To think this is really inconsiderate

Mine too. Perhaps should could get help from health visitor. Colic doesn’t last for ever. Maybe it’s something else

When I suggested providing professional childcare for the baby, I meant Vintagejazz's friend might do this.

You criticise people you call friends to let their grown children take a holiday in their own property because of their colicky baby? ?

Am I reading this correctly? Y

Vintagejazz isn't related to the parents or baby so there's no reason why she should volunteer to look after the baby for two nights a week.

Unless she has rented an apartment in the same block at the same time 🤔

Whethertomorrow

I think they’re totally mad taking an in pain stressed colicky baby on holiday.
It’s bad enough dealing with the little one at home where you have all your familiar surroundings and equipment. The baby, how old is it by the way, has familiar smells and cot. You are then going to uproot it to somewhere strange, isn’t that going to stress it out more.

Then you can add in airport noise, ear pressure when flying, different water and food which can affect the little tummy. What happens if there is flight problems or massive delays at the airport. Wouldn’t all this stress an already unhappy colicky child. I can’t imagine being a parent and coping with all that.

I agree, any baby can get unsettled when away from home and air travel and delays only add to this. I'd always stay at home unless I had a very calm baby.

Vintagejazz

My friends daughter has a small baby who is colicky. He cries non stop between 5 and 7 most evenings and then starts again at about 11 and they could be up until 5 with him.
My friend and her husband have an apartment in Spain and have offered it to their daughter and son in law for a 2 week holiday with the baby. It's a third floor apartment in a building that's mostly holiday rentals. My friend said to me cheerfully 'God help whoever's in the apartment below. They won't get a wink of sleep. But Ben and Laura really need a holiday'.

AIBU to think this is really inconsiderate. I have every sympathy for Ben and Laura (not their real names) but the people renting the apartment below might also really need a holiday, or have saved hard earned money for a fortnight away. Now they're just going to be exhausted and on edge.

Ir is that just a risk you have to take when you book a holiday apartment?

This is absolutely none of your business! It’s entirely up to the people involved to sort it out. Why you, a person not in the slightest involved in this, would plaster it all over social media is beyond me!

If you live nearby couldn’t you do a couple of nights with the baby to give the parents a break ?
I did this sometimes when my twin grandsons were small, we swapped houses, I went to their house with the babies and they were at mine for a takeaway and a decent sleep. They were so grateful and said it felt like a little holiday.

It's none of your business.

Not a good plan for all the reasons mentioned above.

How about helping this couple by providing a childcare professional for them a couple of hours every evening or at least 3 or 4 times a week.

It will give their usual neighbours a break from crying baby. I had 1 baby that cried from colic I used to put her in the car seat and drive around until she fell asleep or get DH to drive her around until asleep.

Unless you are in the downstairs apartment it doesn't affect you and is none of your business Why do you want to put your friend and her family's private business on a public forum ?

I had one with this and used to be zombie like through lack of sleep. I also had a 20 month old, both in terry nappies. It was the worst time of my life. He didn’t improve until he was on solids.

The thought of going away with all it entails with a screaming, colicky baby gives me the shudders.

Personally, I’d rather be at home with everything I need close by. I can’t see how it’s going to be a rest or a break as they’re taking the ‘problem’ with them.

You haven't said whether the parents of the baby are taking up the offer. They would have to apply for a passport for the baby, which could take weeks to arrive. I doubt very much whether they would take up the offer for several weeks or months, by which time the colic may well have passed.

My dd2 had absolutely classic 3 months’ colic - started at maybe 10 days old and ended at 3 months. I was strongly opposed to dummies at the time, but resorted in desperation and it did seem to give her some relief.

IIRC the doctor prescribed some drops to be given before a feed, too, but in those days it was a case of 3 or 4 hourly feeds, not the seemingly endless mini-feeds that seem to be the way now - certainly if breastfeeding.

Thats the last thing I would want a colicky baby in holiday, he will grown out of it and the holiday then will be a pleasure. Most of us have survived it.

I'd be more worried about taking a baby with colic on a plane to be honest. The change in air pressure can't be helpful.

I guess I’m the weird one, because if I spent thousands to go on vacation and had a colicky baby overhead, I’d be in tears myself. All that money wasted, because unless things were soundproofed, my sleep would be messed up, and sleep deprivation guarantees pain flares for me.

It would completely ruin my vacation.

MayBee70

theworriedwell

The other thing with colic is it can suddenly stop. One of mine had it and suddenly one day he just settled. A fluke I thought but the next day was the same and suddenly I realised we'd survived and life looked better. Maybe this baby will have got over his colic by the time they go away.

Yes. 12 week colic. I remember walking up and down the living room every night with her in a sling. It usually started just as my husband got in from work. I was dreading having it with my second baby but thankfully it never happened. I certainly wouldn’t have had the energy to go on holiday at that time.

I probably would have gone on holiday if I'd had the opportunity. If nothing else it would have meant my husband would have taken leave from work so I would have had some support. My little darling started at around 3 pm so I'd already had hours of it by the time he got home.

theworriedwell

The other thing with colic is it can suddenly stop. One of mine had it and suddenly one day he just settled. A fluke I thought but the next day was the same and suddenly I realised we'd survived and life looked better. Maybe this baby will have got over his colic by the time they go away.

Yes. 12 week colic. I remember walking up and down the living room every night with her in a sling. It usually started just as my husband got in from work. I was dreading having it with my second baby but thankfully it never happened. I certainly wouldn’t have had the energy to go on holiday at that time.

Why shouldn’t they get a holiday, there are much worse things than a. Eying baby

Baby Cranial Osteopathy should resolve this problem.

Better a crying baby that a loud snorer! I once went away and could hear snoring all night long from a room down the corridor! It was so loud how his wife coped I don't know. After a whole week I wanted to kill him!

It was nice of the parents to offer their Daughter the apartment.
Tbh... It's a risk getting noisy neighbours a baby won't cry
24 /7.
It will sort it's self out I'm sure, if its driving the young parents bonkers they will seek out Medical Professional for advise.

Namsnanny

I had 2 that suffered with colic, I dont think I could have packed a suitcase let alone get on a plane, I was so tired.
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My oldest was like this. It was exhausting, particularly as DH went away for months with work when DC1 was a month old. I was desperate with tiredness.
I wouldn't have minded a holiday on my own.