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JaneJudge

btw I would have gone to the school and fetched him but I'm far too soft for my own good sometimes

Same here, but I can see that being on a much need holiday throws a spanner in the works.
Surely the school should have arranged for him to be driven to A&E for an xray?
I don’t think your DD should be doing things like a malicious tit for tat by cancelling Easter plans with you btw.
If you’re two hours away normally then it’s no good really the school having you down as a go to contact is it?

If the OP normally lives 2 hours away I’m surprised the school had her as a contact in the first place. Had she not been on holiday in the vicinity the child’s mother would presumably have had to go to the school herself which I think she should have done, or made arrangements with the childminder. Though I also think the school might have taken the boy to A&E and waited for his mother there since the accident happened on school premises.
I can see why the OP felt she was being used. Had it been me I would’ve gone, but then I might have been the one feeling cool about the Easter arrangements.
Some posters talk as though the boy was younger and the accident more serious than was the case.

Oldnproud

pascal30

I wonder if you should continue as the emergency phone contact.. what did you think the responsibilities of that were?

As I read it, the OP's responsibility was agreed to for normal circumstances, when at home, not when she was on holiday. It was the parent's responsibility to have other plans in place for if the grandparents were not available, not the OP's.

They were nearer than they usually were when st home.

Would a school accept a grandparent who lives two hours away as an emergency contact?

Well I'm with you in this. If your phone had been switched off, you'd never have known.
I blame mobile phones!

As it was GS was OK, thankfully.
Little you can do about it now Sparkly but let the dust settle and get on with life.
She, DD, will probably come round.

In your place I would have dropped everything to help an injured grandchild but in that moment perhaps you couldn't think straight?

I might have questioned the rights and wrongs of it afterwards, but I would been straight there, twenty minutes away is nothing, I’m not sure I’m totally understanding this, why are you on holiday only twenty minutes away?

I wouldn't ask my parents or my in-laws to collect my child for something like a cold/illness etc, I'd make the way there myself, but for something as serious as suspected broken ankle and them being closer to the school than I was, I'd like to think they'd collect their grandkid and take him to the hospital.
I can see why your daughter is a bit off.

I sympathise with you. It often very difficult to please everybody.

Apart from your DD and GS, you had to consider DH who is not related to DD or GS and yourself as a nervous driver on unfamiliar roads.

It is all very well for the chorus of disapproval to criticise they are not you and they didn't have to face your dilemma. Maybe, with hindsight, you might have made the wrong decision that is for you to decide.

Allira

And?

It would matter not, they were nearer than they normally are.

Irrelevant. They were taking a much-needed break and the parent should have had other emergency plans in place.

Well I would have dropped everything for one of my grandchildren in trouble

They may have been on holiday but it was not in the pacific ocean they were nearer than anyone else and she’s down as the contact so she should have gone or before going on holiday let the school and the daughter know that she wouldn’t be available for a week or whatever the duration of the holiday was
Poor young chap everyone too busy

btw I would have gone to the school and fetched him but I'm far too soft for my own good sometimes

I wouldn't have asked my Mum if she was on holiday. It wasn't as if the Mum couldn't fetch him either, it just would have taken longer than just driving to the hospital. Grandma would have to drive to school, get grandson put in car, drive to hospital. That imo would take about an hour and then there is the return journey back

pascal30

I wonder if you should continue as the emergency phone contact.. what did you think the responsibilities of that were?

As I read it, the OP's responsibility was agreed to for normal circumstances, when at home, not when she was on holiday. It was the parent's responsibility to have other plans in place for if the grandparents were not available, not the OP's.

Quite Allira.

And?

It would matter not, they were nearer than they normally are.

JaneJudge

am I the only one who has read that they were ON HOLIDAY

Quite.

Methinks it's all rather 🤥

I would have gone, I could not see my Granchild in pain. Why are you the emergency contact when you live 2 hours away from your daughter?
I would ask your daughter to take uou off as the contact with the School.

I wonder if you should continue as the emergency phone contact.. what did you think the responsibilities of that were?

JaneJudge

I think the boy's Mum should have fetched him. It's what we do. She was only 15 minutes further away than Grandma who was on holiday

when she phoned back she asked if I could as her to drive from work to school would take at least an hour.

The grandparents were nearer, about 20 miles away.

and whilst you both are angry with one another, where are the children's Father/s

I don't understand this part either:

I’m down as an emergency contact at school for both kids
We live 2 hours away normally
That is no use in an emergency; the school should be questioning that.
"For day pupils: An “Emergency Contact” is someone who is an alternative point of contact and who will be able to provide assistance to a child at short notice."

Sounds rather far-fetched to me.

I think the boy's Mum should have fetched him. It's what we do. She was only 15 minutes further away than Grandma who was on holiday

Nor could I.

Sparklyhairgran

Allira

You left your grandson in pain at school, with a possible broken ankle, needing to go to A&E for an X-ray, because you didn't want to cancel your dinner reservations?
Really? 😯

What did Mumsnetters say?

They were absolutely horrible and accused me of being reverse. Didn’t see my point of view at all 😞

Well, I won't tell you you're horrible but I'm not surprised Mumnetters were astonished, as am I.

I don't see your point of view either. I couldn't leave my grandchild like that.

So you were on holiday, but only 20 miles from the school. You only had to drive there and then take him to the hospital. That would not have ruined your holiday but you’ve certainly damaged your relationship with your daughter and grandchild. You had nothing to ‘drop’ but your dinner reservation.