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Forever the optimist

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surfingsal Thu 19-Dec-24 19:46:05

My mother is 95 has had bladder cancer for years and now has kidney cancer , she is now receiving palliative care and is becoming quite frail, she lives opposite me so I see her all the time, she phoned me up and said could I pop over , she was on her tablet ordering some summer dresses that were in a sale and she wasn't sure of the colour ! she ended up ordering all the colours, I hope I will be as optimistic as she is if I reach that age.

RosiesMaw2 Thu 19-Dec-24 19:46:51

Good for her!

GrannyGravy13 Thu 19-Dec-24 19:48:33

I hope she lives long enough to wear them

Pantglas2 Thu 19-Dec-24 19:51:02

A woman after my own heart ❤️

Whitewavemark2 Thu 19-Dec-24 19:55:00

At 95 mum needed a new television, and wouldn’t contemplate one that didn’t offer a 5 year warranty, which we thought was somewhat optimistic.

She lived to 101.

JamesandJon33 Thu 19-Dec-24 20:03:34

My mum was like that. Given she was likely to die before Christmas, she was out planting spring bulbs in November .

J52 Thu 19-Dec-24 20:04:15

I like her style!

Iam64 Thu 19-Dec-24 20:04:47

Your mum sounds a cracker and a great role model.

Esmay Thu 19-Dec-24 20:24:35

Bless her .
May she wear those dresses in the summer and prove the doctors wrong .

nanaK54 Thu 19-Dec-24 20:36:29

She sounds like a very special lady, everything crossed that she gets to wear her dresses.

25Avalon Thu 19-Dec-24 20:48:13

Never give up. Good for her.

Patsy70 Thu 19-Dec-24 21:19:28

I only hope I’m as positive and optimistic as your Mum, if I live that long surfingsal. May she enjoy her Summer dresses. ♥️

NotSpaghetti Thu 19-Dec-24 21:21:56

Whitewavemark2

At 95 mum needed a new television, and wouldn’t contemplate one that didn’t offer a 5 year warranty, which we thought was somewhat optimistic.

She lived to 101.

My mother-in-law, aged 100, has just bought a new TV with an extended warranty - it runs for 10 years!

NotSpaghetti Thu 19-Dec-24 21:22:56

Maybe it's that generation that just "keep on" with living.

Norah Thu 19-Dec-24 21:26:10

Well done her!

FriedGreenTomatoes2 Thu 19-Dec-24 21:29:52

Oh I love these stories! Thank you for sharing them all. 😊

My stepfather’s brother is 99 and had a fall last month. Was in hospital for two weeks. Sent home with care package 4x a day as he lives alone. He thanked the carers after 10 days and said”thank you, I can manage now. You can call on others who need you more than I do.” He told this to my stepfather on the phone on Sunday. He was just cooking his own Sunday lunch and planned to sit down and enjoy it with a small glass of 🍷

Allira Thu 19-Dec-24 22:18:02

Well done to your Mum, hope she gets to wear those dresses and we have the sunshine to go with them!

foxie48 Thu 19-Dec-24 22:23:44

My lovely Mil lived to 101, did meals on Wheels until she was in her 80s and was older than any of her customers. In her last year of life she said that everything about her was slowing up except time!

Shelflife Fri 20-Dec-24 10:43:49

Your Mum is an amazing woman! Good for her I know she will enjoy wearing her new dresses. You are so fortunate to have her , my Mum died some years ago aged 92 - I miss her every day.

mabon1 Fri 20-Dec-24 13:09:19

Good for her, let her order as many as she wants, it's keeping her going. My Ma died quite young also my Pa died at 60. Enjoy every second with her life is sweet.

knspol Fri 20-Dec-24 13:29:58

Good for your mum! I wish her well with her new dresses in next year's sunshine.

Juicylucy Fri 20-Dec-24 13:35:10

What a lovely post. Love your dear mums positive attitude I think we can learn from this. 🎄

Coconut Fri 20-Dec-24 14:13:37

My mums 95 in March, and how I wish that she would buy some new clothes ! She is 100% make do and mend and wears the same old stuff week in week out. She does have nice clothes in her 3 wardrobes ! But she’s saving them evidently 🤣. I take her out for lunch once a week and I have to threaten her that if she dosent put something nice on I’m not taking her as she looks like a bag lady 🤭

Fae1 Fri 20-Dec-24 14:30:02

JamesandJon33 - this reminds me of a quote from Downton abbey recently ( can't remember the exact quote , but it's about planting a tree so others can one day enjoy its shade ❤️

crazyH Fri 20-Dec-24 14:36:13

What lovely stories of optimism 😘 I am the eternal pessimist, so these posts have cheered me no end