to think that as we age we get bored with clothes etc., due to having seen it all before? I'm currently looking for a dress to wear as a guest at a wedding in August. Granted I'm a bit of a chubster, so choices are more limited, but I have yet to see anything that I've thought, 'oh wow, that's lovely'. Everything seems to be drab, or frumpy in my opinion, but is it just me? Is it because over the years I've seen so many styles and fashions come and go, in all the colours of the rainbow, and have just become bored with them? Or is it because I'm fat, and clothes just don't look as good on me as they used to? If anyone knows of any websites that sell NICE, brightly coloured dresses, for plus sizes, other than the normal ones, like 'Yours', 'Simply Be', 'Evans', etc. which I've already perused to death, then please let me know. I'm looking for a size 20/22 if that helps.

DevonshireSalop Mon 13-May-24 15:27:05

Hi, I’ve just taken a quick look on Vinted for you. Plenty of “wedding dresses” in all styles and colours in those sizes on there. Worth a look and you can save a fortune. You can filter sizes, colours, brands, cost etc easily too for good browse. Good luck 🤞🏻

nahsma Mon 13-May-24 14:54:58

pascal30

Gudrun Sjoden is good for colours and larger sizes

Couldn’t agree more - not the cheapest but good fabrics and nice designs. And you are very unlikely to meet someone wearing the same as you!

Rabbitgran Mon 13-May-24 14:53:47

I have promised myself that I will buy a Gudrun Sjoden outfit for the next wedding I attend. I won't do the whole layering thing but the clothes are so colourful and pretty and so good for matching up. I think the clothes look good on older women and any size and are a bit different.

Airdrieonian Mon 13-May-24 14:17:14

John Lewis do a couple of good ranges. I think it's Live Curve they go up to a 26. So do M&S, La Redoute. Quite a few companies. Good luck in your quest

growstuff Mon 13-May-24 14:08:01

I bought my Mother of the Bride dress from Whistles. I know they go up to size 20, but I don't know how generous their sizing is.

I buy loads of dresses and skirts second hand from eBay or charity shops. I never pay more than £20 (absolute max) and sell them on when I want a change. I always buy well-known brands such as Seasalt, White Stuff, Boden, Whistles, etc because there is some guarantee about sizing and quality.

AreWeThereYet Mon 13-May-24 14:05:28

NotSpaghetti

If you want colour...

My daughter who is your size wore one of these dresses to her brother's wedding and looked fantastic.

Doesn't have to be a dress, you could choose a top and wear with trousers as others have said...

www.heritageclothings.com/collections/all-items?filter.v.availability=1&page=3

I love some of those. Not for every day wear maybe but for special occasions. Thank you for putting up the link.

ruthiek Mon 13-May-24 14:05:00

Have you looked at Jd williams online they have some lovely dresses up to 22 and they often come up large

Step4gran Mon 13-May-24 14:01:32

Try Scarlett & Jo

Daisydaisydaisy Mon 13-May-24 13:58:29

Oops should say Ladies of various sizes and body shapes 🙂

Daisydaisydaisy Mon 13-May-24 13:56:58

Hi there
I’m far from an expert but I do love the advice of choosing 3 words …So Mine would be Feminine,Vibrant ,Boho so You would try to incorporate those words in Your outfit although I don’t always wear Maxi dresses for example but I do have quite a few Summer ones 🙂

Take a look at Merissa Murrell (Think I’m spelling it correctly)Her motto is fashion for the every day woman so ladies isn’t various shapes and sizes .

I do have a fun style Instagram channel …I’m almost59 and generally a size 12🙂

jenpax Mon 13-May-24 13:54:41

Jaffacake2

Scarlett and Jo online have some beautiful dresses made for larger ladies. A couple of years ago I bought a lovely long dress for my daughters wedding. It has a very clever banding under the bust then floats out hiding bumps and tum. Reasonably priced too about £80

Reasonably priced 😂

Tenko Mon 13-May-24 13:37:54

Hi OP , some of my friends order clothes from a company called yours clothing . And get some really lovely dresses . Personally I prefer dresses over trousers and skirts . Less faff and no worrying about what to wear on top.
I’m 64 and still love clothes , fashion and shopping. Currently embracing wide leg jeans .

Romola Mon 13-May-24 13:26:58

Grannygravy is right. Go to Sahara.

rocketship Mon 13-May-24 13:19:15

kittylester

Er, what is a dress?

Smart trousers, special top and a fabulous handbag would be what I would go for.

I'm with you on this kittylester!!

Last year I was the flower Gram at my g'daughter's wedding and wore a lovely flowing pantsuit.

Ali08 Mon 13-May-24 13:15:35

Peacocks usually have some lovely summery dresses etc, and they're not expensive.
Shein, online shopping, I'm the same size as you and I find their clothes to be quite a good fit and comfortable, too.
Yes, I know what people say about Shein, but if we all stopped buying from them their employees would be in a much worse situation!!

Llamedos13 Mon 13-May-24 13:14:33

Charity shops are always worth a look.

cc Mon 13-May-24 13:06:03

icanhandthemback

The clothes John Lewis chose for me didn’t suit at all but they were very patient when I told them what I thought looked better on me and they brought along a whole new set of outfits.

I think that this service is worth using, I did it once and found some clothes that I would never have picked out on my own. Also their fashion floor is laid out in such a way that it would take ages to find what you want anyway.

Dempie55 Mon 13-May-24 13:04:06

I’d suggest Seasalt on Roman Originals, too. Sea salt dresses are well cut for chubsters and look nice with a cardigan. Roman have a huge choice, but a lot more polyester stuff. Both do speedy delivery and it’s easy to return.

icanhandthemback Mon 13-May-24 12:44:41

The clothes John Lewis chose for me didn’t suit at all but they were very patient when I told them what I thought looked better on me and they brought along a whole new set of outfits.

Kim19 Mon 13-May-24 12:41:53

I'm still on my stop buying clothes waggon and simply pick out my favourite feel good outfit for weddings and all other celebrations. Works well for me.

Harris27 Mon 13-May-24 12:34:18

I like box2 try it online some of their stuff is quite long but you can get nice trousers and tops and dress them up?

Lyndie Mon 13-May-24 12:33:43

Monsoon. Large sizes . Very colourful x

petra Mon 13-May-24 12:08:49

I wonder if OldHag has read the replies that posters have taken the time to give advice Re her dilemma 🤷‍♀️

campbellwise Mon 13-May-24 12:02:45

Try Klass.

cc Mon 13-May-24 11:56:30

I'm a little bit smaller than Old Hag but always go to www.coastfashion.com for flattering dresses for special occasions.
On their website you can search on "occasion" "size" "sleeve length" etc and I've always been able to find something. They go from size 4 up to sizes much larger than 20-22 and I've always found that their sizes are properly proportioned, not just sacks.
I'm not sure if they still have their own shops, but they do have sections in department stores and have always been very helpful.