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People telling the same old stories

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Orangeleggedgoose Sat 02-Nov-24 07:16:20

What do you do when someone tells you the same tale over and over again? Do you glaze over and smile or say "yes. You already told me that" It drives me nuts. The family member I am thinking of isn't old and does not have any memory issues as far as I know but will tell me things that I am sure she knows she has already told me!

Fidelity2 Sat 02-Nov-24 18:59:59

It seems to me that being forgetful is part ageing for a lot of people. I can remember things from years ago but struggle with remembering things I have to do in the near future. My son put a whiteboard on a wall for me to jot down appointment dates, or jobs that need doing. I also have a big calendar which has enough space for me to write down when my grocery order is due to arrive etc.

Marydoll Sat 02-Nov-24 19:39:15

sodapop

On behalf of only children Primrose53 we don't all need to be the centre of attention.smile

👍 Sodapop

I did think the comment about being the centre of attention was a bit unkind.

NanaTuesday Thu 07-Nov-24 10:55:56

My MIL does this thought at 91 she can be excused .
However , she wil tell my DH during a telephone call followed by the same story on a car journey , even if it is only a few days apart . Then my Brother & SIL hear the self same thing it does become quite annoying.
On the other hand when I first met her some 20years ago ( omg she was the age I am now - back then !). Anyway , back then she would ask me something but was never interested in what my response was . I always thought she was rude & now all these later as lovely as she is , my SIL & I still think the same .
Age or not , no excuse

pandapatch Thu 07-Nov-24 11:20:59

Doesn't really bother me, I just respond as if it's the first time I've ever heard it and presumably my friends do the same for me as I'm sure I'm guilty sometimes ,as I forget who I've told what., but no-one pulls me up on it. Oils the wheels of social interaction

Bellanonna Thu 07-Nov-24 11:56:15

Kate1949

My daughter's favourite sentence to me is 'I know. You've already told me that'.

Yes Kate, I get that too!

DanniRae Thu 07-Nov-24 12:32:47

Bellanonna

Kate1949

My daughter's favourite sentence to me is 'I know. You've already told me that'.

Yes Kate, I get that too!

And me!

B9exchange Thu 07-Nov-24 12:48:59

My MiL used to constantly repeat the same four or five stories about her family members, most of whom I hardly knew, every single time we went to stay. Nothing would head her off, her conversation was always the same. My DH and FiL would disappear behind newspapers and completely ignore her, and I was left as the sole listener, over and over again. She smoked like a furnace and had chest problems due to that, so each tale was constantly interrupted by hacking coughing fits. I dreaded going to stay, and had to wash all out clothes, even the unused ones, when we came home.

GreyKnitter Thu 07-Nov-24 12:53:29

I have a friend who does that too. Same old stories every time, I think I know them word for word. She also likes to repeat the same stories about her health issues every time too. Happy to hear it once or twice but every time???????!!!!!!!

Chardy Thu 07-Nov-24 19:47:06

Jump in quick with 'Oh yes I remember you telling me'

Romola Thu 07-Nov-24 22:32:36

Old men are the same, harping on about their hobbies and their youth. My DH used to go on about his actually very exciting National Service.
Husbands of friends talk about early achievements Or golf or sailing or DIY, whatever it is they fill their time with.

DanniRae Fri 08-Nov-24 07:59:35

.........or bl**dy football! hmm

MissAdventure Fri 08-Nov-24 08:28:06

I think I've run out of stories.
Perhaps that's what it is.

nanna8 Fri 08-Nov-24 08:41:51

Sometimes you tell someone something and then forget who you’ve told - I have a lot of children ,grandchildren and gt grandchildren plus a lot of friends/ acquaintances so I forget which particular one I have spoken to. I always ask if I have told them it before, though! Sometimes getting older is a pain re short term memory!

Debbi58 Fri 08-Nov-24 11:33:45

My Mum's 84 and i'm 60, nearly everytime I visit her, she tells me the story of how she met my dad . He's been dead 15 years now . It does get tedious but I think she likes to reminisce about it

loopyloo Fri 08-Nov-24 15:36:53

It's repeated phrases that get me.
One friend always says "it was a trip down memory lane".
And "blah di blah"
I'm getting very irritable these days.

MissAdventure Fri 08-Nov-24 15:53:46

"Kick him to the curve" was my neighbours favourite, for a while, followed closely by "Get to know you".

DamaskRose Fri 08-Nov-24 15:58:32

If these friends don’t know they’re doing it how do I know that I’m not??!!

Beechnut Fri 08-Nov-24 16:20:42

loopyloo

It's repeated phrases that get me.
One friend always says "it was a trip down memory lane".
And "blah di blah"
I'm getting very irritable these days.

A friend of mine says ‘Like you say’ and I haven’t said anything about what she is telling me 😂

MissAdventure Fri 08-Nov-24 16:22:26

grin

Sallywally1 Tue 12-Nov-24 08:41:55

Yes, my DH. Lots of times same old, same old. He is Asperger’s though so might explain? He always uses the same words too.

halfpint1 Tue 12-Nov-24 11:50:10

My ex had a repetoire of memories from when I met him,
he was 33. I divorced him, he was 60 . Those stories were
repeated endlessly. They were more important to him than
living in the present.