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Plants in new home to stay in garden

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Smintie Wed 23-Jul-25 20:55:02

I’ve bought my next home, 18 months after my husband died. It’s just right for me but with a lovely garden, which was a really important thing for me leaving my beautiful but huge garden we had made over 30 years.

We have exchanged contracts and are due to complete next week. Fixtures and fittings included the plants in the gardens, except for the plants in pots.

I’ve had an email asking for permission for the sellers to remove several plants and shrubs from the garden of my new home, as they remind them of their mum (it’s a probate sale).

They are already taking all the plants in pots and have had several months to take cuttings etc. but haven’t.

Would I be unreasonable to say no? Taking out plants and leaving big gaps will spoil the garden.

valdavi Wed 23-Jul-25 21:04:02

If they are moving locally, you could politely say no for the reason you've given us, that it's a wrench leaving your old garden, & the new garden is very important to you (and legally the plants will be yours)
Then take some cuttings yourself that you can offer them once they've established.
Plants can be expensive, & the previous gardeners would probably prefer their garden to stay as it is & be looked after by another knowledgeable gardener.

valdavi Wed 23-Jul-25 21:04:53

Hope the move goes well!

rubysong Wed 23-Jul-25 21:05:26

They should have made it clear when they advertised the property if they were taking plants from the garden. Tell them the garden was a major factor in you choosing to buy but you will let them take a few cuttings.

Astitchintime Wed 23-Jul-25 21:12:30

It might not be the right time to take certain cuttings for successful propogation and suggest they leave it to you to take them when suitable…..I hope that makes sense.

I do understand them wanting something to remember their late mother though. Hope your move goes smoothly and you settle in your new home.

Iam64 Wed 23-Jul-25 21:24:02

This is the wrong time to be moving plants. I’d be tempted to say that and offer them the chance to take cuttings or split plants with you in the spring
Or just say no

valdavi Wed 23-Jul-25 21:25:42

Anyway with the weather as it has been in most of England, it's a terrible time to transplant mature shrubs & there's a high chance they'll die.

Casdon Wed 23-Jul-25 21:27:34

I think I’d let them take a couple that mean the most to them, perhaps a rose and another perennial, but make it clear which specific plants they can take.

valdavi Wed 23-Jul-25 21:29:01

Sorry Iam, crossed posts

Sheebee1 Wed 23-Jul-25 21:31:33

Our ‘new’ home garden was disfigured by the previous owners when they took out plants which they didn’t discuss doing with us prior to out moving in. I would think really hard before agreeing to this. They have enjoyed the plants whilst their parents were alive. They could always buy the same plant that’s currently in the garden, if they need a reminder.

Woollywoman Wed 23-Jul-25 21:32:36

I would play for time asking for a list of what they would like to take. It might help you to decide what to do.

It is definitely the wrong time of year to transplant shrubs etc, and it would be perfectly reasonable to point this out. You could maybe offer to divide some perennials in the Autumn?

You could also chat to your solicitor about this? Good luck. You are not being unreasonable…

OldFrill Thu 24-Jul-25 00:49:14

Certainly agree to it, but say you expect a reduction in price as you'll have to purchase and employ someone to replace the plants. l would suggest £1000.

NotSpaghetti Thu 24-Jul-25 06:53:17

I would be disappointed not to take my father's camelias- they have moved house with us several times.

Please try to be generous here - they may not have thought about it properly. Maybe it's the first time this has happened.

Can you find it in your heart to agree for them to take them (now or later in the year) subject to them funding similar sized replacements?

I think I'd offer that at least.
Are they dramatic/unusual or very mature/beautiful specimens?

Sparklefizz Thu 24-Jul-25 07:20:54

I bought a house where the garden was a mess. It looked like a new build although it was, in fact, 18 years old, but the grass and weeds were knee high and there was only one plant, a rose bush.

Two days after I moved in, the vendor suddenly knocked on the door and asked if she could take the single rose bush as it had been an anniversary present. I agreed as it made no difference.

