Sometimes I despair.

Because what is special to us isn’t necessarily special to our family.
TBH I don’t have ‘special’ or best anything anymore, I enjoy using my once special things every day, they are beautiful so why wouldn’t I enjoy them?

Your daughter looked after you following an op and you’re complaining about where she put your ‘lovely’ plates?

They are pretty aren't they. One of my two would do what your daughter did. The other one would have prized them and put them back where they were found.

Because the dinner plates are needed more often?

Because they’re just plates to her, I’m the same, functional objects.

Are they peaches or bare breasts? Probably better out of sight.

I wondered too, Boz ..

Two of my daughters would have looked after them well but the others- not too sure! Different values ,different tastes.

It’s best to realise very early on that it is unlikely your DC will want your treasured bits and pieces. If you still like things hang on to them as long as possible and then if they have any monetary value sell them. When my mum died the only thing DD1 wanted was a worn out chopping board shaped like a spaniel as it reminded her of cooking with gran not something I would have guessed

No she loves the plates.The big heavy ones are only used at Christmas.I would have thought to arrange them by size.She always gets my granny's teaset out too but usually puts it away carefully.

2 weeks ago my wife decided to change the china from willow pattern to blue and grey, no idea why, just fancied a change I guess.

Boz

Are they peaches or bare breasts? Probably better out of sight.

Definitely not boobs

I would have just moved them to where I wanted them and said nothing. It would seem churlish if my DD had been looking after me.

KIRCUBBIN2000

I know what you mean. I still have a lovely bone china dinner and tea set with teapot, sugar basin and milk jug that was bought as a wedding present. A few plates have been broken but it is still a massive set. It is tucked away in a welsh dresser and now never used. I used to bring it out when I hosted a buffet but was asked why I didn't use paper plates as it made the clean up much quicker.

I listened to our family's advice and bought paper plates but I still insisted on 'proper' glasses for drinks and 'proper' cutlery. I think when I pop my clogs all the things dear to me will go to charity but I won't be bothered as I won't be here. All my possessions hold so many wonderful memories and still gives me great pleasure. There is nothing like having a cup of tea from a bone china cup and saucer with a cream cake on a bone china plate.

I also have two bone china tea sets from my mum and mum in law.

Germanshepherdsmum

"Your daughter looked after you following an op and you’re complaining about where she put your ‘lovely’ plates?"

I looked after our daughter in law for a few weeks when she had an operation and I always ensured that I put everything back where it was, it would be rude not to.

Germanshepherdsmum

Your daughter looked after you following an op and you’re complaining about where she put your ‘lovely’ plates?

I'm afraid I completely agree with this comment..

pascal30

Sorry I disagree with the comment. Even if you are looking after someone it does not give you the right to change anything.

It is just as easy to put things back where they came from than change it.

I just think it's right to respect other people's homes and their possessions. In this case the china is special and cherished for goodness sake! Would her daughter have liked to have something of hers treated like that?

What a huge fuss over absolutely nothing.

Not really. Kircubbin2000 is obviously upset enough to post. Perhaps a little sympathy would have been nice.

luluaugust

It’s best to realise very early on that it is unlikely your DC will want your treasured bits and pieces. If you still like things hang on to them as long as possible and then if they have any monetary value sell them. When my mum died the only thing DD1 wanted was a worn out chopping board shaped like a spaniel as it reminded her of cooking with gran not something I would have guessed

It’s best to realise very early on that it is unlikely your DC will want your treasured bits and pieces.

My son is visiting at the moment and we are talking about this very matter.

I think it's necessary to realise that our adult children are accumulating their own future treasured bits and pieces.

kircubbin2000

I'd imagine that there's a simple explanation why your daughter put the larger plates on top of the smaller which is not immediately apparent, because I doubt she'd have purposely done it.

Maybe she was just moving things around on the shelves and the dinner plates were temporarily stacked on top of the tea plates in the process - then was interrupted or distracted by something else... and there they stayed until you found them?

My two teenage grandsons are also staying here with their father - I doubt I'll be able to find anything after they've all gone back overseas. But I'll treasure the time I had with them all. Maybe instead of despairing at the 'lost' plates, you should rejoice in the fact that you obviously have a daughter who cares about you and wanted to look after you?

Marydoll

I would have just moved them to where I wanted them and said nothing. It would seem churlish if my DD had been looking after me.

That's the whole point. I haven't seen them since she left and it was only by chance I looked in the bottom cupboard and happened to find them

Maybe someone else put them away ? Or she was trying to sort out and got called away …. unlikely that she would have deliberately put them under the large plates ! If she loves them and got them out for guests - because she knew how much you love them - she wouldn’t have risked damaging them. Maybe you needed her help just as she was about to sort them out ? If it’s unusual for her fine her the benefit of the doubt - but if you really need to know just ask her !

I have a beautiful complete Royal Copenhagen hand-painted dinner/tea service which I used all the time when first married but now nobody wants to use it as it is not dishwasher proof.

I never concern myself where people put things in my house - except when it is DH who when emptying the dish-washer or shopping finds some very creative places to put things!