Is what I have done so very wrong?.

And it doesn’t matter ‘who was first’.
It’s not a competition.

May she has PND ? Things tend to loom large with this. I think what you did was lovely.

Me too thankfully

Hi , no she hadn't at the time done anything, it really was on my part the most simplistic of a friendly gesture to people doing a great job , a three quid box.of biscuits and nice words has caused so much upset.
It want my place apparently

Quote Pantglas2 Fri 11-Jul-25 13:29:34
See how much space she wants in September …

This made me laugh! 😂

I think your daughter is being too precious. Your gift was no slight on hers. Surely you can BOTH say thank you to the staff?
Sheesh.

Talk about having to walk on bluddy eggshells….

Frankly, I think your daughter should grow up and act her age!

You made a poliite gesture to some people whom you have interacted with for two years.

I wonder what on earth could make your daughter feel that she is the only person who has any right to thank her child's teachers for anything.

You have apologised for inadvertently hurting your daughter, which was right and kind of you, but please leave it at that.

If she comes out of her huff, well and good. If not, then I am afraid there is nothing more you can do.

And yes, I think it may well be a generational thing, but that does not mean that your daughter is right and you are wrong.

Quite honestly I don’t think it’s any of her business who you give gifts to. If anyone is crossing a boundary it’s her.

Totally agree with Witzend.

I can understand why you did it. I,too, have a really good relationship with dgs2's key teacher and the other ladies in his nursery. However I wouldn't take them a gift at the end of the year. I do bake them cakes at different times

I think you did overstep a bit. If your daughter already had given a gift, I think that was enough. Possibly she's a bit hormonal too, having recently given birth. I would apologise profusely to her, and promise you won't do it again.

Thank you , I needed to ask to reassure myself!

See how much space she wants in September …

Seriously, if you’ve explained and apologised and she still won’t respond you don’t have a lot of choice. Let’s hope she’ll get over it.

Of course there was nothing wrong with it! Your daughter’s reaction is way OTT and frankly bonkers.