Feeling annoyed today.

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How odd as he has his own car. Is there a bus service which would take him? It's a lot to just assume that a neighbour will drive 20 miles. Does he offer to pay for petrol? Next time I would say ' Sorry I can't manage it today. Have you given up driving? There's a bus at the end of the road.'

😄 good advice.
This guy is saving himself the petrol, what a nerve!

That's your ex's issue

Nothing you can do

My son has told me this man asks him for lifts all the time and his dad doesn't like to refuse.Its stressing him.

I think all this is the key bit.

He doesnt like to refuse

Why?
He likes the man?
He feels he owes him favours?
The other man is bullying him?
Your ex is a people pleaser?[even by that standard, there may be something else going on as well].

Your ex is getting stressed.
Maybe not your problem to get to the bottom of it.
But hopefully your son may want to.

It's up to your ex to make sure he is not so readily available. Not answering the phone would be a start or if he does then he's busy doing something else. The neighbour would get the message eventually.

Hard to know. I think he had told him he would drop the parcel off next time he was passing the other town.He wasn't going to go there today.If it was me I wouldn't answer the phone so quickly.

Not much you can do really. Does your son live with his dad?
It may be frustrating but your ex is free to do what he wants.

If your son is concerned then you can support your son in making his choices but I would leave ex well alone.

Is your ex a door-mat?

Seriously though, if being at the beck and call of this chap is causing stress, he’s got to start and say no.
He had the perfect opportunity today, by saying he couldn’t help as he was out and about himself?

Maybe it’s a symbiotic thing - your ex needs to feel wanted and helpful, while the other chap is the recipient of your ex’s good deeds?

He had a good reason to say no as he was at your house but chose not to. Maybe he likes doing it.

How odd as he has his own car. Is there a bus service which would take him? It's a lot to just assume that a neighbour will drive 20 miles. Does he offer to pay for petrol? Next time I would say ' Sorry I can't manage it today. Have you given up driving? There's a bus at the end of the road.'

Is your ex a people pleaser?

I think the only way to stop your ex is to know what is driving him to do so[excuse the pun].