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To think this is really inconsiderate

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Vintagejazz Wed 02-Oct-24 12:42:02

My friends daughter has a small baby who is colicky. He cries non stop between 5 and 7 most evenings and then starts again at about 11 and they could be up until 5 with him.
My friend and her husband have an apartment in Spain and have offered it to their daughter and son in law for a 2 week holiday with the baby. It's a third floor apartment in a building that's mostly holiday rentals. My friend said to me cheerfully 'God help whoever's in the apartment below. They won't get a wink of sleep. But Ben and Laura really need a holiday'.

AIBU to think this is really inconsiderate. I have every sympathy for Ben and Laura (not their real names) but the people renting the apartment below might also really need a holiday, or have saved hard earned money for a fortnight away. Now they're just going to be exhausted and on edge.

Ir is that just a risk you have to take when you book a holiday apartment?

Namsnanny Wed 02-Oct-24 12:52:09

I had 2 that suffered with colic, I dont think I could have packed a suitcase let alone get on a plane, I was so tired.
😴

theworriedwell Wed 02-Oct-24 12:56:34

Well it is a risk you take in a holiday flat, you could be next to people who roll in drunk and loud at 2 am every night, children screaming and wanting to play at 5 am or babies who are distressed.

People with noisy babies also need holidays. Noisy drunks annoy me more as they are adults and could control their behaviour a baby can't.

escaped Wed 02-Oct-24 13:01:29

I think there's probably far more interestingnoises coming from rented holiday apartments in the night than a baby crying! No one can choose their holiday neighbours. It wouldn't worry me.

Vintagejazz Wed 02-Oct-24 13:12:41

theworriedwell

Well it is a risk you take in a holiday flat, you could be next to people who roll in drunk and loud at 2 am every night, children screaming and wanting to play at 5 am or babies who are distressed.

People with noisy babies also need holidays. Noisy drunks annoy me more as they are adults and could control their behaviour a baby can't.

This apartment is in a pretty quiet area. It doesn't tend to attract gangs of young people. There's no nearby nightclubs and the bars all close at midnight. The clientele are mainly middle aged and retired people.

Hithere Wed 02-Oct-24 13:16:22

Yabu - renting an apartment comes with risks

Where is the empathy for the parents here? Having a colicky baby is no joke

theworriedwell Wed 02-Oct-24 13:19:43

Vintagejazz

theworriedwell

Well it is a risk you take in a holiday flat, you could be next to people who roll in drunk and loud at 2 am every night, children screaming and wanting to play at 5 am or babies who are distressed.

People with noisy babies also need holidays. Noisy drunks annoy me more as they are adults and could control their behaviour a baby can't.

This apartment is in a pretty quiet area. It doesn't tend to attract gangs of young people. There's no nearby nightclubs and the bars all close at midnight. The clientele are mainly middle aged and retired people.

You monitor it 52 weeks a year? Interesting.

I find that middle aged and retired people make noise, hearing gets worse and voices rise, TV on full volume. I was on a train yesterday and did sincerely pray that the two elderly couples sitting behind me would run out of things to discuss as I was trying to read my book.

pascal30 Wed 02-Oct-24 13:21:22

Just let them enjoy a break away.. they need a change and some sunshine

Cossy Wed 02-Oct-24 13:35:47

Hithere

Yabu - renting an apartment comes with risks

Where is the empathy for the parents here? Having a colicky baby is no joke

Totally agree

theworriedwell Wed 02-Oct-24 13:42:08

The other thing with colic is it can suddenly stop. One of mine had it and suddenly one day he just settled. A fluke I thought but the next day was the same and suddenly I realised we'd survived and life looked better. Maybe this baby will have got over his colic by the time they go away.

Grammaretto Wed 02-Oct-24 13:48:15

I'm with those who think they deserve a holiday.
Whenever I hear a baby cry these days, I am so glad it isn't mine!

Marthjolly1 Wed 02-Oct-24 13:49:30

My daughter had awful colic. It was very stressful. The midwife told me to feed her some more (she'd just been fed) and it made no difference. The health visitor just shrugged, so did the staff at the baby clinic. Eventually I took her to the doctors who immediately prescribed Merbentyl. From the first spoonful the poor baby became settled. I could have kissed the doctor. I was,still am, so cross the midwife and health visitor were clueless. Supposed to be professionals. Perhaps your friends daughter could talk to her doctor or maybe the chemist. I hope the holiday is a good experience for all

