Cleavage.

MissInterpreted

If you have big boobs, sometimes it actually looks a lot worse if you try to cover them up.

I disagree. You just need to know how to dress to flatter your shape, not undress. Every outfit has its venue, of course, but I don't like seeing exposed butt cracks either. To each their own !

My OH comments “ she’s got all her goods in the shop window”

I have a ridiculous amount of boobage on a slim frame - I wear minimiser bras and keep covered outside my home, because that pleases me.

Others do what pleases them. "You do you" springs to mind.

I remember Theresa May making a speech in the House of Commons with her cleavage on show. Aesthetically, it was displeasing, allied to her general middle aged appearance, and distracting.
I would feel the same about a male politician showing an uncovered belly or ‘builders’ bottom’.

Women with big boobs often struggle to get clothes that don’t accentuate their boobs. I have a grown daughter who is flat chested, and another who is bosomy like myself, they both bought similar outfits but in different colours, the flat chested daughter looked fine but the bosomy daughter was bursting out of hers. I have a similar problem, if I wear a v necked top I get too much cleavage. Is not that we want to put everything in the shop window it’s that clothes for women are not really geared towards curvy bosomy women but rather towards tall stick thin, flat chested, women.

I am a 38c/d
I seem to have one boob either side of my rib cage and no sign of a cleavage, I would love to have a pair that meet enough in the middle to look interesting.

Laying flat on my back they hide in my arm pits.

Glad I still have them though, many would be grateful, I wouldnt like them on show though.

Gorgeous ladies at my SW group, several have impressive cleavages on show.

Maybe one's attitude depends on what part of the country one is from???? I'm from a small southern English city (where I lived for many years), but then moved to a small town in West Wales and it seems to me there is a slight difference in "dress code" here to my own. We basically go for along the lines of "smart casual" and undo a reasonable number of buttons at the chest on shirt blouses etc - and so that's what I do. Fast forward to me there in a charity shop here and buying something and I went up to the counter to pay for it - and the (middle-aged) volunteer behind it thought she was doing me a favour I think by saying to me "Have you realised a button has come undone (ie on my shirt blouse)?".

I looked down expecting to see a button having come undone accidentally and there wasn't one - it was undone to my usual point. So I just gave her a puzzled look/said "That's fine thank you" and left it as it was - and that rather confirmed that necklines tend to be higher in this area than my own. I stick to what I know and I think maybe they've realised by now that there's nothing wrong with the way I dress slightly differently to the locals - and I'm dressing in our normal way (which is far from sexy - but it's not quite so "buttoned-up" literally).

So maybe they just come from a different part of the country to you - and it is the norm in their area?

Added that I had to think along lines of v. necks, rather than high necks generally for my clothing - as I'm a little shorty, somewhat busty and with a short neck. Maybe people with a long elegant type neck can get away with higher necklines - but I can't if I wanted to.

I wouldn't normally comment on womens' or men's dress but I do find extreme low-cut cleavages in everyday situations (not talking about the red carpet or clubbing) really silly. I never listen to what they are saying as I'm holding my breathe hoping they don't pop out -& DH doesn't listen because he's hoping they do - also very impractical for any useful activity other than breast-feeding.

A young teacher I know was told by senior staff that her low-cut, very revealing tops weren't appropriate in the primary school classroom and she needed to cover up.
Her mother was most offended.

I was the designated Apprpropriate dress code enforcer in my school.
Telling a young teacher that her thong was showing, when she bent over, because her pelmet was too short, required great diplomacy.

I of course, could not be faulted. 🤣

@Marydoll
They don't call thongs cheese cutters for nothing, I can't think of anything more uncomfortable to wear.

I accidentally bought a thong once. (knickers to match a bra came thong or ordinary, all on the same rack, I picked the wrong one up). I wore them for about an hour and never again, uncomfortable was putting it mildly, cheese cutter is exactly how it felt.

The thing is, many of the younger staff favoured them. The rest of us favoured granny knickers. We had to set an example.

Too much skin in any workplace (professional especially) is off putting to me. Time and place ladies please.

Oh dear this is heading in the direction of that infamous thread about the choice of clothes by a certain female politico. Time to get out the popcorn. Who will be reported and banned this time????

Norah

I have a ridiculous amount of boobage on a slim frame - I wear minimiser bras and keep covered outside my home, because that pleases me.

Others do what pleases them. "You do you" springs to mind.

Exactly, it's 2024. Stop shaming other women for what they choose to wear.

I also think no sleeves and low cut tops presenting the weather annoys me it's not appropriate it's not really scorching hot

Oh these emotive words that get thrown around these days 'shaming', 'hating, it is a form of moral blackmail to stop anyone saying anything the person wielding this weapon doesn't like. Like a two year old throwing a tantrum.

I am quite free to criticise hw anyone I see dresses, male or femail, including people making invidious comments on how I dress. These are my personal opinions and I am free to speak them.

Of course, everyone does it when it suits them. Remember the cricicism of Boris Johnson, what clothes he wore and how he wore them?

Criticsm is only wrong when it is done to make someone a figure of ridicule or when used as a weapon to denigrate someone, which a simple comment, good or bad, about how someone dresses does not do.

GrannyGravy13

MissInterpreted

If you have big boobs, sometimes it actually looks a lot worse if you try to cover them up.

I am in that category. Think Dolly Parton without the hair or money 🤣🤣🤣

5’2” size 10 bottom half accompanied with a 32HH bust.

Shopping for dresses is a nightmare, and I wear dresses 50% of the time. V neck is far more flattering than a high neck.

I’m 5’2” with slim hips and can equal/beat your bust size with 36F 😂 You are not alone. I’ve spent most of my life squashing my boobs into bras that were much too small but now have found the right bra: Anita Active Extreme Control. But I rarely show cleavage. Jackets are my thing. And long scarves. So a good distraction.
I bet up you look lovely in your dresses. Plus a little jacket? Very feminine.
Women often envy us you know. They don’t think of all that extra weight to be carried around. And not always wanting to look sexy!

I am a 36DD, but only 5ft.

Many years later, one of my school friends, (by this time my son's GP) and I were discussing about the cleavage revealing dress I wore to the sixth year ball. He said my bust had been described as the eighth engineering wonder of the world, no-one could understand why I didn't topple over.
Unfortunately, when I made the dress, I underestimated how low it would look.
What a hussy!

( Sorry about the typos. I cant edit for some reason.)

When I worked as a health care professional there were NHS Trust and professional standards dress codes for those that did not wear uniform. These included discreet necklines and appropriate hem lengths.

As a woman at management level, in, mainly, engineering companies. I was very conscious that how I dressed was an important part of getting proper respect in my job. I had no problem about wearing strong colours In that sea of grey and black at meetings, it was always very clear where the solitary woman was, but nothing remotely revealing or provocative.

I agree it’s not a style I think looks good on anyone either. But they didn’t ask my opinion. I’ve always been bustier than I preferred to be but a well fitted bra and the right clothes and I don’t show cleavage at all. Never have been a fan.

I often wonder how Dolly Parton doesn't fall over forwards? Lol