Sometimes I despair.

It hasn't annoyed me at all.

Op

Would this have have annoyed you so much if you have not felt unwell?

I'm enjoying some of the po faced replies on this lighthearted thread.

I am a little bit worried about these plates all being piled on top of each other.
Perhaps one of those plate stackers would be a good. I have one which is plastic coated wire.
Then the plates are accessible and also visible.
Our children do see things differently, but she was there to help you when you needed it.

Perhaps your DD thought that the big plates were more likely to be used next for a meal and so putting them on top just made it easier to retrieve them?

Hope you make a speedy recovery! 💐

I hope your recovery is complete.

Our lovely daughters, who grew up in this very house, come round often, and know me well - always put things in strange locations. I tend to not worry much - but I do wonder at their choices.

I'm sorry she seemingly disrespected your dishes, I hope all is well now.

If it were my DD I’d assume that they’d put the side plates away while the dinner plates were in use and then just plonked the dinner plates back on top of them in due course.

Germanshepherdsmum

Nothing was ruined Elegran. The plates, used occasionally, were put under some others which may be used more frequently. To take to GN over this when the culprit has been looking after you following an operation is, in my book, bad form and most ungrateful.

I doubt the small plates were "put under" larger ones. The larger ones got put at the back of the cupboard on top of what happened to be there, without injury to either.

Glad you found them anyway, kc, and I hope you are feeling better after your operation

I think there's a lot to be said for stoicism.

I'm sure whatever made the plates end up under bigger ones was not deliberate.

Nothing was ruined Elegran. The plates, used occasionally, were put under some others which may be used more frequently. To take to GN over this when the culprit has been looking after you following an operation is, in my book, bad form and most ungrateful.

kircubbin2000

Unpleasant comments on gransnet! Surely not.
I'm not at all upset just a bit surprised at the plate stacking order.

I remember reading some "household hints" sent in by readers of a women's magazine years ago, for prizes of £5 each. One of them informed us solemnly that a useful tip was to stack your plates in order of size, with the largest at the bottom and the smallest at the top.

My reaction was to think that was the easiest £5 anyone ever made, and to start looking for similar "brilliant ideas" to send in - how about closing the door before locking it? Or taking the dirty pillowcase off the pillow before putting on the clean one?

BigMamma, my husband rarely puts dishes bck in the correct place. My chronic ill health often makes me grumpy, however I am glad he has put them away at all.
I just bite my tongue.

Germanshepherdsmum

What a huge fuss over absolutely nothing.

It is quite possible to be very grateful for everything that someone has done for you and still feel a bit peeved if they haven't looked after something you cherish. In fact it is more than possible, it is human and probably normal. Those plates are still the ones which the OP has spent many years being careful with and looking after carefully.

I have some china which was inherited from my MiL, who inherited it from her mother. It doesn't have any monetary value, but it is pretty and of its time. I value it because of the memories it holds, and for those other hands which hand-washed it in the past. I am fairly sure that none of my children or grandchildren will want to be bothered with all that faff. That makes me sad. If they had maltreated it while they were looking after me temporarily, I too would be hurt.

Now, had my mother been in my position, she would say briskly "Things are just things, they don't matter." We are all different, and telling someone that mentioning this here to other mothers/grandmothers is " a huge fuss over absolutely nothing." is dismissing other people's feelings - not a nice trait.

Would you dismiss them if if it had been an expensive new carpet ruined? No? - but that just costs money - no feelings involved.

Unpleasant comments on gransnet! Surely not.
I'm not at all upset just a bit surprised at the plate stacking order.

We have some amazing charity shops near here. The amount of really beautiful china, ornaments and so on is often heart breaking. You know that these things were much loved by their owners.

Lovely plates, maybe someone else put them away.
Unpleasant comments are uncalled for.

The plates are obviously stylised peaches with their leaves. They have an art deco look which I quite like. Clarice Cliff influence with a modern twist.

People have different ideas of where things should go in a kitchen, My cleaner likes plain surfaces with nothing visible. I like certain things near to hand. I dont want to have to go looking in cupboards for a mug when I want quick coffee etc, He frequently tidies things away in places that are logical to him and then I cant find them! Fortunately Ive got to know his ways and so I put away in a cupboard the things I want out handy but which he thinks should be tidied away.

@Marydoll,

Whether Kircubbin2000 has been ill or not, no-one wants to go to their cupboards and find everything in different places. When our son and daughter in law moved in with us for a few weeks waiting for their new home to be ready, I could not find a thing after they had left, many things were in different places. It is just frustrating that is all. Why is it so difficult to put things back where you got them from.

Marg75.

I agree, Kircubbin2000 would not have posted if she wasn't upset about it.

Iinitially agreed with GSM about making a fuss about nothing, worse things happening for some of us.
Then I realised the OP had been ill. Perhaps she is feeling fragile.

Give her the benefit of the doubt I meant ! You could have asked her where they were …. but equally you could now ask her why they ended up in an odd place ….

I have a beautiful complete Royal Copenhagen hand-painted dinner/tea service which I used all the time when first married but now nobody wants to use it as it is not dishwasher proof.

I never concern myself where people put things in my house - except when it is DH who when emptying the dish-washer or shopping finds some very creative places to put things!

Maybe someone else put them away ? Or she was trying to sort out and got called away …. unlikely that she would have deliberately put them under the large plates ! If she loves them and got them out for guests - because she knew how much you love them - she wouldn’t have risked damaging them. Maybe you needed her help just as she was about to sort them out ? If it’s unusual for her fine her the benefit of the doubt - but if you really need to know just ask her !

Marydoll

I would have just moved them to where I wanted them and said nothing. It would seem churlish if my DD had been looking after me.

That's the whole point. I haven't seen them since she left and it was only by chance I looked in the bottom cupboard and happened to find them

luluaugust

It’s best to realise very early on that it is unlikely your DC will want your treasured bits and pieces. If you still like things hang on to them as long as possible and then if they have any monetary value sell them. When my mum died the only thing DD1 wanted was a worn out chopping board shaped like a spaniel as it reminded her of cooking with gran not something I would have guessed

It’s best to realise very early on that it is unlikely your DC will want your treasured bits and pieces.

My son is visiting at the moment and we are talking about this very matter.

I think it's necessary to realise that our adult children are accumulating their own future treasured bits and pieces.

kircubbin2000

I'd imagine that there's a simple explanation why your daughter put the larger plates on top of the smaller which is not immediately apparent, because I doubt she'd have purposely done it.

Maybe she was just moving things around on the shelves and the dinner plates were temporarily stacked on top of the tea plates in the process - then was interrupted or distracted by something else... and there they stayed until you found them?

My two teenage grandsons are also staying here with their father - I doubt I'll be able to find anything after they've all gone back overseas. But I'll treasure the time I had with them all. Maybe instead of despairing at the 'lost' plates, you should rejoice in the fact that you obviously have a daughter who cares about you and wanted to look after you?