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To complain about public urination

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Babs03 Thu 10-Oct-24 21:30:51

Sorry, I know it isn't pleasant, but it really winds me up. Went to visit a friend in a block of flats near us the other day, is a nicely maintained block but when I got in the lift was the unmistakeable odour of urine as well as the tell tale stains. And of course it is men doing the honours. Seems that we can't use a subway, enter a public stairwell or lift, or take shelter from the rain inside a shop doorway, without the smell of urine assailing us. Just because men find it easier to urinate in public than women surely doesn't mean they can do it whenever and wherever they want. And they aren't all drunks. In a park across from us we often see men just out walking the dog etc., dodging into the bushes for a wee, thing is there are two lots of public toilets in the park, well signposted and open all day.
Is sheer laziness and a lack of consideration for others.
Would like to see a national campaign aimed at preventing this, I know is a public offence to urinate in public but who is policing this?

ExDancer Sat 12-Oct-24 09:21:35

I wonder if it has something to do with the instinct of wild (and domesticated) animals to "mark their territory" by urinating on it to signal to other animals that this is their property, so keep out? Some men are just not fully domesticated.

Role Sat 12-Oct-24 09:07:09

The number of times I’ve seen large dogs spraying a geyser up the walls and corners of shopping streets and shopping malls makes me think a bloke finding a quiet corner isn’t quite awful.

Washerwoman Fri 11-Oct-24 21:30:51

We stopped at a service station recently for a comfort break.As we walked towards the doors a group of women got out of a car and one of them squatted and peed by the side of the car whilst the others all laughed.We were literally yards from the door.Disgusting.And my DH saw the same thing in another service station carpark only the other day.I have a weak bladder and am often desperate to go but no way would I do this in a public place.And think it was hilarious.

Maggiemaybe Fri 11-Oct-24 21:04:41

Brilliant! grin

When a neighbour spotted a local teenager weeing in her back yard, she marched round to his house and dragged him back with a bucket of hot soapy water and a stiff broom, then stood over him till he’d cleaned it up. I was in awe.

MissAdventure Fri 11-Oct-24 20:56:06

The guy gives the link to buy the sprinklers too.

It could help with cat/fox problems too.

Babs03 Fri 11-Oct-24 20:48:10

MissAdventure

We live in a beachfront community that attracts a lot of extra traffic in the summer months. Unfortunately the bar patrons feel it's ok to duck down the side of a house to relieve themselves on the way to the next bar. Last summer i bought a few motion activated sprinklers for each side of the house and it worked really well at keeping them at bay. I added a bucket connected to a trip wire at the back of our alley to my ,"please don't urinate on my house" arsenal.
Here's a montage of some of the video footage we've gotten since Memorial day weekend.

youtu.be/tQa_UmqOI5Y?si=ZLWEvpO-yyLt9KwS

Absolute genius!

MissAdventure Fri 11-Oct-24 20:32:38

We live in a beachfront community that attracts a lot of extra traffic in the summer months. Unfortunately the bar patrons feel it's ok to duck down the side of a house to relieve themselves on the way to the next bar. Last summer i bought a few motion activated sprinklers for each side of the house and it worked really well at keeping them at bay. I added a bucket connected to a trip wire at the back of our alley to my ,"please don't urinate on my house" arsenal.
Here's a montage of some of the video footage we've gotten since Memorial day weekend.

youtu.be/tQa_UmqOI5Y?si=ZLWEvpO-yyLt9KwS

Babs03 Fri 11-Oct-24 20:08:41

There are a shortage of public loos but in urban areas there are usually cafes and pubs, both of which usually have loos, I will order a drink then scoot to the loo. Also large stores and petrol stations usually have loos so if you are near any of these you could be in luck.

MissAdventure Fri 11-Oct-24 19:51:28

I wonder if there is some sort of booby trap type thing you could put in planters, and such like??

Public toilets or not, there is no excuse for doing it in those, or openly, anywhere.

Like an animal marking its territory, as far as I'm concerned, except they're claiming someone else's.

Steelygran Fri 11-Oct-24 19:29:29

I think we need more public toilets. So many have been closed everywhere you go. I know it's no excuse, unless you have a medical condition which means you're often caught short, but if there were more public facilities, it might stop a lot of people doing this.

Dickens Fri 11-Oct-24 19:17:30

MissAdventure

If I ever encountered a man trying to pee through my letterbox.. well, Edward Scissorhands would have nothing on me.
Repulsive!

I thought something similar...

My OH told me prior to us meeting he had a little dog at home that had a 'thing' about post coming through the letterbox - would growl and jump up, grab the post and shake and tear it to bits (it was probably the postman he resented)... grin.

It is repulsive. One thing to have a pee with your back turned to the public, but quite another to aggressively target people's property, or stand facing people deliberately. I see it almost as 'willy-waving' - vile men asserting their alpha-male status kind of thing.

I have a stone street-planter right outside my front door (no gardens along this terraced street), people deliberately steer their dogs to it to pee, throw rubbish in it - and cigarettes. It's not those that actually live in the street - there's a coterie of men who live further down in the town and use the planter as a receptacle to dump in - even spit in. I've seen it happen because it's right outside my window and I can see through my blinds. Always on weekends when they are traversing to and from the pub just a few doors along. And they shout and holler late at night.

If you complain on the local FB notice board - you're mocked and insulted and told to 'get over yourself'.

