Feet on sofas

I wouldnt say anything as I wouldnt want to offend but I can’t imagine any friends doing it. Family put their feet up (no shoes) but that’s just fine, as it’s home from home for them

What does drive me mad with visitors (family included) is when they hang their coats over the dining room chairs. We have an open plan living area. I promptly take them off and pop them into the cloakroom.

If you don’t like feet on your sofa try offering a foot stool. I can’t say anything cos our dogs sometimes sit next to me on the sofa. It’s nice and cosy

Charleygirl5

I never put my feet on sofas, my own or anybody else's. As a child, I was not allowed to, and I always had to sit with two legs on the floor.

I would not like other people to do it here, especially as feet perspire, but I also have the sofa covered because when I had a cat, that was one of her many resting places.

But hands perspire as well, and get very dirty - anyway most people will have socks or tights on.

Personally I think people get too uptight about hygiene (as distinct from dealing with dirt). Our bodies, inside and out are host to trillions of micro-organisms. Bacteria, single-celled organisms known as archaea, as well as fungi, viruses and other microbes. They are all over our clothes, so why worry about a pair of (clean) bare feet.

Goodness me- what are sofas for? I like my guests to be comfortable...glad I'll never be invited to some of your homes.
What's wrong with relaxing, for heaven's sake?

I never put my feet on sofas, my own or anybody else's. As a child, I was not allowed to, and I always had to sit with two legs on the floor.

I would not like other people to do it here, especially as feet perspire, but I also have the sofa covered because when I had a cat, that was one of her many resting places.

All my DC have no shoes indoors policy but here I don't. I don't have fitted carpets downstairs, but wooden floors and rugs which are easily cleaned.
My feet get cold if I have to go barefoot or in socks.

Our rule is no shoes or slippers on any furniture, not just sofas.
I have no rules about taking your shoes off when you come in the front door. However I confess the moment I sit down, my feet are out of my shoes, which is why I change into mules the moment I walk in the house - but also go in the garden and walk outside in them.

This habit of slipping my shoes off, used to cause problems at work. I would be busy at my desk, shoes off, but under desk. If any one senior came to speak to me, before I stood up I had to first locate my shoes and slide my feet into them.

Oh boy, now I'm wondering about my own manners! I regularly tuck my feet under me when I get comfy on my couch. I couldn't tell you if I do it while out... maybe if I'm comfortable at someone's house, like family.

But as Canadians, no-one ever wears shoes indoors, so feet and socks are clean. I wouldn't think twice about someone putting their feet up.

One of my sons-in-law would go spare if anyone didn't take their shoes off at the front door, so I always take a pair of slippers. I never put them up on the sofa cos my legs won't bend that way!

My late best friend always sat on her own sofa with her feet tucked underneath her body (which I have never been able to do) but NEVER did that in anyone else's house.

I think the throw is a good idea.

Vile! Your friend has a very 'relaxed' attitude as regards your home.

pascal30

Just put a throw over the sofa.. easily washed.. or tell her not to put her feet on it..

This- simple enough.

We ask visitors to take their shoes off as they come in, and have friends who do likewise, because shoes - especially in this wet muddy weather - will tread some of it into the house no matter how rigorously they wipe their feet. But we do have slippers of varying sizes.
It makes me cringe when I see people putting their feet up on sofa or even on the bed with shoes still on.
Tell your friend, and surely if anyone walks barefoot outside they wash their feet when coming into the house?

Your friend will not know how you feel unless you tell her, if you dont want to tell her then as others have said, a throw is the answer.

Just put a throw over the sofa.. easily washed.. or tell her not to put her feet on it..

ViceVersa you are welcome to visit me with or without your dog.

I admit their dogs have never tried to get onto my beds. It was their own
furniture.

Lathyrus3

I’d put a throw on the sofa before she comes.

Yes, I agree.
Alternatively, you could take the bull by the horns and actually ask her not to do it.

Grammaretto

I have a friend and family whose dogs are allowed on their furniture, even beds.
They are definitely not allowed on my furniture. When they look as if they are about to jump I stop them PDQ and after that their owner realises what my rules are.

As a dog owner, I think that's really bad, Grammaretto. We don't really take our dog into other people's houses, but if we did, I would never allow him to go onto their furniture - or heaven forbid, their beds. What they do in their own house is of course up to them, but that's extremely poor behaviour to allow a dog to do that in someone else's house.

I have a friend and family whose dogs are allowed on their furniture, even beds.
They are definitely not allowed on my furniture. When they look as if they are about to jump I stop them PDQ and after that their owner realises what my rules are.

I very often have my (shoeless) feet up on the sofa. Same at dds’ houses, or at others when I know them well enough to know they won’t object.

Sorry, skid marks on the soles of her slippers... I think she's been outside in them and got them muddy and wiped them on a mat, leaving scraped mud or whatever.

Dirty feet... she often walks around in barefoot in summer, as do I.

It's nice to have a friend who feels at home in my house but it takes the biscuit putting feet on the sofa and having no respect for my property.

I might put a throw on the sofa next time she comes or put a towel under her feet as suggested. Thanks!

I've never put my feet on a sofa, my children and GC/ GGC don't put feet on sofas. If were feet put up on our furniture, I'd ask for feet to remain on the floor.

I expect polite behaviour from others.

If a guest in my house puts a piece of bread and butter down on the table, I hand them a side-plate. No-one has ever not taken the hint.

Chuckle! Perhaps putting the bread and butter down was the hint you needed to offer them a plate 🙃

As your friend tells you just to put your feet up on her sofa, it is plain to me that you and she have been brought up differently on this point.

I would hesitate to put my feet up on someone else's sofa, but I do not agree with those who say it is basic good manners not to - why have a sofa, if it is not so you can put your feet up`?

Dear OP, why on earth do you not just TELL your friend that you object to her putting her feet up on your sofa, and ask her to sit in an armchair?

If a guest in my house puts a piece of bread and butter down on the table, I hand them a side-plate. No-one has ever not taken the hint.

petra

I’m puzzled how you have a friend who comes to your home with dirty feet and skid marks on her slippers 😱

Me too 🤨. My exaggeration alert flag has just popped up 😁

Yes, I put my feet up on my own sofa but never on my friends’ sofas