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OldHag Sun 12-May-24 13:47:07

AIBU to think that as we age we get bored with clothes etc., due to having seen it all before? I'm currently looking for a dress to wear as a guest at a wedding in August. Granted I'm a bit of a chubster, so choices are more limited, but I have yet to see anything that I've thought, 'oh wow, that's lovely'. Everything seems to be drab, or frumpy in my opinion, but is it just me? Is it because over the years I've seen so many styles and fashions come and go, in all the colours of the rainbow, and have just become bored with them? Or is it because I'm fat, and clothes just don't look as good on me as they used to? If anyone knows of any websites that sell NICE, brightly coloured dresses, for plus sizes, other than the normal ones, like 'Yours', 'Simply Be', 'Evans', etc. which I've already perused to death, then please let me know. I'm looking for a size 20/22 if that helps.

Lydie45 Sun 26-May-24 17:16:47

I D Williams have a good range of dresses, all sizes, also Bonmarche have just introduced a range of ‘occasion’ dresses. If you are not the mother of the bride or groom a nice ‘day’ dress and jacket will be fine.

M0nica Mon 20-May-24 17:39:37

Allsorts i think Jennie Murray wore black all the time because she thought it hid her size.

I have a lot of larger people say that, and I have never understood it because dressing all in black makes you stand out, coloured scarf or no coloured scarf. much better to dress in different colours or mix of colours for different coours so that you break your size up.

Allsorts Mon 20-May-24 13:00:44

Jennie Murray only had black clothing but different scarves, that would send me into a downward spiral. I love clothes, good cut less not more, but I love colour and what you wear expresses your personality.

123kitty Sun 19-May-24 16:23:54

I agree with GrannyG13. At 75 I still adore clothes and accessory shopping.

Sallywally1 Thu 16-May-24 07:56:47

I still love clothes especially since losing weight and discovering eBay

I recently bought a nice dress (jersey) from Roman. It can be difficult at the moment. Dresses have no sleeves, tiers which I hate or the material is horrible. I will only wear cotton. Next go to bigger sizes. Good luck!

Witzend Wed 15-May-24 13:29:03

I don’t pay much attention to current fashions at all - TBH I find some of them - especially some more recent trouser styles - ugly and very unflattering. I generally stick to smart - or a bit smarter - casual - assorted trousers/jeggings and jumpers/tops.

Dressed-up do’s are thankfully very rare, but I do have a couple of things that will ‘pass’. For DD’s high summer wedding I wore a very simple linen dress, but it was a very informal do, and mostly out of doors.

nana5852 Wed 15-May-24 10:51:37

I'm rather porky myself but get clothes that put a smile on my face from Gudrun Sjoden. - a bit Boho says my daughter. Well made, environmentally friendly and will last at least 10 years. Lovely colours and very comfy. 5' 8" size 18 and 72. The designer is short, fat. And looks my age. Happy hunting!

oodles Tue 14-May-24 17:12:22

I'd also suggest Scarlet and Jo, and there is a Facebook group selling secondhand ones, often people buy them for a wedding and then feel they can't wear them again as it's in all the pictures

Primrose53 Tue 14-May-24 16:22:15

pascal30

Gudrun Sjoden is good for colours and larger sizes

I have loads of her clothes and they also wash and wear really well. I have had people stop me in the street and ask where they are from so I guess I look OK.

OldHag Tue 14-May-24 12:19:09

WOW! I can't believe how many responses I've received to my post, so a HUGE thank you to everyone for their input.

I've only got to the bottom of page 2 so far, but have now had my eyes opened to several shops that I'd never even heard of, despite constant Google searches. I feel sure that with your help ladies, that I will find something suitable for the wedding, and possibly some new places to shop for other things too. Please keep ideas coming though.

Oh, and a big thank you to 'Cossy' for the link to 'Sumissara', I had no idea that you could actually get clothes made to measure without paying a king's ransom these days.

Also thank you to 'Macadia' for the link to 'JJ's House', I've already seen a dress that I like the style of on their website, and the choice of colours is AMAZING!!

I think with the help I've received here from you lovely ladies, that you may have just restored my interest in clothes!

Grams2five Tue 14-May-24 05:31:41

You’re not alone but I expect my own issues come from being very short and also far to far for my liking these days. Leaves very few options

BarMar Mon 13-May-24 22:58:09

Scarlett & Jo dresses are gorgeous.

valdavi Mon 13-May-24 22:43:05

I had a moment of fellow feeling when I read the post, but on reflection I'm not bored with clothes - just with MY clothes.

Sarahr Mon 13-May-24 22:16:34

My first thought is, do you have a nice outfit in the wardrobe you can wear? Perhaps you can add a new jacket or cardi to jazz up a dress.
You don't have to always have to buy a new dress for a wedding. Have you got a "new to you" shop nearby? I found a fabulous outfit for a wedding in one fairly near to us. It was a £750 designer label but cost me £80. The hat was £20 (cost the previous owner £200).
Otherwise, maybe there is a dressmaker nearby who can advise on styles and fabrics and make you an outfit. Have a lovely time at the wedding.

El73 Mon 13-May-24 22:12:03

If you look on the Yours website and find the London range, they usually have some nice dressed.

RosesAreRed21 Mon 13-May-24 21:46:20

Have a look on line at ROMAN they have some lovely stuff and good quality and if you sign up you get (I think) 20% off your first order they go up in sizes too

petra Mon 13-May-24 18:23:54

Still no reply’s from OldHag
Obviously not that much of a problem.

Jannipans Mon 13-May-24 17:49:36

Try Gina Bacconi - Just looked at their website - They have a sale on at the moment - Happy shopping!

Emelie321 Mon 13-May-24 17:00:00

Agree with semperfidelis.Had to attend dressy event recently,but have been ill so no chance or inclination to go shopping beforehand. Dug out best black linen trousers, from back of wardrobe,put with trendy long sleeved top (£4.99 from charity shop,nice colours, skims over all the lumpy bits) then found matching silky wrap I bought for less than £20 from TKMaxx last year ( ditto re skimming success)
Received several compliments on outfit, too.You don't need to spend a fortune to look and feel good ..

Paperbackwriter Mon 13-May-24 16:10:39

GrannyGravy13

Have a look at Sahara.co.uk lots of linen and cotton styles.

I agree re Sahara. Expensive, but they're 'keepers'. For something a bit cheaper, try Apache.

semperfidelis Mon 13-May-24 15:59:21

I love clothes, and I always have! I think they are part of my identity, even if they don't look as good as they would on a younger person. If I'm in bright colours and matching scarves I feel good about myself, no matter what anyone else thinks. Some very classy clothes and accessories can be found in my local charity shop. I think I'd look in those before buying new for a wedding.

twiglet77 Mon 13-May-24 15:58:06

If you’re willing to wear a preloved dress then Oxfam have excellent wedding and designer clothes, or Vinted and eBay will have lots of choice.

twiglet77 Mon 13-May-24 15:56:11

John Lewis? They have lovely dresses appearing on my Facebook feed lately, Phase Eight, Monsoon, Whistles…

chrissie13 Mon 13-May-24 15:34:03

No, certainly not bored with clothes, I have far too many, but I don't spend a lot on them, go mainly for sales, charity shops and Ebay.

graykat Mon 13-May-24 15:31:30

Gina Bacconi