Upset about daughter not visiting her sisters grave

I don’t visit my mum and dad and grandparents graves any more but I think about them and miss them every day sometimes many times a day
Let your daughter remember her sister however she wants…. not visiting the grave does not equate with not remembering her sister

Fairislecable
I love your flowers idea.
I always buy daffodils for my dad.

Surely this could not be more true:
You are upset about having a dead daughter. Of course you are.

But your (very much alive) daughter will go on loving her sister in her own special, sisterly way.
I haven't been in your place, or hers (and obviously feel blessed to have been spared that burden) - but I think we must all be allowed to grieve (and live on) in our own unique way.

It's possible that your daughter was doing it your way because she loves you.

For many many years I visited my uncle's grave on his birthday with my mum. It was what she wanted to do.
I know an uncle is not at all the same as a sister - but I truly loved mum and knew it was important to her.

I do hope you can find peace in this.
I'm sure you both keep your youngest daughter alive in your hearts.

My loved ones are in my heart

Please don't be upset about this. We all remember loved ones in our own way. I am with silver girl on this. I don't visit graves any more. My loved
in my heart and in my thoughts- always! Not beneath the soil. It is such a personal issue - each to their own. Your DD has not forgotten her sister, she will be remembering in a way that
is best for
her , as we are all entitled to do. 💐💐

I don't really visit graves either, because they turn my thoughts to the day I lost them. On special occasions I prefer to remember when they were here and we were happy. Visiting their death makes me lose out on their life and it just hurt. I don't want to hurt when I think of them, I want to smile because they did so much to make me smile.

No, you should not be upset.

Of course you are still sad that your youngest daughter died many years ago but I think being judgmental about your other daughter's way of coping with the loss of her sister is just your projection of your own ongoing grief. For your own sake, please don't do that. You are upset about having a dead daughter. Of course you are.

So am I. My daughter's sisters and her husband cope in their own way. I in mine.

I don't visit the graves of my loved ones as I come away feeling so disappointed and sad that I can't actually be with them. This certainly does not mean I don't miss them. The opposite is true. Your daughter probably grieves in her own way. Grief is so hard, big hugs to you.

Oh Posy I very much doubt she has forgotten her sister.

I know from my own experience of losing a loved one that a time may come when you jut have to stop the rituals of "remembering" to be able to get on with your life. There were things I did that upset me so much I had to stop in the end.

But those I've lost are still very much in my heart.

I never visit the graves of those who have died.

On their birthdays I always buy flowers to have in my home of the type they would like. For example my Dad was not into fancy things but loved scented flowers so I get Stocks or hyacinths.

I don t forget them they and their memories are always with me.

Maybe she just finds it too hard to keep visiting the grave? Everyone grieves in their own way, and I'm sure it doesn't mean that she has forgotten her.

I don't think you should be upset Posy for your D's sake as well as your own.

It doesn't mean that she's forgotten her sister.