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Aldom Tue 04-Feb-25 16:05:24

I remember you posting about this immediately after Christmas.
Lots of people responded to your post. I'm not sure what you want people to say now???

Granmarderby10 Tue 04-Feb-25 16:02:22

Quizzer is it not about time that you accepted that your husband is not very good at buying presents.
You say he has bought many “inappropriate “ presents over the years- well there you go,
Perhaps his family didn’t make much of gift giving when he was growing up, or maybe he hasn’t got the confidence- especially if he has been criticised in the past…

Just a thought, because you do mention that he does not begrudge spending on the family at large.

Perhaps the whole gift buying palava especially for anyone over the age of ten is just too fraught with anxiety these days and if that is the case then I am with him🤗

keepingquiet Tue 04-Feb-25 15:45:04

Inappropriate presents from men have been a way of life for me.

I have no advice to give here.

Cabbie21 Tue 04-Feb-25 15:35:01

My son knew there was nothing I wanted but his wife said we couldn't just not get anything, so she gave me a hamper - none of which I am supposed to eat. I have eaten them quickly to get rid of them! Also given some away - but what a waste of money. I had better think of something specific next year. I suggest the OP does the same.

Jaxjacky Tue 04-Feb-25 15:27:25

You posted this on 30th December and had a lot of sympathetic replies, I’m not sure what you’re asking?

Ilovecheese Tue 04-Feb-25 15:26:53

Although it would be nice if he bought you a present off his own bat, I think you are going to just give him instructions for the next occasion. Just tell him you would like a gift, if there is nothing you particularly want, tell him to buy chocs. Sounds like he is just not very good at presents.

Septimia Tue 04-Feb-25 15:26:53

Well, I can understand why you would be upset.

Next birthday/Christmas, how about saying you'd like one of those subscriptions that brings you fresh flowers each month?

Quizzer Tue 04-Feb-25 15:19:00

DH has bought some inappropriate presents during our lifelong relationship - too many to list here.
However, at my son’s last Christmas, everyone was opening presents from their partners when I realised that I had nothing from DH.
Later he said “well, you said there was nothing you particularly wanted”. How could he not even buy chocolates or something? By the way he doesn’t buy, or get involved with presents for anyone else. We are not hard up. He doesn’t me begrudge spending money on family presents but says I am too fussy.

Every time gifts are mentioned by anyone I just feel like crying and he seems totally unaware that I am upset.