Babs03 Wed 02-Oct-24 13:51:35

My daughter and SiL had a baby with insufferable colic, nothing worked and I was drafted in to take part pacing the floor whilst rubbing my GCs back so that they could collapse with exhaustion. The last thing they thought about was travelling abroad for a holiday, they could hardly stand up. Tbh is not a rest if the baby is still screaming with colic, doesn’t matter where they go. Is much more of a rest if grandparents, aunties/uncles or other trusted caregivers take the baby for several hours and so lets the parents sleep or just go out together for a walk/coffee.
And ‘yes’ it will be disruptive for those in other holiday flats, my daughter and SiL went to their neighbours and apologised and thought their neighbours kindly said they hadn’t heard a thing, as I was on my way down their street to help I could hear my GC screaming all the way down.
It is loud. Xx

Whethertomorrow Wed 02-Oct-24 14:49:53

I think they’re totally mad taking an in pain stressed colicky baby on holiday.
It’s bad enough dealing with the little one at home where you have all your familiar surroundings and equipment. The baby, how old is it by the way, has familiar smells and cot. You are then going to uproot it to somewhere strange, isn’t that going to stress it out more.

Then you can add in airport noise, ear pressure when flying, different water and food which can affect the little tummy. What happens if there is flight problems or massive delays at the airport. Wouldn’t all this stress an already unhappy colicky child. I can’t imagine being a parent and coping with all that.

LOUISA1523 Wed 02-Oct-24 15:06:27

Theyve as much right to a holiday as anyone .....colic generally eases at 3 to 4 months so might not be so bad when they fly out

mum2three Wed 02-Oct-24 15:14:57

I think the kindest thing your friend can do is to offer to take care of the baby for a while. Then they can really relax and enjoy some time off.
My first baby suffered with colic and massaging her tummy seemed to help. My other babies were breast-fed and didn't have this problem.

Tenko Wed 02-Oct-24 19:33:54

My first born had terrible colic , nothing seemed to help and then at 3 months it went . Weirdly it was just after his 2nd mmr jab . So the baby may have grown out of it by the time of the hospital

Allira Wed 02-Oct-24 19:40:06

Namsnanny

I had 2 that suffered with colic, I dont think I could have packed a suitcase let alone get on a plane, I was so tired.
😴

My oldest was like this. It was exhausting, particularly as DH went away for months with work when DC1 was a month old. I was desperate with tiredness.
I wouldn't have minded a holiday on my own.

Visgir1 Wed 02-Oct-24 19:43:14

It was nice of the parents to offer their Daughter the apartment.
Tbh... It's a risk getting noisy neighbours a baby won't cry
24 /7.
It will sort it's self out I'm sure, if its driving the young parents bonkers they will seek out Medical Professional for advise.

keepingquiet Wed 02-Oct-24 19:43:38

Better a crying baby that a loud snorer! I once went away and could hear snoring all night long from a room down the corridor! It was so loud how his wife coped I don't know. After a whole week I wanted to kill him!

Patsy70 Wed 02-Oct-24 20:35:50

Baby Cranial Osteopathy should resolve this problem.

Iam64 Wed 02-Oct-24 20:40:16

Why shouldn’t they get a holiday, there are much worse things than a. Eying baby

MayBee70 Wed 02-Oct-24 20:47:07

theworriedwell

The other thing with colic is it can suddenly stop. One of mine had it and suddenly one day he just settled. A fluke I thought but the next day was the same and suddenly I realised we'd survived and life looked better. Maybe this baby will have got over his colic by the time they go away.

Yes. 12 week colic. I remember walking up and down the living room every night with her in a sling. It usually started just as my husband got in from work. I was dreading having it with my second baby but thankfully it never happened. I certainly wouldn’t have had the energy to go on holiday at that time.

theworriedwell Wed 02-Oct-24 21:02:24

MayBee70

theworriedwell

The other thing with colic is it can suddenly stop. One of mine had it and suddenly one day he just settled. A fluke I thought but the next day was the same and suddenly I realised we'd survived and life looked better. Maybe this baby will have got over his colic by the time they go away.

Yes. 12 week colic. I remember walking up and down the living room every night with her in a sling. It usually started just as my husband got in from work. I was dreading having it with my second baby but thankfully it never happened. I certainly wouldn’t have had the energy to go on holiday at that time.

I probably would have gone on holiday if I'd had the opportunity. If nothing else it would have meant my husband would have taken leave from work so I would have had some support. My little darling started at around 3 pm so I'd already had hours of it by the time he got home.

MercuryQueen Wed 02-Oct-24 21:38:49

I guess I’m the weird one, because if I spent thousands to go on vacation and had a colicky baby overhead, I’d be in tears myself. All that money wasted, because unless things were soundproofed, my sleep would be messed up, and sleep deprivation guarantees pain flares for me.

It would completely ruin my vacation.