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I would have gone.

You left your grandson in pain at school, with a possible broken ankle, needing to go to A&E for an X-ray, because you didn't want to cancel your dinner reservations?
Really? 😯

What did Mumsnetters say?

I can see both sides here, your daughter could not go and collect him quickly and when a child is injured you want someone they know to be with them.

To me your reasons for not going were rather trivial compared to an injured grandchild.

I can understand her being off with you at this time as to her you put yourselves before her child.

If you had a good relationship before it will probably be resolved.

Allira

You left your grandson in pain at school, with a possible broken ankle, needing to go to A&E for an X-ray, because you didn't want to cancel your dinner reservations?
Really? 😯

What did Mumsnetters say?

They were absolutely horrible and accused me of being reverse. Didn’t see my point of view at all 😞

If you have agreed to be the school's contact number you really should have gone. I feel very sorry for your grandchild - they must have felt abandoned.

I can't imagine not picking up my grandson and taking him to hospital. You were well and truly told off on Mumsnet, and quite rightly in my opinion. Do you think you'll get a more favourable response here? I doubt it. Your holiday came before the well being of a child and a child you are related to. You were the nearest to him and refused. I'm not surprised your daughter is being distant. And no, she's not cutting her nose off. You have done that by your (non) action.

I’m surprised that you chose your dinner reservation and your wish not to drive above your grandson’s need to be taken to A&E. I’m not surprised she’s being distant and has cancelled the Easter plans. You don’t seem to be at all concerned that your grandson was left in pain. You come across as very selfish.

Grandmabatty

I can't imagine not picking up my grandson and taking him to hospital. You were well and truly told off on Mumsnet, and quite rightly in my opinion. Do you think you'll get a more favourable response here? I doubt it. Your holiday came before the well being of a child and a child you are related to. You were the nearest to him and refused. I'm not surprised your daughter is being distant. And no, she's not cutting her nose off. You have done that by your (non) action.

To be honest I hoped here would be people who understood it’s not as simple as drop everything and run. My husband has underlying health conditions and we were on holiday because of the stress we have been under recently.

am I the only one who has read that they were ON HOLIDAY

So you were on holiday, but only 20 miles from the school. You only had to drive there and then take him to the hospital. That would not have ruined your holiday but you’ve certainly damaged your relationship with your daughter and grandchild. You had nothing to ‘drop’ but your dinner reservation.

Sparklyhairgran

Allira

You left your grandson in pain at school, with a possible broken ankle, needing to go to A&E for an X-ray, because you didn't want to cancel your dinner reservations?
Really? 😯

What did Mumsnetters say?

They were absolutely horrible and accused me of being reverse. Didn’t see my point of view at all 😞

Well, I won't tell you you're horrible but I'm not surprised Mumnetters were astonished, as am I.

I don't see your point of view either. I couldn't leave my grandchild like that.

Nor could I.

I think the boy's Mum should have fetched him. It's what we do. She was only 15 minutes further away than Grandma who was on holiday

I don't understand this part either:

I’m down as an emergency contact at school for both kids
We live 2 hours away normally
That is no use in an emergency; the school should be questioning that.
"For day pupils: An “Emergency Contact” is someone who is an alternative point of contact and who will be able to provide assistance to a child at short notice."

Sounds rather far-fetched to me.

and whilst you both are angry with one another, where are the children's Father/s

JaneJudge

I think the boy's Mum should have fetched him. It's what we do. She was only 15 minutes further away than Grandma who was on holiday

when she phoned back she asked if I could as her to drive from work to school would take at least an hour.

The grandparents were nearer, about 20 miles away.

I wonder if you should continue as the emergency phone contact.. what did you think the responsibilities of that were?

I would have gone, I could not see my Granchild in pain. Why are you the emergency contact when you live 2 hours away from your daughter?
I would ask your daughter to take uou off as the contact with the School.

Methinks it's all rather 🤥

JaneJudge

am I the only one who has read that they were ON HOLIDAY

Quite.

And?

It would matter not, they were nearer than they normally are.

Quite Allira.

pascal30

I wonder if you should continue as the emergency phone contact.. what did you think the responsibilities of that were?

As I read it, the OP's responsibility was agreed to for normal circumstances, when at home, not when she was on holiday. It was the parent's responsibility to have other plans in place for if the grandparents were not available, not the OP's.