It's a 'breed' of vile, ill-mannered, louts. Few and far between when I moved here in 2007 - but growing steadily as more and more housing is being built. This is a tourist town and the residents in my street used to make an effort with their outside planting displays - hanging baskets, etc. So many of them got ripped off their moorings and thrown around for a 'laugh' (mine did) by these same mindless thugs - so we don't bother anymore, it's too depressing, and expensive, to keep replacing things that get destroyed. Not to mention the cars that get 'keyed' also.

It's happening everywhere. Anti-social behaviour is on the increase, and it seems very little is being done to counteract it.

Babs03 Fri 11-Oct-24 19:11:34

Deedaa

It's 15 years since my husband was a long distance HGV driver, but unless things have changed a lot since then, there are very few facilities for them in this country.In Europe there are so many truck stops, many with showers as well.

Service stations are far and few between in the UK, even on the M25. Am sick and tired of seeing a sign telling me the next service station is in 30 miles etc., then having to turn off before we get there. When a relative in New York was good enough to drive us to Washington there were regular service stations, all offering plenty of facilities.

valdali Fri 11-Oct-24 18:57:06

My prim & proper Auntie was out for the day in the country with my mum, she was desperate & mum persuaded her to go behind a hedge, she was there with her big bloomers round her ankles when a man in red jumped over the hedge followed by about 10 more hunters!

Deedaa Fri 11-Oct-24 18:55:40

It's 15 years since my husband was a long distance HGV driver, but unless things have changed a lot since then, there are very few facilities for them in this country.In Europe there are so many truck stops, many with showers as well.

Wheniwasyourage Fri 11-Oct-24 18:42:45

It must be terrible for people whose gardens are used for men to pee in. Why am I thinking about the possibility of setting up some sort of system to administer an electric shock when a stream of urine hits the spot? It might not work but it's fun to speculate...

MissAdventure Fri 11-Oct-24 17:27:21

If I ever encountered a man trying to pee through my letterbox.. well, Edward Scissorhands would have nothing on me.
Repulsive!

Grantanow Fri 11-Oct-24 17:23:55

MissAdventure

I saw a youtube video of a bloke seeing all over the control panel in a lift, a while back - obviously deliberately.

You should have heard him cry when smoke came from the panel, and the lift jammed. grin

😄😄😄😄

Babs03 Fri 11-Oct-24 17:01:24

MissAdventure

I saw a youtube video of a bloke seeing all over the control panel in a lift, a while back - obviously deliberately.

You should have heard him cry when smoke came from the panel, and the lift jammed. grin

That’s karma right there ✅

Tenko Fri 11-Oct-24 17:00:59

I’m part of a litter picking group and one of our areas is a junction on the m25 . You would not believe the amount of bottles containing wee , we find , thankfully we all wear gloves . There’s a lay-by on the roundabout at this junction and you regularly see men urinating in the lay-by in full view of other drivers .
I have occasionally needed a wee out walking my dog and done a tree wee but I make sure I’m well hidden .

MissAdventure Fri 11-Oct-24 15:37:51

Peeing. Not seeing.

MissAdventure Fri 11-Oct-24 15:37:28

I saw a youtube video of a bloke seeing all over the control panel in a lift, a while back - obviously deliberately.

You should have heard him cry when smoke came from the panel, and the lift jammed. grin

Hellogirl1 Fri 11-Oct-24 15:25:59

We live in an end terraced house. There`s a passage down the side, with a wall separating us from the new housing estate next door. We have CCTV, and quite often get men, and once 2 women, coming into the passage to wee. My DIL once put still pics on her Facebook page to show the man up, and was castigated by other users for invading the man`s privacy!

MissAdventure Fri 11-Oct-24 15:20:58

There is no way in this lifetime my mum and dad would have gone on a coach trip with mass piddling going on, in view, and my dad was a coach driver for a while!

Dickens Fri 11-Oct-24 15:18:10

Grantanow

I recall long distance coach holidays in which there were comfort stops when men and women relieved themselves on different sides of the vehicle: gentlemen to the right, ladies to the left. Are we not being a bit precious about all this?

I think what you've described is a bit different from random men urinating against the first convenient 'prop' in public. I saw one man peeing against a car along the main road - not his own car.

On Rugby days in Twickenham, Middlesex, it's the bane of resident's lives; their front gardens and paths are frequently used as public toilets, especially in the evening after the fans spill out of the pubs. Some even defecate in the gardens - others throw their fast-food containers and wrappings over hedges and walls, too.

I don't know what it's like now, but when I lived there, residents complained, and little to nothing was ever done about it - I think the fans were exhorted to be "more considerate" - fat lot of good that did.

Fortunately, I didn't live on the main-drag, but I think I would definitely have felt a bit precious if I'd had to put up with random (frequently drunk) louts using my front garden as a toilet, or finding a heap of human excrement the next morning.

Babs03 Fri 11-Oct-24 14:16:33

Grantanow

I recall long distance coach holidays in which there were comfort stops when men and women relieved themselves on different sides of the vehicle: gentlemen to the right, ladies to the left. Are we not being a bit precious about all this?

If there were no loos and this wasn’t in a lift or stairwell, bus shelter etc., but out on the road, presumably in the countryside, then t this is fine, but we are talking about people urinating in shared public spaces or in the case of men abroad, doing it in full view rather than looking for a tree or bush.
Is just good manners.
We all have to go, but doing it in public and stinking up public areas is a no no xx