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Desdemona Thu 23-Jan-25 17:39:54

So odd they didn't tell you beforehand.

As others have said, completely not your fault - I would be reluctant to invite them again.

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Allira Wed 22-Jan-25 22:14:41

Casdon

Surely no coeliac would neglect to tell their host of their condition? It’s a lifelong condition, and the repercussions for the sufferer of eating food with gluten in are debilitating, often for days afterwards. I’m very surprised that they didn’t tell you when they received the invite Newatthis, or at least check with you that the food was safe to eat before he put fork to mouth. Its water under the bridge now though, there’s nothing you can do unfortunately.

Surely no coeliac would neglect to tell their host of their condition
No they certainly wouldn't.

It's an autoimmune condition, not an allergy but eating even a tiny amount of gluten can cause real problems.

I'm sorry Newatthis that you feel guilty about this but it wasn't your fault and you did check beforehand.

As you've been invited to their house for a meal since then, they obviously realise you didn't know and don't blame you.

Babs03 Wed 22-Jan-25 21:47:24

Oh dear, what a horrible experience for you as a host and for them.
Totally unacceptable for guests to say nothing if they have an allergy or celiac disease. One of my daughters has celiac disease and makes sure that if she is eating at the house of someone who doesn’t know her very well that she tells them well ahead of time and even offers to bring her own food with her to heat up in the microwave rather than cause a lot of hassle having to explain about cross contamination etc. of course nobody has taken her up on this and are usually good at catering to her needs.

Cold Wed 22-Jan-25 18:46:01

Did he know beforehand? Sometimes people get mild, non-specific symptoms for years before a major reaction that leads to diagnosis

Shelflife Wed 22-Jan-25 18:30:06

Why on earth were you not told beforehand!? You asked and they said " No" . I would think very seriously before asking them to dine with you again.

Jennynanna Wed 22-Jan-25 18:18:24

I recently had a diagnosis for my grandson which turns out he had excma brought on by various dairy products and gluten so had to change his diet which is not easy and some of the clothes he wears due to the material

Casdon Sat 14-Dec-24 17:14:15

Surely no coeliac would neglect to tell their host of their condition? It’s a lifelong condition, and the repercussions for the sufferer of eating food with gluten in are debilitating, often for days afterwards. I’m very surprised that they didn’t tell you when they received the invite Newatthis, or at least check with you that the food was safe to eat before he put fork to mouth. Its water under the bridge now though, there’s nothing you can do unfortunately.

Jaffacake2 Sat 14-Dec-24 17:02:58

I am sorry you went through this trauma. Your friends should have told you before that they had food allergies and also asked if you were happy to cater for them. It's their responsibility to ensure their own health and safety.
I have severe allergies to wheat,nuts,wine ,citrus and seafood. I have had numerous anaphylactic shocks. My friends all know that it is very hard to cater for me and I certainly wouldn't put them under that amount of stress and anxiety. I still am invited to social times but will take my own packed food. All know I can tolerate Bailey's so there is a glass ready for me !

Newatthis Sat 14-Dec-24 16:49:28

I recently invited some friends for dinner for the first time. I spent all day and part of the day before preparing. I am a very good cook and I wanted to make it special as it was the woman friend's birthday. I asked if they had any food dislikes or allergies and the answer was a big 'NO' to each question. So, ten minutes into the meal the man starts throwing up in the bathroom and spent the next 15 minutes in there, together with his wife, then they went home. No-one else was affected by the food and it was all well cooked. I felt terrible! Lo and behold, they recently invited us to their house for dinner, only for me to discover that the man has severe food allergies and celiac disease! I am feeling quite angry about this as I did go to an awful lot of trouble and cost.