Smintie I agree with what others have said that it's the wrong time to be moving mature plants/shrubs and I would allow just a couple to be taken with recompense for you. It depends on how many they are asking for, and how big a gap would be left behind.

Iam64 Thu 24-Jul-25 07:22:39

I was inexperienced when we bought this house thirty two years ago. The week before we exchanged contracts, I agreed the original owner could take a couple of plants from the garden. She basically cleared the majority. Cheeky

Whiff Thu 24-Jul-25 07:37:54

The fixtures and fittings included everything but the pots . They can legally to take the pots but not plants out of the garden . When I moved I left everything as I was moving over 100 miles away.

The executors of the will of the bungalow I brought asked if I wanted any of the kitchen applies ,plants in pots and garden furniture which I didn't. But did tell them it was kind of them to ask.

My old garden was what my husband and I planted. I stripped both front and back gardens of all the plants I didn't want and only left 4 I liked and replanted it with manly shrubs and plants for all year round colour. I had great fun choosing new plants that I liked . My husband always said I had a black thumb but it seems it's green . I even have a greenhouse and grow some veg. My gardening style once planted it lives or dies .

As contracts have been exchanged they can't suddenly decide they want plants out of the garden. I would say no . If they really wanted them they would have taken them before putting the property on the market.

But it's your choice . If it was me I would say no .

Calendargirl Thu 24-Jul-25 07:42:44

They should have thought of this earlier, and this should have been reflected in the ‘what’s included (or not).

I would be inclined to get the solicitor to respond to this, and not get involved.

M0nica Thu 24-Jul-25 07:44:50

I have just sold our house and large garden. Several months before we moved. I dug up clumps of primroses, lily of the valley and a chunk of rhubarb.

I also took all my belfast sinks and herbs therein - but the purchasers knew we would be doing that.

Personally, I would review the plants they want, and where there removal would not be too damaging I would let them have them, but suggest they delay taking them until late September.

I always think that generosity to other people help smooth one's passage through life.

OldFrill Thu 24-Jul-25 08:00:36

Well my generosity of spirit is tapered by cynicism. Unless these are extremely rare specimens they can buy the same plants. They are at it. Probably won't be a lightbulb left in the house.

Luckygirl3 Thu 24-Jul-25 08:12:49

Why not visit and see what they want to take, if it us near enough, and discuss it. I can see why they might want to do this but the likely outcome is a gap in your new garden and a dead plant that did not like being moved. Lose, lose.

eazybee Thu 24-Jul-25 08:23:06

On one hand the sellers have asked for permission to remove some plants and given a reason. On the other hand it was not their home, and they had plenty of time to remove the plants before selling the house.
I would think hard before replying and the idea of cuttings is a good one.
Next door neighbours sold their house to a young man working in America so it was empty for some months before he moved in. The previous owners returned three times after the sale to remove plants; the third time they were caught by the new owner's parents who had come to prepare the house prior to his earlier-than-expected return . A slight unpleasantness occurred and most of the plants reappeared.

keepingquiet Thu 24-Jul-25 08:28:36

I have bought several houses in the course of my lifetime but have never removed plants, or had plants removed from a garden I had purchased.

Whoever does this clearly does not care about the plants which has some have said, may never recover...

I find it all very odd.

foxie48 Thu 24-Jul-25 08:29:23

Garden plants are classed as fixtures and fittings unless specified otherwise. Either say no or offer opportunity to take cuttings or take seed at an appropriate time. It's not the right time to move plants ATM but I'd be inclined to ask if there's any particular plant they want and offer to let them take it in the autumn if it suits you. Definitely no to them taking anything before you move in.

M0nica Thu 24-Jul-25 16:25:45

I have always found that a friendly conversation and discussion will almost always sort out problems like this in a way satisfactory for all parties.

I have both taken plants and had plants taken from houses I am moving out of or into, but it has always been settled by friendly conversation with the other party.

yogitree Thu 24-Jul-25 16:28:00

Iam64

This is the wrong time to be moving plants. I’d be tempted to say that and offer them the chance to take cuttings or split plants with you in the spring
Or just say no

Good advice.