Feet on sofas

I’d put a throw on the sofa before she comes.

I won't give this a second thought, just they were comfortable in my surroundings, but if I saw something on the sole of her slippers I was say something to her.

I always put my feet up on my own sofa, but would probably not do so on someone else's. I wear indoor shoes and don't give a thought to any dirt on the soles. My furniture is for comfort, not show.

I don’t know if there’s an easy answer to the feet on the sofa years ago when I visited my sister in Georgia I put my handbag on her countertop and she simply picked it up and said handbags don’t live here I’ve never forgotten it so truthfully I think you have to let her know that feet don’t go on sofas and you have to accept that she probably will have some hurt feelings about it but that’s really OK because it’s her stuff

Just as we put covers on our sofas when our DC were small, I would put a cover on before she comes.
I'm sorry you have to put up with her inconsiderate behaviour.

Either put a throw on the sofa or when she's lying out pop an old hand towel or similar under her feet, and tell her to use that every time. Chuck it away when she goes.

I'd never out my feet on my own or anyone else's sofa with shoes or slippers on but can't see why a close friend would object to bare feet or socks.
Next time the OP's friend visits, why not say (politely) you've had the sofa steam-cleaned and would like to keep it clean so she must please remove her footwear.

I think your friend is disgusting and lacking in basic manners. I have my feet up on my sofa now, if I went to a friends house it would not enter my head, its basic manners and showing respect for someone else's home.

I put my feet up on my own sofa, not with shoes on though, and I would never ever do it in someone elses home,

I’m puzzled how you have a friend who comes to your home with dirty feet and skid marks on her slippers 😱

Yes, I put my feet up on my own sofa but never on my friends’ sofas

petra

I’m puzzled how you have a friend who comes to your home with dirty feet and skid marks on her slippers 😱

Me too 🤨. My exaggeration alert flag has just popped up 😁

As your friend tells you just to put your feet up on her sofa, it is plain to me that you and she have been brought up differently on this point.

I would hesitate to put my feet up on someone else's sofa, but I do not agree with those who say it is basic good manners not to - why have a sofa, if it is not so you can put your feet up`?

Dear OP, why on earth do you not just TELL your friend that you object to her putting her feet up on your sofa, and ask her to sit in an armchair?

If a guest in my house puts a piece of bread and butter down on the table, I hand them a side-plate. No-one has ever not taken the hint.

If a guest in my house puts a piece of bread and butter down on the table, I hand them a side-plate. No-one has ever not taken the hint.

Chuckle! Perhaps putting the bread and butter down was the hint you needed to offer them a plate 🙃

I've never put my feet on a sofa, my children and GC/ GGC don't put feet on sofas. If were feet put up on our furniture, I'd ask for feet to remain on the floor.

I expect polite behaviour from others.

Sorry, skid marks on the soles of her slippers... I think she's been outside in them and got them muddy and wiped them on a mat, leaving scraped mud or whatever.

Dirty feet... she often walks around in barefoot in summer, as do I.

It's nice to have a friend who feels at home in my house but it takes the biscuit putting feet on the sofa and having no respect for my property.

I might put a throw on the sofa next time she comes or put a towel under her feet as suggested. Thanks!

I very often have my (shoeless) feet up on the sofa. Same at dds’ houses, or at others when I know them well enough to know they won’t object.

I have a friend and family whose dogs are allowed on their furniture, even beds.
They are definitely not allowed on my furniture. When they look as if they are about to jump I stop them PDQ and after that their owner realises what my rules are.

Grammaretto

I have a friend and family whose dogs are allowed on their furniture, even beds.
They are definitely not allowed on my furniture. When they look as if they are about to jump I stop them PDQ and after that their owner realises what my rules are.

As a dog owner, I think that's really bad, Grammaretto. We don't really take our dog into other people's houses, but if we did, I would never allow him to go onto their furniture - or heaven forbid, their beds. What they do in their own house is of course up to them, but that's extremely poor behaviour to allow a dog to do that in someone else's house.

Lathyrus3

I’d put a throw on the sofa before she comes.

Yes, I agree.
Alternatively, you could take the bull by the horns and actually ask her not to do it.

ViceVersa you are welcome to visit me with or without your dog.

I admit their dogs have never tried to get onto my beds. It was their own
furniture.

Just put a throw over the sofa.. easily washed.. or tell her not to put her feet on it..

Your friend will not know how you feel unless you tell her, if you dont want to tell her then as others have said, a throw is the answer.

We ask visitors to take their shoes off as they come in, and have friends who do likewise, because shoes - especially in this wet muddy weather - will tread some of it into the house no matter how rigorously they wipe their feet. But we do have slippers of varying sizes.
It makes me cringe when I see people putting their feet up on sofa or even on the bed with shoes still on.
Tell your friend, and surely if anyone walks barefoot outside they wash their feet when coming into the house?