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AIBU

The answer is NO!

(92 Posts)
Sago Thu 27-Mar-25 11:00:04

I am sick of being asked publicly at check outs if I want to donate to charity.

Shopping for wine in Majestic just now we were asked, I said no the server said it’s only a small amount, I said no again.

I explained that I feel strongly that nobody should be asked to donate it should be voluntary, some people can feel humiliated if they decline.

For context this week I have made 3 charitable donations and we have a monthly standing order to a hospice.
I am not uncharitable!

My husband was cross with me and said I should have just said yes.

AIBU?

Shinamae Thu 27-Mar-25 11:02:13

I feel exactly the same and feel as though I am being ambushed and will not contribute in this way
I too contribute to charities but will not be pressurised in this way..

GrannyGravy13 Thu 27-Mar-25 11:03:25

Totally agree Sago who, how, when and how much I donate to charity is private, I do not want to be asked to donate to any charitable organisation whilst shopping.

Grandmabatty Thu 27-Mar-25 11:03:53

I think that it was out of order to try and cajole you into donating! It doesn't matter how worthy they think the charity is and how giving a little can't help, you are perfectly within your rights to refuse. It's my decision who to give to, where and when. Not some random person

Calendargirl Thu 27-Mar-25 11:04:33

I can’t recall being asked anywhere.

I know charity shops often have items ending in 99p, and when paying cash, people often say to put the odd pence in the charity box.

If I were asked anywhere, I would just say ‘no thank you’.

62Granny Thu 27-Mar-25 11:07:18

And the only reason they ask is so that they can say "they have donated xx amount to charities" and claim tax relief but at the end of the day it is us that are donating not the company.

emmasnan Thu 27-Mar-25 11:10:36

In one of my local stores the person on the check out usually cancels the donation request without asking before they tell me the amount.

Poppyred Thu 27-Mar-25 11:17:13

Totally agree Sago. I choose who I donate to, not them!

Cossy Thu 27-Mar-25 11:21:19

No! No one should be pressured into giving to Charity, anywhere, ever!

Wheniwasyourage Thu 27-Mar-25 11:32:52

I came across this in a charity shop for the first time recently, although I know others have posted about it for a while. It was an Oxfam bookshop, where we had just donated a pile of books and then bought a few more (not a good way to declutter, but that's another problem!). We were asked if we wanted to round up and said no. It's very annoying, and like other posters, I will choose where, when and to whom I donate.

Millie22 Thu 27-Mar-25 11:56:52

It's very annoying.

In Superdrug recently they asked for I think it was 25p extra for Marie Curie. Obviously a new thing that all the shops are trying.

ViceVersa Thu 27-Mar-25 12:00:09

This really annoys me too. I was in Asda this morning and at the self service check out it asks you if you want to donate. I donate to small charities whose work I know and support. Like others say, it's about choosing where, when and who to support. - and these firms make massive profits anyway! Donate some of that to charity.

Greenfinch Thu 27-Mar-25 12:22:46

DH would agree but I find it embarrassing especially in charity shops. He buys their greetings cards and they only ask him to donate 1p if the card is 99p He says it is the principle :if they want to charge £1 they should. I hurry out of the shop before it is his turn in the queue! Can’t believe he would quibble over a penny!

Elowen33 Thu 27-Mar-25 12:26:29

Previously when most were paying for items using cash people would put their change into a collection box on the counter, with most people using cards this is a different way of doing that.

I dont mind when it is on a self serve screen or card payment device where it asks if you want to round the cost up to the nearest pound, but I dont really like being asked, this is not the servers fault though they have to say what is on their screen.

NotSpaghetti Thu 27-Mar-25 12:33:06

I just say no.
It's up to me where I donate.

NotSpaghetti Thu 27-Mar-25 12:33:49

It does make me think though and often triggers a (bigger!) donation elsewhere!

Boz Thu 27-Mar-25 12:48:13

A bit off-piste, but DH has vowed to never frequent a tearoom again after being asked for a tip upfront on the cc machine. What!! A tip is for good service surely which you judge afterwards not before.

Oldbat1 Thu 27-Mar-25 14:46:54

Yes totally fed up with it! Fuel station Go Outdoors Oxfam Cancer Research. “Press RED button for NO and the GREEN for yes. I choose which charities I want to donate to not shops.

Calendargirl Thu 27-Mar-25 15:31:17

Greenfinch

DH would agree but I find it embarrassing especially in charity shops. He buys their greetings cards and they only ask him to donate 1p if the card is 99p He says it is the principle :if they want to charge £1 they should. I hurry out of the shop before it is his turn in the queue! Can’t believe he would quibble over a penny!

But if you bought the 99p card at a card shop or newsagents, I don’t think they expect you to donate the 1p.

I’m with your DH, charge £1 then and be done with it.

Witzend Thu 27-Mar-25 15:42:06

Not the point, I know, but the Asda self checkout is always asking lately for a contribution to a breast cancer charity. I do often wonder why there’s so much more fund raising for breast cancer, than for prostate cancer.

We have lost no less than four good friends to prostate cancer, none to breast cancer, although two family members have had it, and have recovered.

Wyllow3 Thu 27-Mar-25 15:50:44

I don't mind at all being asked, as long as no one tries to push it on me or guilt trip.

henetha Thu 27-Mar-25 15:54:12

I haven't come across this yet, but agree it's annoying. I prefer to choose how and when I give to charity and don't like being ambushed. So I hope this doesn't come to Devon.

eazybee Thu 27-Mar-25 17:33:28

The reason goods are priced at 95p or 99p is so that change has to be given so the till has to be opened and the transaction recorded. I put the penny in the charity box but not the 5p; I save those and donate them to the charity of my choice. Have done for years.

Whiff Thu 27-Mar-25 17:37:48

I hate the people who come to my door asking for charity donations. The only exception is Santa, the Lions at Christmas.

I give to the charities I support by direct donation.

welbeck Thu 27-Mar-25 22:38:57

Doesn't bother me.
I think it's quite a good idea.
Some of you sound grumpy.
What's the beef ??
You can just skip it.