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surfingsal Sat 08-Feb-25 20:17:55

I said in a post when I first came on here how lucky I felt after reading some very sad posts and I really meant it , but this week I am not feeling so lucky.

My youngest daughter has had a problem with her Mitral heart valve since she was a little girl , she has scans every year and every time they say the valve has a slight leak but it is stable and it will probably stay that way, she had a scan 5 days ago and they phoned today to say her leaking Valve is now serious and if they cant repair it they will replace she was very upset and I was so shocked I didn't know what to say! She has also got to have procedure on the pathways in her heart as one of them increases her heart rate so much she has to keep going into Resus until it calms down.

Last week her Gynae Consultant had told her that the Endometriosis she has had for the last four years is causing so much pain that they advise a Hysterectomy , he said they just can't keep removing bits of her womb and as she is only 36, and is on morphine 5 days a month it would better for her so she can get on with her life, she has a 4 year old son but will now not be able to have anymore children which is something she and her husband really wanted. So now it is a waiting game to see what is going to be done first.

Aveline Sat 08-Feb-25 20:25:39

Oh what a series of shocking blows. Your poor daughter. It's easy to say that this is the storm before the calm but I sincerely hope that after these worrying ops she'll feel much better and fitter.
Good luck to you too. You'll need to be strong and supportive. Best wishes.

Chocolatelovinggran Sat 08-Feb-25 20:38:46

Goodness, surfingsal, that's a lot for your daughter to deal with all at once.
I hope that the medical team can help her with the best possible outcome for her difficulties.
Best wishes to you, also : the pains of our children are felt by us, too.

Indigo8 Sat 08-Feb-25 20:47:56

A worrying time. I wish you and your daughter the very best for the future.thanks

M0nica Sat 08-Feb-25 22:13:00

How dreadful to have so much bad health news all at once. There is nothing worse than seeing one's children suffer and not being able to do anything to help. But at least these days most heart conditions are treatable.

FriedGreenTomatoes2 Sat 08-Feb-25 22:28:50

“A mum can only be as happy as her unhappiest child”.
Such a shock for you all surfingsal. I hope you all get the reassurances you need soon.

Squiffy Sat 08-Feb-25 22:42:32

What a shock for you all. Wishing your DD all the best. 💐

Babs03 Sat 08-Feb-25 22:54:23

Am thinking of you and sending hugs 🤗
Troubles rarely come without company.
Wishing you strength and your daughter good luck with her medical issues.
🌺🙏🏾

Shelflife Sat 08-Feb-25 23:58:10

Oh my goodness! What worrying news for you and your daughter. That must have been a shock after previous scans that have said her condition is stable.
Fortunately I have no experience of
Endometriosis but I am aware of the pain it causes. Your daughter has so much going on just now and a
four year old to think about.
I can well imagine the worry this is causing you, we love our ' children '
and just want things right for them . I am thinking of you and your daughter and sending you both strength. 💐💐

grandtanteJE65 Sun 09-Feb-25 14:20:16

I hope everything goes well for her.

Perhaps when she is well again and you all have got over the shocks, she and her husband can look into adoption or fostering if they can't have more children. Or spend a week or two of their holidays volunteering with a charity that provides holidays, or day trips for under-priveledged children?

Cossy Sun 09-Feb-25 14:45:01

That’s awful news for all of you, especially your poor DD.

I wish all of you the very best.

Don’t forget, she’s allowed to ask for a second opinion on the whole gynie issue.

thanks

Katyj Sun 09-Feb-25 15:29:55

Oh no so sad for your DD and a lot for you to cope with too. flowers Hope everything goes well for her.

pascal30 Sun 09-Feb-25 15:38:15

How awful for your daughter.. I know this is a bit out there but maybe she could freeze her eggs and later find a surrogate, if she's desperate to have her own child,,

Allsorts Mon 10-Feb-25 05:55:05

I am so sorry for you and your daughter. She will get through this.
She has a child and it's a pity she can't have more, but if it's not possible she has her likely boy. I would get a second opinion though, perhaps she could delay that operation until her heart is sorted.
I was was diagnosed with a leaking mitral valve 10 years ago, for two years I went back and had it checked, told it hadn't got worse and I was that I was probably born with it and it might stay as it us. Meanwhile I convinced myself I would need it replacing and went into it thoroughly and found out that it was a safe procedure with excellent results and it stopped me being in panic mode.
I don't know what you mean by pathway, but she will be in good hands with a team looking after her.
There is nothing worse than seeing your child, whatever age ill and we would rather it be us yet she will get through this and has her husband, son and you there for her.
Sending youall my best wishes for you all.