Feet on sofas

I think it's assumptive behaviour, even without shoes or slippers. Did the friend ask first, or just put her feet up without asking? Towel under feet is a good idea.

Feet on sofa reminds me of the constant reminder I had when young ie you never put a hat on any surface unless it is upturned. Disgusting thing apparently. Use a throw as with all your comments your friend has had she is not going to change.

I always have my feet up on the sofa in the evenings but I wouldn't dream of doing that in other peoples houses. No one else does in my house.
I have two sofa's and have a long folded in half throw on the seat parts as our cat likes to sleep on there sometimes.

Always have a large fleeces that gets washed often on our sofas and put my feet up often but without slippers on !

I'm always really happy when my friends put their feet up on my sofas as it means they feel relaxed & comfortable in our home. I'd probably point it out in a jokey sort if way if their slippers weren't too clean on the bottoms but, when it comes to dirty feet, I'm sure my feet aren't always the cleanest as I'm usually bare foot in the summer. I don't feel it's something to get uptight about really.

Put a throw on the sofa. We are all getting older now and sometimes it is essential when we are resting to put our feet up so our ankles do not swell.

Tbh if she’s a good friend and I enjoy her company, I’d not give a fig.

I’d pop a blanket or a throw in, but then again we have 4 AC living here and four dogs!

My house is not a show home and I'm a relaxed person about certain things. And I don't mind if someone lies on the sofa, but keep the feet off - you never know where they have been. I'm not an ultra clean and sanitising fanatic at all.

I will put a throw on the sofa next time my friend comes. She has tried to put her feet on a small side table once but I asked her not to because of guest's putting coffee/tea cups there!

I’m stretched out on the sofa right now. And frequently sit curled up with my feet tucked under. Always barefoot or with socks . I don’t mind close friends getting comfy on the sofa. But I wouldn’t do it at someone else’s home.
I’m quite relaxed with visitors as I want them to feel comfortable. My home is lived in , not a show home .

I wouldn't dream of asking people to remove their shoes in my house. Most people offer, but I don't expect it.
And I only ever wear slippers with a dressing gown.

Tell her firmly ,but politely .
If she takes offence then she's not respecting you or your house .
In the past I've bitten my tongue again and again over things which annoy me in the house .
Now I'm less of a people pleaser .

mae13

Vile! Your friend has a very 'relaxed' attitude as regards your home.

Even more of a relaxed attitude to her body washing 😱

must admit at home would not think about myself but would never dare do it in someone else's home, even if they say make yourself at home there are limits!

Family curl up on our sofas, when they come, but I wouldn't expect most visitors to do so.

For ourselves, not for all and sundry😄

Chairs are for sitting- sofas are for lounging...

And laying down on.

keepingquiet

Goodness me- what are sofas for? I like my guests to be comfortable...glad I'll never be invited to some of your homes.
What's wrong with relaxing, for heaven's sake?

What are sofas for? Sitting.

Gingster

I wouldnt say anything as I wouldnt want to offend but I can’t imagine any friends doing it. Family put their feet up (no shoes) but that’s just fine, as it’s home from home for them

What does drive me mad with visitors (family included) is when they hang their coats over the dining room chairs. We have an open plan living area. I promptly take them off and pop them into the cloakroom.

Generally agree with you Ginster. Unfortunately the worst culprit for leaving coats over chairs is DH and 50 plus years has failed to break him of the habit. It is a separate topic, but everything he handles is left neatly beside/below/on top of the place it is meant to be.

Just to add, no friends or visitors have ever done this anyway.

I have my clean feet up on the sofa right now, but it’s my sofa and my house and I would be very taken aback if any visitors to my house did this, other than close family.
Feet up on sofas other than in your own home, even by friends is a no from me.🦶🏻🦶🏻

Yes, I agree. Homes are to be lived in - not kept as show houses.

keepingquiet

It's a wonder some of you even have visitors! Talk about hospitality...

Yup! 😂

I often think, on threads like this, that most of you would absolutely die (figuratively speaking) in my house 😂. We even have a mud room.

And yet, it is not unhygienic. As a health and hygiene ossifer in a day care centre I can say that.

Sofas were built for putting you feet up! Not outdoor shoes naturally, but of course feet.

It's a wonder some of you even have visitors! Talk about hospitality...