Daughter abroad doesn’t want us to move too far from airport

She could get a flight to Schipol Airport and then a short flight to Norwich. A lot of international students at the University of East Anglia found that was an easier journey than flying into Heathrow or Gatwick

Let me get this right: Your daughter moved all the way to the US (literally many hours and many miles) but doesn't want you to move a couple of hours away from the airport? It's a no brainer. It was her choice to move away from you. Now it's up to you to make your own choice about where you want to live. If your daughter can move miles and miles away from you, she can manage that extra couple of hours when she visits you, in my opinion.

Of course I agree with all the advice already given - move to live where you want to be. You could say to your daughter that this is going to give you a better life and calmly ask her to see it from your point of view. You do see her wish to be able to reach you more easily when she visits, but your overall life and wellbeing outbalance the impact on her, and you hope she can see it in this light. But whether or not she can - move to where you want to be. No need for a battle - this is your choice.

Are you moving from the house she grew up in? If so it may be more about finding difficulty in the thought of you giving up the family home. I think many adult children find it sad.....but don't try and stop their parents moving.
If not then yes she is just being unreasonable.

So she wants you to live within earshot of noise, and possibly on flightpaths of aeroplanes, and she is begrudging you your serenity in your pension years, just so she can make her journey to see you, a couple of hours shorter? What a brass neck.

I would definitely move to Norfolk!! Think of yourselves. You have a life and your daughter has made her life too!!! Selfish girl!!!

Your daughter is being very unreasonable & selfish! It’s now your time to do what is right for you. My DD & eldest GS flew from Sydney, far longer journey than from the US, to Heathrow recently to stay with me post op. I organised a taxi to bring them to Devon (very reasonable considering the distance) and they returned to LHR on a bus which took them directly into their Terminal. Not a problem.

I’d suggest you start a new thread Bellzy under Ask a Gran.

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I think Norwich via Amsterdam sounds excellent!

Ignore her silly pout and just send your change of address when the time comes.

If you have a “pot” remaining after you do your move maybe you could put some money aside for her to take a taxi to Norfolk from the airport? Is she able to fly into Stansted as it’s the most convenient airport if you move.
I think you should suit yourself ultimately and it’s your life to enjoy as you see fit. She has chosen to live abroad

Just something else to throw into the mix. My friend's daughter has ditched her mother and will no longer communicate with her over a dispute over where the mother should live. I agree with the posters on here that the OP should live where she likes, and that the daughter should not be dictating. But nowadays "respecting their wishes" seems to mean that you do what they want or else you are at risk of them flouncing off altogether, and you losing your child. Be prepared for this possibility too.

I've noticed that with adult children. They move away then complain about journey time for visiting! Perhaps she'd like to come and live near you in Norfolk that would solve her travel problems.

Your daughter is being very selfish. If she visited every month, she might be justified in asking for you to move nearer to the airport, (even then, I think she is expecting too much), but once or twice a year?? I don’t think she has the right to expect you to accommodate her for that short amount of visiting time.
Please move to Norfolk if that is what you would like to do. A previous poster made some good points about checking certain things first, so I would do that first, so that you are absolutely sure that is where you want to live.
Your daughter has, hopefully, many years ahead. You, maybe, not so many, so please do what will make you happy.
Good luck and I wish you every happiness for your future.

None of her business where you live, how selfish is she

Selfish B

I honestly don’t understand why anyone would move to the US from the UK. But your daughter should not be dictating where you are allowed to live.

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I’m going to say exactly the same as most of us: move and live wherever you want to live! Even on the moon! Your daughter has chosen her life she cannot and must not expect you not to live where you want to be!
How selfish can she be? No blackmail, no threats!
Live your lives as you see fit and good luck to you

PS: meant to say, she could book a taxi from the airport to wherever you are in Norfolk. When I travel to or from Heathrow from Lincolnshire, I book a local taxi, costs about £300 round trip but worth every penny, especially when I have heavy luggage. I have the same driver every time (one man business!) and he is wonderful, always makes sure I am safely booked in at my flight desk before he leaves me, and never overcharges for waiting/parking etc.

Trains go right from the airport. Yes, it is a bit of a hassle with luggage, but so be it.
I lived in several different countries and I NEVER expected my parents to live near an airport for my convenience. I've had a much longer journey home taking the train, sometimes hiring a car to be mobile around their place.
You are not selfish in wishing to move and I hope your daughter can eventually see this. There is also very reasonable taxi transport from the airports so she doesn't need to make that much effort and can travel in style.

i have agonised over the past few years whether to move to be near my son and family who moved to ireland.I have a son and his family near ,so that made things tricky.Not until someone said' what do i really want' did my thoughts become less jumbled.I don't have any pressure from my family, but what was happening to me at least ,was that my head and heart were conflicted.Like lots of said ,your daughter was the one who moved, im inclined to say the selfish so and so.do what is good for you.

When we travel to visit our daughter we go by train, it’s really easy once you get to the station. Straight from the train to the underground at either Liverpool St. from Norwich or Kings Cross from Kings Lynn.
Alternatively she could fly to Norwich via Schiphol.

How selfish of your daughter to simply think about herself. You do what's best for you:-)

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