When one partner likes to be naked

I’m with you! On holiday my husband goes naked as much as possible and it drives me mad, he gets in the hot tub and the bubbles are blasting his germs everywhere, I hate it! And an older man naked makes me barf quite frankly. I ask him how he would like to sit on a garden chair where the previous occupant had sat on it with his hairy bare bum but he just ignores me.

Is this real ? 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I think it’s hilarious tbh

Does he wear a hat?

My father was just the same as your husband. In the summer when older he would lie outside naked which was embarrassing.
My late husband who used to be shy of wearing light clothes on the beach. However, when my father introduced him to naked beaches he wanted to join them and always preferred naked beaches which did upset our sons so we left him to enjoy naked beaches. However, with him, it was only when on holiday

Hope there are no drones fflying about. Or worse some wasps!

Crochet or knit a little daisy with elastic on to cover his extremities.

Best laugh today!!! 🤣

Ugh, no. There comes a point where you have to be honest about your feelings. It's not fair for him to do something that he wants to, regardless of how uncomfortable it makes you feel.

Yes, you are being unreasonable

Tell him to stop reading Wind in the Willies.

It would be grounds for divorce in this house. If he wants to do this then fair enough, he joins a nudist colony in order to spare you the horror of it.

AGAA4

BlueBelle I have that image in my mind now of top covered and naked bottom. It's much worse than naked all over.

... especially if he's wearing wellies or sensible gardening shoes with only a t shirt .

Well each to their own but I’d tell him to put some shorts on

Good grief I've nothing against nudity but would draw the line at a 70 yr old husband doing it outside..can't imagine how you weren't aware of this strange habit before marrying him!!

Or, when he bares all, channel your inner Benny Hill (or Doddy), get a Tickling Stick and chase him around the garden with the Benny Hill sound track playing on your phone!

Ask yourself:
- Would you really be comfortable knowing you were stopping him do something he enjoys that doesn't really hurt anyone?

- Has he always done this, and did you know before you got married? (Or is it recent?)

- Will it matter in 30+ years time?

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Well, I wouldn’t be happy with my man strolling about with his meat and two veg on show in the yard or house, and neither is the OP so he should think about her and how she feels.
On the hygiene aspect I would make him sit on towels, bums are not always clean!

BlueBelle I have that image in my mind now of top covered and naked bottom. It's much worse than naked all over.

Why a t shirt! and keep a bare bottom Realky !!! the mind boggles why would he cover up the top which is a normal part for a bloke to leave bare on a nice sunny day and leave the bottom bits free !!!
I really think you are just going to have to leave him to it Nitpick if he’s happy and keeps the garden nice and is otherwise a good mate, let him have his way
You may find if you stop mithering him about it he may not be so ‘into’ it
Just go to the other rooms or out and about when he’s off to the garden and forget about it as you have both dug your heels in and it’s a daft thing to fall out about if you are in a fairly private setting where he can’t upset others , and when he gets a prick on his p………, ( bits ) don’t laugh

This is not alright. He is deliberately not respecting you and your feelings. It's not a big deal for him to put on a t shirt. So stop doing things for him which make him happy. And tell him that clearly, as he is treating you as inferior to him.

Nitpick48

I re-married 8 years ago, my husband and I are both in our late 70s. Turns out he likes to garden naked. (we moved a few years ago and to a house where we’re not overlooked). He gets irritable when I say I don’t like him sitting on the furniture or wandering around gardening. Bending down to plant or prune. (If you see where I’m going with this) He just says “well don’t look!” He’s fit and active and not mentally impaired, Just rather stubborn. Am I being unreasonable?

To answer your question - as others have - I think this is too subjective to be able to give you a satisfactory answer!

There's the "it wouldn't bother me" type of response along with those who think it's a tad 'insensitive' (that might be the wrong word but it's too early to think clearly).

Are you being unreasonable? Well he seems to think you are and you appear to think he is. So you're going to come out the same door you went in...

Maybe ask yourself why it makes you feel uncomfortable and either deal with that or tell him - if you think you've got an argument.

I'm trying to be objective but FWIW (I know you want to hear from those who agree with you!), I don't believe it's that unusual for men or women to garden in the nude - and you could always take his advice not to look when he's bending down to prune the rose bush - but plonking his bare bum and the rest of his anatomy down on cushions and chairs etc indoors is questionable.

Nude resort etiquette demands that guests sit on a towel, for obvious reasons. Chuck a couple of towels at him, leave him to get on with it and just do your own thing!

... maybe an unexpected visit from friends or family which doesn't allow him time to sprint from sitting room to bedroom without being observed could change his perspective.

Jaxjacky

There are roughly 7 million naturists in the UK lemsip and Sparklefizz it’s not that unusual

it's is certainly not usual either!. One person of a couple who share a home should not be doing something that the other is not 'okay' with!

Wouldn't bother me at all.
If you're that worried about a bare bum on furniture, put a towel down.
Let the poor bugger have some peace, he's not hurting anyone.

Jaxjacky

I did mention that earlier Allira sigh..

😁
Sorry, I was sitting at the back and chatting!