The answer is NO!

Whiff

I hate the people who come to my door asking for charity donations. The only exception is Santa, the Lions at Christmas.

I give to the charities I support by direct donation.

I don't like people coming to the door asking for money either. Often they are people you know a little bit, which makes it even worse.

People choose where to donate, and are not answerable to others. Saying no is easier for some than others, and nobody should be made to feel awkward on their own doorstep.

Recently a charitable organisation outside a shopping mall asked for a donation so I offered a $10 note. They refused and said the minimum was $ 20 . Cheek! I walked past. I will never support that mob again.

No need to be so angry Sago 😂

I briefly worked for a charity that said I would never work for one again. I donate through DD to charities of my choice and donate freely all the time to charity shops.
However I am sick of being pounced on by collectors for charity where ever we go. There is no end to constant in your face requests for donations it’s intrusive and rude.

Just to add if I sound angry so be it I don’t make excuses for being honest.

I think that these requests should not be on card payment devices. There are already enough distractions and stresses around shopping.

I’ve had this in Sainsbury’s, TK Maxx, a card shop wants me to buy a pen as well etc etc. I say no and then feel guilty. It’s the same when I get them at the door. They are asking for worthy causes but I don’t want to be pressurised into a monthly amount just because I answered the door.

I have 3 different charities that I donate regularly to and have chosen to leave sums in my will to. Usually put the odd pennies in box too as think it is a good way to collect that little bit more. BUT it is my choice, and I do not want anyone pushing me to do anything. Some charities have lost out now, as I used to try and save up my small change and then give £10 or £20 when I had collected that up. However I then found I was getting constant letters asking for monthly amounts etc. and specific amounts . As I am a pensioner on a low fixed pension I can not commit to any further monthly amounts, especially now with everything going up all the time.

I do what I can to support the charities I want to , and give time , (I spent 10 years doing 3 days a week as a hospital car driver, and a volunteer driver for the bus up the dales ) and do flag days etc and have done plant stalls to raise money for them. But now I will only put money in tins or go to the specific charity shops and not have anything written down as too many of their letters become demanding and seem to be bent on trying to put a guilt angle to it. I know I am not the only one, and a friend of mine has become so annoyed with a charity that she donated to monthly but who constantly asked her for more in letters that she has actually cancelled her payment to them and moved to another charity.

If I am asked nicely, I will reply that I already donate to charities of my choice. I refuse to have tips or 10% or whatever automatically added on my bill anywhere. Occasionally would send in a review of somewhere that had been especially good , but now these endless "surveys" of how did we do also annoy me and I just delete them.








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I too am fed up of every shop seeming to do this at the moment. I also feel uncomfortable walking past those hovering in supermarket doorways trying to recruit you to sign up a regular donation to their charity. My DH and I support certain charities of our choice.

Interesting this. I haven’t been asked.

welbeck

Doesn't bother me.
I think it's quite a good idea.
Some of you sound grumpy.
What's the beef ??
You can just skip it.

But we shouldn't be expected to be asked.

These requests to make a decision not to give, in public in front of other people, is a form of moral blackmail, and while I and others on this thread do not give a toss about what conclusions the person behind the till, or behind me at the till, or wherever, reaches about me, when I refuse to give, other people are more sensitive to what people think of them, and will be morally pressured into giving because they do not want to be seen to refuse in public.

People should not be pressured into giving by the threat of public humiliation if they do not. As I said some of us are immune to such pressures, many are not.

Yet again that Alexander Pope line comes to mind:
“Do good by stealth and blush to find it fame.”

Perhaps a reply of "You have no right to ask." Or even "I suggest you read Alexander Pope's writings on charity."

You'd most likely get a bemused look but it would work I think.

I don’t see a problem with it. Just say no thanks and move on, no need to get cranky about it. Charities are struggling to stay afloat so they’re well within their rights to ask. People will soon moan when, for example, hospices or support charities close.

It's not cranky to want people to mind their own business. Check-outs are not the place for charities to ask for donations. When holding charity collection boxes at supermarket doors in the past, we were always told not to beg, not to shake the tin, just stand there and smile.

Asking at check-outs is intrusive and impolite. Perhaps this is why "charities are struggling to stay afloat" as gillycats said.

Well, one of the reasons. Another is overpaid CEOs and workers in foreign countries abusing people (Oxfam and others).

Also, shop owners/managers should not be asking check-out workers to beg for charities. It's not part of their duties.

To be fair, Oxfam since the complaints 2017 -2021 have completely overhauled their systems and there are no subsequent complaints. Save the Children since 2020

I haven't heard news subsequently. Anyway, we can chose other or local charities. They are all struggling - animal charities, hospices, I think there is no harm in asking politely at tills, don't see it as an imposition as I said as long as a polite no thanks is accepted.

I'd much rather someone mention it at the till or have a table at the supermarket for than coming round knocking on my door at home. Then I do feel "obliged" to say well I actually support this and that..

The worse place to be asked for a charity donations is at the exit of a hospital. Last month I had a very stressful and upsetting appointment only to be stopped on the way out by someone asking for donations for cancer research. Normally I would have stopped and donated but this day I was too upset trying to process what I had just been told.
The man asked if I don't care about advances in cancer research and that it's only a small donation. Left in tears.

Just been looking at my online energy account (Octopus).

I see amongst the bumph they are asking for donations to charity.

I didn’t study it properly, but won’t be doing it, whatever it is.

Sago stand your ground! Your hubby had no right to be angry with you, it's your choice and your money to say no!

I know the staff are only doing as instructed by asking for donations, I don't actually blame them, they're just doing their job but some of them are pushy!

I always say no thank you and leave it at that but when I've had ''it's only a small amount'' I threaten to speak to their superiors, and I underline the word ''superiors'' when I say it, it soon shuts them up!

I donate things to and buy from charity shops but I won't be pressured into donating/buying anything and I won't have pushy staff trying to humiliate or embarrass me, either!

No means no!

nanna8, if that was me I'd have contacted HO with a VERY strong word! How utterly greedy and selfish!

I'm always getting emails demanding money ''just £98.00 will feed...''

JUST £98.00?!

When I hear about struggling charities I do wonder if there are simply too many, or if they are trying to do too much.

Alternatively, people are increasingly feeling insecure about their own well-being – for a multitude of reasons political and otherwise – and are holding back accordingly.

It's not a simple issue.

I’m the same, the self checkout in Asda asks if you want to donate and I click no. I won’t be pressured into donating, and will choose where I do donate

The stands in shopping centres that ask you to set up a direct debit for their charity can be very annoying as the collectors try to make you feel guilty for refusing. I have several Dd set up for charities that mean something to me and I won’t be bullied into signing up to one that I’m not sure about.

to be asked is not the issue but the problem is when you said no your response was ignored. I'm often asked and most of the time I say no. It generally depends on the charity . Even self service tills will ask you to donate. The shop assistant was in the wrong in ignoring your reply.