Feet on sofas

Tell her firmly ,but politely .
If she takes offence then she's not respecting you or your house .
In the past I've bitten my tongue again and again over things which annoy me in the house .
Now I'm less of a people pleaser .

I wouldn't dream of asking people to remove their shoes in my house. Most people offer, but I don't expect it.
And I only ever wear slippers with a dressing gown.

I’m stretched out on the sofa right now. And frequently sit curled up with my feet tucked under. Always barefoot or with socks . I don’t mind close friends getting comfy on the sofa. But I wouldn’t do it at someone else’s home.
I’m quite relaxed with visitors as I want them to feel comfortable. My home is lived in , not a show home .

My house is not a show home and I'm a relaxed person about certain things. And I don't mind if someone lies on the sofa, but keep the feet off - you never know where they have been. I'm not an ultra clean and sanitising fanatic at all.

I will put a throw on the sofa next time my friend comes. She has tried to put her feet on a small side table once but I asked her not to because of guest's putting coffee/tea cups there!

Tbh if she’s a good friend and I enjoy her company, I’d not give a fig.

I’d pop a blanket or a throw in, but then again we have 4 AC living here and four dogs!

Put a throw on the sofa. We are all getting older now and sometimes it is essential when we are resting to put our feet up so our ankles do not swell.

I'm always really happy when my friends put their feet up on my sofas as it means they feel relaxed & comfortable in our home. I'd probably point it out in a jokey sort if way if their slippers weren't too clean on the bottoms but, when it comes to dirty feet, I'm sure my feet aren't always the cleanest as I'm usually bare foot in the summer. I don't feel it's something to get uptight about really.

Always have a large fleeces that gets washed often on our sofas and put my feet up often but without slippers on !

I always have my feet up on the sofa in the evenings but I wouldn't dream of doing that in other peoples houses. No one else does in my house.
I have two sofa's and have a long folded in half throw on the seat parts as our cat likes to sleep on there sometimes.

Feet on sofa reminds me of the constant reminder I had when young ie you never put a hat on any surface unless it is upturned. Disgusting thing apparently. Use a throw as with all your comments your friend has had she is not going to change.

I think it's assumptive behaviour, even without shoes or slippers. Did the friend ask first, or just put her feet up without asking? Towel under feet is a good idea.

If she insists the only thing you cab do is a put a towel on the sofa.
I don’t like it when people put their suitcase on the bed when there is a long seat it could be put on.

Ditto, but why would you go to someone's house with dirty feet?🤢

I have to share something that happened years ago. A friend of my husband from out of state came to visit and brought his wife. This was my first time meeting them. We had just moved into our home and had a new light colored sofa. The wife kicked off her flip flops and sat on the sofa with her dirty feet up. I would never do that in someone else's home.I think it's a rude thing to do.

Grammaretto

I have a friend and family whose dogs are allowed on their furniture, even beds.
They are definitely not allowed on my furniture. When they look as if they are about to jump I stop them PDQ and after that their owner realises what my rules are.

That’s us! However, not when guests are here if they don’t like dogs and certainly never ever at anyone else’s house!

A close relative drove me mad by placing/laying her walking stick on the dining room table every time she visited (and also if we were out and about and we visited a cafe).

I really did not understand why she thought this was OK. I'm fairly relaxed in my household but the ferule will have gone through the same dirt, puddles, mud etc as the bottom of her shoes and I don't suppose for one moment she would put her shoes up on the table!

I would gently remove the walking stick and lean it against the wall or chair ............... every time!

long seat ?
Did you mean chaise longue @ Mokryna ?

RosieandherMaw

^long seat^ ?
Did you mean chaise longue @ Mokryna ?

I don not think so, we have chests at the bottom of the beds in our visitor's bedrooms and a long wooden bench in the hall for people to place bags, sticks, hats, gloves etc etc on.

Isn’t the former called an ottoman?
I suggested “chaise longue” as I know mokryna lives/ lived in France!

And a bench is called a bench (unless it’s a pew!)

I bought my deep and long sofa specifically so I could sit with my feet up. I can't sit comfortably with my feet on the floor, my legs are too short and it makes them ache. My home isn't a show house, it's for comfort. Nor would I mind if friends put their feet up. But I wouldn't do it at someone else's house without checking first.

My dog has his own space and fleecy blanket on my settee.

I also have his little doggie bed and fleece on the bottom of my bed He’s a chihuahua so doesn’t take up much room.

I wouldn’t mind if someone made themselves at home by putting their feet up on my settee either, although no one does.
I wouldn’t do it in someone else’s home only my dsis’s as she doesn’t mind.

They can keep their shoes on as I have wooden floors so easily cleaned.

My home is a home where everyone is welcome and hopefully everyone who visits feels chilled and at home.

Op I would do as others have suggested and before your friend visits would put a throw over the settee but be chuffed that she feels so comfortable at yours that she feels she can relax as she would at home.

People put their feet on my sofas at my invitation. Dogs too lie on my furniture, beds, chairs whatever. I have put a lot of thought into how best to cover sofas and chairs so they can be reasonably clean. My chair that gets the most use, from me and dog, has several throws so there is one in use, one in the wash, and one in the drawer.

If dirt on feet and dogs is outstanding, and this can happen, I'd ask for the shoes and/or dogs to be washed.

I think, Twin Lolly, everyone has their house rules and has a right to their own house rules. You should not even need to explain your rule about no feet on the sofa.Your house your rule.

I have a no outdoor shoes in house routine and have no issue with feet on the settee. I wonder how many who worry about feet on the sofa let pets on their sofas and beds with their dirty feet, fur and unwired bottoms etc 🤮