to feel taken for granted?

she's reverted to teenagehood again hasn't she.. obviously feels very safe and loved at home..

janeainsworth

I would have just laughed and been very happy my DD had visited. (My son lives in the US and when he visits I wait on him hand and foot and love every minute of being able to spoil him).
I think it’s normal for adult children to go into teenager mode when they come home.
I’m grateful mine still want to.

Yes, it’s like that really - I love her dearly and she’s a great person in many ways. I won’t get this out of proportion.

Oops - too many mentions!

When I stay in my sister-in-law’s house, I always strip the beds and leave them on the floor. I take my own towels .

silverlining48

If she has gone back to her home abroad the washing can’t be left on the floor. I would say something about it to her hoping she will clear up next time. You w ere right to be annoyed but hope you feel better now.

Thanks fellow grans, I do feel better. She didn’t strip the bed (she offered though), but the clothes on the floor are from those she leaves here. I do her laundry when she’s staying here, just felt a bit cross she didn’t mention that she’d left more for me to do without mentioning it. I can guess what you’re thinking … hmm

It’s a mean thing to do. She could at least have told you if it was bedding, towels etc. better still she could have put them in the washer. Honestly some people are just plain rude and entitled!

I would have just laughed and been very happy my DD had visited. (My son lives in the US and when he visits I wait on him hand and foot and love every minute of being able to spoil him).
I think it’s normal for adult children to go into teenager mode when they come home.
I’m grateful mine still want to.

If she has gone back to her home abroad the washing can’t be left on the floor. I would say something about it to her hoping she will clear up next time. You w ere right to be annoyed but hope you feel better now.

If they are behind the door, could she have forgotten they were there? I can't imagine she expects you to send her clothes to another country. If it is bed linen, then I would think she was trying to be helpful. Why not message her and tell her she's left a pile of clothes behind, in case she's missing them?

I agree with Astitchintime if the laundry consists of her clothes, I would bin them.

The OP's daughter lives abroad Rosieb and was visiting.

That’s easy. Leave it there and let her deal with it. She’s grown up and not your job to do her laundry

So, is it the bed linen and towels that she used or her own clothes? If it's the bed linen, then at last she stripped it for you, but how has she left her clothes behind? Does she contemplate you laundering them and posting them back? That would be a no from me but if she thinks they will be clean and pressed waiting for her next visit, if she were mine they would be in the bin......now!