Sometimes I despair.

Then why start the thread? It has been very divisive, unnecessarily so.

There never was a problem.Everyone has over reacted. I hadn't even missed the plates and was surprised to find them.

I’m obviously very laid back as I can’t see what the problem is. I’ve had numerous dinner party’s , Christmas lunches or people staying over who have offered to wash up and put away and then I can’t find things , but I don’t see as a problem and yes I have some lovely pieces handed down to me which are important to me . But for me someone giving their time to help me, is more important.

If only that had been clear from the outset.

If you read the thread you will see there was no problem.

I thought I was fussy. I really can't see the problem. . I see it as a trivial issue. A good job we're all different.

Be grateful she didn't manage to break them and hide the bits at the bottom of one of the wheelie bins.

Baggs

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Schrödinger's Plates

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Maggiemaybe

Well said, Baggs, the OP could have made their intention clear. I was on the “big fuss about nothing” side from the start, but kept my counsel while our kinder members have gone in with support that really wasn’t needed. Both sides seem to have ended up in the wrong.

Oh heck, I guess I’ve just joined the ranks of the po-faced now.

Can't do right for doing wrong as DM used to say!

Ignore redundant not.

This happened to a friend of mine - the china she liked, of course. She thought later of several thigs she could have done to save the day, but that wasn't not until after she had opened the door.

😁

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Schrödinger's Plates

Well said, Baggs, the OP could have made their intention clear. I was on the “big fuss about nothing” side from the start, but kept my counsel while our kinder members have gone in with support that really wasn’t needed. Both sides seem to have ended up in the wrong.

Oh heck, I guess I’ve just joined the ranks of the po-faced now.

kircubbin2000

Unpleasant comments on gransnet! Surely not.
I'm not at all upset just a bit surprised at the plate stacking order.

That’s how I read your post. My children often surprise me and I wouldn’t have been surprised if my DD had put something like those in the dishwasher. Not upset/complaining/ making a fuss - just surprised 😏

Well said Baggs

I dont mind if a poster states “please be kind” as it means they are feeling fragile. I think some would like to be able to say “ only comment if you agree with me”

marymary62

Give her the benefit of the doubt I meant ! You could have asked her where they were …. but equally you could now ask her why they ended up in an odd place ….

That's what I was going to say. Next time just ask her where she has put things if they've been misplaced. They are very lovely plates by the way!

👏👏👏 Baggs

👏👏👏 Baggs.

Well said, Baggs!

Ziplok

It’s sad to see so much unkindness on this thread. So, some of you don’t see the plates as important, the OP obviously does. There’s no need to be unkind about it to her.

OP did ask "Am I Being Unreasonable?". There are two simple answers to that and a multitude of others in between depending on how one understood the question. Was it serious? Was it jokey? Was the OP upset or not (some thought yes, some thought no? Without a clue such as a winky emoji or a depressed one people are not "being unkind" by answering what was asked in whatever way the opening post "hit" them.

It's all very well coming back after a good number of answers, many of which you don't like, to say you're enjoying the attention amused by the answers. And it's all very well for other people to judge answers they don't like as unkind when they haven't a clue why those answers arose.

I think the opening post being left to anyone and everyone's interpretation was either unfair or a bit of a mistake. I've certainly learned from this to say so if I'm kidding about something.

Which all goes to show how useful emojis are and also the forum titles on Gransnet. Chat might possibly have been more appropriate for something meant to be light-hearted.

Communication is difficult when it's not face to face. Straightforwardness is not necessarily unkindness.

Now sharing a kitchen is a real can of worms.
No two people do kitchens the same way. And it's a test of how adaptable and flexible people are when they have to share.
Another thing that winds people up is how non stick surfaces are damaged by metal spoons.
Let it go.......

I was asked if I wanted to keep their trunks for my own storage and when I said no that was definitely the wrong answer!
😁

kircubbin2000 I can remember, years ago, my MIL was staying and watching as my then teenage DD put the washing up away in the cupboards. MIL said to me "She needs a lesson in stacking!"

When the family had been to stay recently I had to rearrange my kitchen cupboards back when they'd gone as couldn't find anything.

It was a bit irritating but they were so helpful I couldn't feel annoyed. I expect you're feeling down after your operation, hope you feel better soon.

It’s putting new fruit on top of old that winds me up. But - as the children (ha) have done my shopping and put it away whilst I’m incapacitated - I say thank you

Perhaps I m not ‘tidy’ enough but to ‘despair’ about finding your plates in the wrong place when someone’s been looking after you seems a majorly overreaction in my opinion
At most a mild tut
It’s the empty milk bottles that go back in the fridge that caused my tuts 😂😂