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Lilypops Thu 27-Feb-25 11:26:27

I was having my hair cut and styled yesterday, a friend of the stylist came in , got herself a coffee then started to stand by my chair chatting and laughing quite loud with my stylist who was also chatting back , she wasn’t having her hair done. Just come for a chat
It was really annoying me as I hoped the stylist was concentrating on doing my hair , neither acknowledged me or invited me in to conversation, it went on for 20 mins before she left. I wanted to say something but didn’t, What would you have done ??

pably15 Sun 02-Mar-25 13:43:34

homestead, it doesn't sound mean to me,,,I agree with you we pay enough for the hairstyle ..

Doodledog Sun 02-Mar-25 13:42:32

I think you handled it perfectly, Lilypops. Being assertive is always better than passive aggression, but not always easy at the time.

pably15 Sun 02-Mar-25 13:40:24

the last time I was at a hairdresser, and it was my last time ...it just happened to be the school prom night, and lots of young girls in getting their hair done,,,it was the owner who was doing my hair,and she couldn't concentrate on mine for watching the other stylists ,and she would leave me and take her phone from her bag to take pictures of these girls she started and stopped cutting my hair 3 times...I felt as if I was in the way...no tip left, and I never went back,,,,

Daisydaisydaisy Sun 02-Mar-25 13:29:13

I think it was very rude and like to think I'd be inclined to say something as I was leaving esp now I'm in My 50s ( I would not have done when I was younger🙂🩷

Calendargirl Fri 28-Feb-25 13:15:33

Glad it’s sorted, situations like that are so awkward.

However, the onus was on the hairdresser to tactfully let the friend know at the time that she was busy doing her job, and would catch up later.

Ilovedogs22 Fri 28-Feb-25 11:40:35

Well done Lilypops, I always think it's best to say something rather than let one's resentment and anger grow & simmer.
Ps I agree finding a good hairdresser is like finding a unicorn these days, I have no idea why though????

dragonfly46 Fri 28-Feb-25 11:11:35

So pleased you sorted it out Lilypops good hairdressers are hard to find.

TerriBull Thu 27-Feb-25 20:58:28

Yes I agree with you OP, I'd be annoyed too, the friend was very rude. Your hairdresser really ought to have a word with her even if it's good that she has been conciliatory to you in offering a free hair appointment. The friend was bang out of order.

Allira Thu 27-Feb-25 20:37:51

Lilypops

Just to come back on this. , I rang my hdresser and I told how unhappy I was with that situation
She apologised saying it was difficult to get rid of her “friend”. She understood my complaint completely agreed with me and offered me a free hairdo next time. Can’t say fairer than that and we are still on good terms and she said she was glad I brought it up ,rather than saying nothing and going somewhere else. So everyone is happy 😃

Well done and a good outcome.

Homestead62 Thu 27-Feb-25 19:42:47

I would not return. I don't tip my hairdresser apart from at Christmas, sorry it sounds mean but it's expensive enough as it is.

Marthjolly1 Thu 27-Feb-25 19:22:19

I think I would have handled this by asking saying to visitor "oh, I'm sorry I didn't catch your name. Where is it you work? - I'll pop in when I'm in that area and in need of a coffee and a chat. Or would your employer object?" Whether or not she does work I would hope she would get the message.

Astitchintime Thu 27-Feb-25 14:33:56

dragonfly46

Redblueandgreen

I would not have left a tip and would not go back.

That is rather 'cutting your nose off' though isn't it?

How so?

I would not have left a tip, nor would I return. Dreadfully rude and unprofessional.

But now I see the OP has addressed this matter with her stylist and has got her point across very well. Pleased you had a positive outcome Lilypops and lets hope the hairdresser has a word with her friend so there is no repeat.

Lilypops Thu 27-Feb-25 14:26:27

Just to come back on this. , I rang my hdresser and I told how unhappy I was with that situation
She apologised saying it was difficult to get rid of her “friend”. She understood my complaint completely agreed with me and offered me a free hairdo next time. Can’t say fairer than that and we are still on good terms and she said she was glad I brought it up ,rather than saying nothing and going somewhere else. So everyone is happy 😃

Washerwoman Thu 27-Feb-25 14:02:29

I changed hairdressers because of a similar situation. I was left sitting in the chair for ages whilst the hairdresser broke off to chat.Then when he came back to finish my hair kept talking over the top of my head. I had been going for years and his prices had got higher and higher and I'd had enough.I don't want fawning over but it's meant to be a pleasant, relaxing experience and it no longer was.

Bellasnana Thu 27-Feb-25 12:24:15

It’s very rude, unprofessional and I’d have felt miffed in your place Lilypops. Having said that, I don’t like confrontation so would not have said anything and would still go back if the hairdresser is good at her job.

Redblueandgreen Thu 27-Feb-25 12:22:15

Dragonfly: it would only be cutting my nose off if I regretted it afterwards or if I was somehow worse off for doing it.

dragonfly46 Thu 27-Feb-25 12:15:50

Redblueandgreen

I would not have left a tip and would not go back.

That is rather 'cutting your nose off' though isn't it?

Redblueandgreen Thu 27-Feb-25 12:12:11

I would not have left a tip and would not go back.

Lilypops Thu 27-Feb-25 12:09:54

I like my hairdresser and she does my hair just how I want it. I didn’t want to make a scene at the time. I will go again. But I think her friend was very rude encroaching on my time , and should use her appointments for a chat.
It’s not cheap but it’s such a good cut and blow , I think I will send her. Message saying how I felt ,

AGAA4 Thu 27-Feb-25 11:44:33

I think I may have made a complaint politely. The hairdresser was not giving you her full attention which is what you pay for. It was very rude of both of them.

Desdemona Thu 27-Feb-25 11:43:45

It's really rude. She should see her friend in her break or when she is in between customers, or her day off!

Athrawes Thu 27-Feb-25 11:36:50

I can be a bit outspoken and certainly in these circumstances. I would be polite - or jokey - saying something along the lines of 'don't forget me here'! But I don't think I'd go to this hairdressers again though - you've paid for this service after all

Susie42 Thu 27-Feb-25 11:34:31

I was a new customer and this happened to me. I didn’t leave a tip and told the receptionist that I would not use their shop again.

dragonfly46 Thu 27-Feb-25 11:33:56

How unprofessional. I would have been extremely annoyed. Very occasionally my hairdresser has one of his 6 children come in to see him but he soon sends them packing.

Whether you go back or not depends on how well she did your hair.

buffyfly9 Thu 27-Feb-25 11:31:03

Difficult at the time but I would have been very annoyed. I hope you didn't leave her a tip and that you have resolved never to go there again.