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my sister said that all the blond women should realise that people know they bleach it..... *she said that from her dark brown head of hair at age 83!*

My blonde DD doesn't bleach hers any more; it's still blonde but not platinum any more.

I would also think it very exceptionally rare for the hair on someone 83 to be dark brown without dye, making the statement amusing.
I'll let you know if I get to 83 (🤞) but mine's still darkish brown and I'm pushing 80.

oh dear, you missed the point completely.

*of course my sister age 83 dyes her hair dark brown while complaining about those that go blonde*

No I did not miss the point at all.

You missed mine of course.

Why so rude?

Norah oh dear. you missed the point too, of course my sister dyes her hair f g sake.

Allira

lemsip

my sister said that all the blond women should realise that people know they bleach it..... *she said that from her dark brown head of hair at age 83!*

My blonde DD doesn't bleach hers any more; it's still blonde but not platinum any more.

I would also think it very exceptionally rare for the hair on someone 83 to be dark brown without dye, making the statement amusing.
I'll let you know if I get to 83 (🤞) but mine's still darkish brown and I'm pushing 80.

oh dear, you missed the point completely.

of course my sister age 83 dyes her hair dark brown while complaining about those that go blonde

Ooh no, just my hair!
Don't want to frighten the neighbours.

Allira

Mine was all kinds of colours when I was young, even green once although that was a mistake with a home-colour!
Now I prefer to be au naturel.

Yes yes, but how about your hair? I like to be au naturel too but only in very hot weather and in the house.😁🤭

Whilst still working I always coloured my hair but once I retired I decided to go au natural. I’m not fully grey, still a bit dark at the back, as my mum was at 87! Recently hairdresser recommended purple shampoo which you can by over the counter, if you wash in normal and then wash out it enhances the grey and lifts it. Leave shampoo in for longer and it will add a bit of a purple shade to your hair, I wash in washout. Grey hair is porous and doesn’t like strong dyes.

foxie48 sounds like we have similar genes.

Mine was all kinds of colours when I was young, even green once although that was a mistake with a home-colour!
Now I prefer to be au naturel.

My grandmother still had mainly dark brown hair when she died at 87. My hairdresser says I've still got a lot of dark roots even at 76 but the front of my hair is white. When I had it highlighted I used to have to have all the colour stripped out and a toner on it as I have a lot of dark auburn in it which can make it go brassy. Even now, when the sun bleaches my hair I get golden highlights despite it being coloured dark brown. It's all about genetics.

lemsip

my sister said that all the blond women should realise that people know they bleach it..... *she said that from her dark brown head of hair at age 83!*

My blonde DD doesn't bleach hers any more; it's still blonde but not platinum any more.

I would also think it very exceptionally rare for the hair on someone 83 to be dark brown without dye, making the statement amusing.
I'll let you know if I get to 83 (🤞) but mine's still darkish brown and I'm pushing 80.

M0nica

Norah At 81, the hair on the crown of my head is still dark brown. My hair dresser reckons about 30-40% of my hair is still its original colour.

When my uncle died, at 85. The hair on the crown of his head was still dark brown though all around it the hair was white. I have the photo on his remembrance card to prove it.

So while it would be exceptionally rare for the hair of someone of 83 to still be entirely dark brown. I would not put it beyond the bounds of possibility.

I was in my late 50s/early 60s before my hair started going grey. One of my cousins did not start going grey until nearly 70 and I know of someone who did not start going grey until her mid-70s. In my family it is genetic. I remember my paternal grandmother as dark haired well into her 70s.

Of course it's genetic, just as being blond. We lose hair colour as well.

I would also think it very exceptionally rare for the hair on someone 83 to be dark brown without dye, making the statement amusing.

I think it’s the cutthat matters most.

A good stylist who can cut and style your hair to match the texture of the hair shape of your face modern without being over the top etc is worth their weight in gold.

My hair is so white now and love it and the style is remarked upon frequently.

Norah At 81, the hair on the crown of my head is still dark brown. My hair dresser reckons about 30-40% of my hair is still its original colour.

When my uncle died, at 85. The hair on the crown of his head was still dark brown though all around it the hair was white. I have the photo on his remembrance card to prove it.

So while it would be exceptionally rare for the hair of someone of 83 to still be entirely dark brown. I would not put it beyond the bounds of possibility.

I was in my late 50s/early 60s before my hair started going grey. One of my cousins did not start going grey until nearly 70 and I know of someone who did not start going grey until her mid-70s. In my family it is genetic. I remember my paternal grandmother as dark haired well into her 70s.

I've always used Nice n'Easy at home [41 years]
I use a colouring brush and paint colour on to the roots only. My hair is thick and shiny. Nice n Easy always include a good conditioner in the box.

lemsip

my sister said that all the blond women should realise that people know they bleach it..... *she said that from her dark brown head of hair at age 83!*

No, people can be blonde. I'm blond, though silver since middle age.

Bleaching and slight blond colour were since I became silver.

But dark brown at 83?

Decent colourist who uses quality products. Like foxie, I dress, do my hair, don’t wear makeup etc for me not anyone else

my sister said that all the blond women should realise that people know they bleach it..... she said that from her dark brown head of hair at age 83!

Barleyfields doesn't have to be "pretty obvious" you just have to go to a decent colourist. However, does it matter if it is obvious as long as the person who is wearing it is happy? No-one has purple hair but a friend dyes hers deep purple, she looks fabulous. Why does anyone have to look "natural"? Surely people can look just how they want to look? I don't dress, colour my hair, wear make up etc to please anyone else except myself. fwiw I'm not having a go at you, just opening up discussion.

I think dyed hair is usually pretty obvious. It often lacks the different shades of colour that natural hair has and of course some shades you would never find in natural hair. I’m not against it, had my hair highlighted for many years until I realised that my hair no longer looked right on me. My grey hair sits well with my skin tone (I don’t wear foundation, just eye makeup).

Farzanah I am not up to persuading anyone whether they should dye their hair or not, but look around, yes you will notice all those whose hair is damaged. but how can you tell whether all the other people you see round you have dyed their hair or not?

According to a Mintel report. Over 50% of women of all ages dye their hair using a home dye - blonde is the most popular colour, but many choos brown. Obviously brunettes gone blonde will have a roots problems, but the rest?

You simply do not know haow many people walking around every day have coloured their hair, do the majority of women you see out have damaged hair?

I'll join Iam and M0nica. I have dyed my hair since I was about 14 off and on, and it is in good condition.

Maybe it depends on hair type? British people have all sorts of different mixed and matched heritages, so one person's hair is bound to be different from many others. It's not about hair dye, as some of us can attest. Others may react badly to it if their hair is more weak or porous than ours.

MOnica and Iam. You two are almost persuading me to give it a go, but my hair is very fine, and although colour fading is shiny. I think some colour may perk it up, but scared of damage.

The hair of a couple of my friends whose have dyed theirs looks rather dull and lifeless, especially one with a dark reddish colour.

Perhaps works best if hair is naturally strong and thick?

So basically this means that the pores on your hair won't close and hold in the colour they put on. Overly porous hair is often (not always) a result of heat and/or chemical damage. Ask your salon about protein treatments and use a moisturising shampoo and conditioner (argan oil is good) for repair. You can try again in a couple of months.