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Well, I can understand why you would be upset.

Next birthday/Christmas, how about saying you'd like one of those subscriptions that brings you fresh flowers each month?

Although it would be nice if he bought you a present off his own bat, I think you are going to just give him instructions for the next occasion. Just tell him you would like a gift, if there is nothing you particularly want, tell him to buy chocs. Sounds like he is just not very good at presents.

You posted this on 30th December and had a lot of sympathetic replies, I’m not sure what you’re asking?

My son knew there was nothing I wanted but his wife said we couldn't just not get anything, so she gave me a hamper - none of which I am supposed to eat. I have eaten them quickly to get rid of them! Also given some away - but what a waste of money. I had better think of something specific next year. I suggest the OP does the same.

Inappropriate presents from men have been a way of life for me.

I have no advice to give here.

Quizzer is it not about time that you accepted that your husband is not very good at buying presents.
You say he has bought many “inappropriate “ presents over the years- well there you go,
Perhaps his family didn’t make much of gift giving when he was growing up, or maybe he hasn’t got the confidence- especially if he has been criticised in the past…

Just a thought, because you do mention that he does not begrudge spending on the family at large.

Perhaps the whole gift buying palava especially for anyone over the age of ten is just too fraught with anxiety these days and if that is the case then I am with him🤗

I remember you posting about this immediately after Christmas.
Lots of people responded to your post. I'm not sure what you want people to say now???

Dont think it is about the present, but the thought behind it, a 50p present with thought and love is better than no thought at all, my ex husband lovely man but couldnt be bothered.

My advice is, let it go. There are far worse things to be concerned about in this life. Believe me, I know.

I wouldn’t put any importance on gifts. My husband bought me lavish gifts, but all the time, he was having an affair . He is now an Ex.

I cannot see what all the fuss is about. If there was nothing that you particularly wanted then why waste his money? I have friends who bring me chocolate that I don’t want and have said so just so they don’t come empty handed.At Christmas we bought presents for our granddaughter’s boyfriend but he didn’t buy anything for us. No problem!

It does sound as if you can't stop thinking about it, are there deeper issues going on, perhaps, because it does seem a minor thing to be so upset about?

We've had some funny threads in the past, about awful presents, and a fair few were from husbands

Don’t you think it’s a tad over the top to still feel like crying after all this time.
If he’s caring and generous 364 days a year that’s more important than one day.
And you did say there was nothing you wanted.
Men aren’t mind readers.

Just let it go. Next year get him to pay for a subscription for a craft magazine. Learn a new craft and stop dwelling on things.

Is there something else going in your life, that you are really upset about?

Whilst I feel sorry that you’re upset I also feel there are peaple out there with real struggles and problems . If u want something do as I do and buy it yourself that way u wont be disappointed x

We don't always buy each other presents. Does' nt bother me in the least , I have more to worry about ! Don't let this sour your relationship.

After years of unwanted gifts from my DH I told him not to bother buying me gifts. If there is something I particularly like I just buy it for myself, and he does the same. It's no big deal, so much money is wasted on unwanted, inappropriate gifts, so just treat yourself and have what you like.

If it bothers you, as it clearly does now, give him a list of five things you would like with precise details and where they can be obtained, and ask him to choose one and wrap it,, so it will be a surprise.

My DH and I don’t buy each other presents for Christmas/birthdays. . He’ll buy me something like watercolour paper when I’ve run out or a heated back massager when I’ve had a bad back. I’ve bought him a few DIY things from Lidl I think he’d like as and when. Not just for an “occasion”

He asked you what you wanted and you told him nothing in particular which must have left not knowing what to get. I know some men are not great with presents so it's better to give them a list to choose from.
I wouldn't feel too hurt by this. He is not very imaginative and obviously didn't have a clue.
Just make sure to let him know when your birthday comes around. I know it's not a surprise but better than getting nothing.

What would you like him to have bought you? What would have been acceptable?
Were you bothered because you were with other people and you were conscious of what they might think?

He says you're too fussy. He's not going to take a chance and get it wrong, and probably not for the first time ☹️

Go and treat yourself to something really nice, and enjoy. Ask him for money for next present, and spend it when you want to. I always have the money, never disappointed then. 😊

As this has been playing on your mind I suspect you feel unloved and unappreciated.. Perhaps try talking to him about how you really feel..