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Is it me, or do these people have a nerve?

(35 Posts)
valdavi Wed 23-Jul-25 21:43:18

I offered a bulky item on Freecycle a month ago (free), & it didn't go. Yesterday I had a reply saying they'd like it but had no transport, did I do delivery?
As I dislike waste & it's got years of use left in it, I asked where they lived & said if it was anywhere I'd be near in the next few days I'd take it for £10.
They replied to say where they were, "near-by" and gave a list of times they'd be available to take delivery!! As it was 18 miles distant in a direction I only travel once a year, I just said sorry no can do. The tip's a mile away.
No "thank you" at any point either!

crazyH Wed 23-Jul-25 21:55:50

‘What a flipping liberty’ as Nan would say but jokes aside, I think they really have a nerve 😡

Ziggy62 Wed 23-Jul-25 21:57:33

Yeap, happens alot.
Now when I post free things online I state items must be collected.

Also if person can't collect on day I let it go to someone who can

On a positive note I gave away a dog gate/fence yesterday and guy who collected turned up with bunch of roses and bar of chocolate

fancythat Wed 23-Jul-25 21:59:35

Lots of people have lots of nerve.

I never cease to be amazed.

Babs03 Wed 23-Jul-25 22:02:48

Yep they have a nerve. If it is free you go and get it and thank the person giving it to you otherwise you are an entitled so and so.

Elegran Wed 23-Jul-25 22:50:40

I posted on a local site that I was selling a small luggage trailer as I now had no car. One person offered to "take it off my hands" for a sum half what I was asking (which was already a lot less than it was worth). Another asked if I would deliver it to an address about 30 miles away. With no car? Did they think I would push it up the motorway?

crazyH Wed 23-Jul-25 23:05:57

Elegran

Did they think I would push it up the motorway?

That’s funny - love it 🤣

poppysmum Thu 24-Jul-25 07:44:07

there are always cheeky so and so's. I sold a dolls pram it was in pristine condition not played with. asked about half what it was to buy new, lots of enquires lady came, spent a long time inspecting it then paid took it away. Quite pleased with my sale then an hour later email saying it was filthy moldy and she wanted a refund. I told her she had spent a lot of time inspecting it so should have seen the non existent faults then and no I was not issuing refunds unless she returned pram. Never heard from her again!

J52 Thu 24-Jul-25 07:57:42

When we replaced our wood burning stove, we advertised it for sale explaining it was heavy and required collecting, one prospective buyer wanted us to deliver it to Edinburgh!
Fortunately a young man with friend and van came to buy it.

Oreo Thu 24-Jul-25 08:04:19

fancythat

Lots of people have lots of nerve.

I never cease to be amazed.

I agree, it would be laughable if it wasn’t so annoying.

Luckygirl3 Thu 24-Jul-25 08:08:22

I have used freecycle a lot and the "customers" vary from a young photography student just setting out who was over the moon with the kit I gave him to someone collecting a table and some curtains who I am pretty sure was a dealer.

M0nica Thu 24-Jul-25 08:08:29

We gave DH's old school violin away to someone with a sad tale. When we went to our next local auction, looking for stock for our antique stall, one of the lots was DH's violin. To our satisfaction, it didn't sell.

The only reason we had given it away was because DH said it was such a poor child beginner's instrument, that he could not justify selling it.

Smileless2012 Thu 24-Jul-25 09:25:43

We came across that several times when we were clearing out and moving to a much smaller property and always said we were unable to deliver.

Lilyflower Thu 24-Jul-25 13:56:18

I offered some free crockery and the nice lady .who collected still wanted to pay. There are some decent people about.

pably15 Thu 24-Jul-25 14:07:09

yes there are some decent people around ,,but there are many more who just chance their luck..

Crossstitchfan Thu 24-Jul-25 14:13:31

What really annoyed me in my eBay days was the person who asked if I would sell her both the two items I listed for the price of the cheapest one. She said the more expensive one wasn’t worth it and looked ‘below standard’. I replied that if that was the case, she certainly wouldn’t want it and that I wouldn’t be selling her the other item either! She wasn’t happy!

kjmpde Thu 24-Jul-25 14:30:51

We had a very expensive rug but I posted it for about a third of the price . In pristine condition. I was offered £10 to deliver it and no more . It needs 2 people to even lift it . I did not even reply as I thought they were taking the mickey.

sandelf Thu 24-Jul-25 15:41:07

No, no, - up to them to collect or find a friend etc - you are just offering the item!

JaneJudge Thu 24-Jul-25 15:43:02

yes people are really cheeky

leeds22 Thu 24-Jul-25 16:53:41

I offered a water butt free on FB. Yes please says an acquaintance 200 m down the road. Can I take it round? She's 25 years younger than me. So it's still in my shed.

AmberGran Thu 24-Jul-25 17:01:17

I once made the mistake of putting two things out on my porch for collection by two different people, on opposite sides of the porch. Heard one collecting a table lamp then the other one arrived and knocked on door. No petty cash tin on porch - the first guy had taken both. Had to apologise for wasted journey, then sent a very snotty email to the guy who nicked it.

Hedgehog2908 Thu 24-Jul-25 18:21:47

People really do mess you about on free cycle. They are desperate to have the item and they don't turn up - no apology or text. So rude!

Doodledog Thu 24-Jul-25 19:57:50

The thing about Freecycle is that it is often used by people with no spare money and therefore no car. Yes, the items are free, but if someone has no car and can't drive (so can't hire a van) and the item is too big to carry on the bus they can't have it.

I have used a local group to get rid of things, and to be frank having someone come to the house and get them is so much easier than taking them to the tip and costs me nothing, whilst getting the council to collect large items is expensive, and large items have to be chopped up to fit them in the car, which is a waste of time and is bad for the environment. Passing them on is as much a case of the collectors doing me a favour as it is me doing a favour for them.

Depending on where they live and whether the item would fit in our car, Mr D would drop something off to help someone starting out or to stop it going to landfill - why not? If Mr Dog wasn't available, however, I would have to say no as I don't drive, but I wouldn't think someone was being cheeky to ask.

What I don't like is when people are curt in their replies, such as just writing 'address?', or when they hold conversations with others about my things as though I wasn't there. 'Would this do for your spare room, Susan? If you cut the legs off and paint it orange it might be ok.' Why not message privately and point Susan in the direction of the offer?

Sarahr Thu 24-Jul-25 20:03:30

They are a in a category of species recently discovered. They expect strangers to run around for them even though a kind friend or neighbour might help them out if asked.
My DH had an item on Facebook marketplace. Someone just a 25 minute drive away offered half of the very fair asking price as we "live so far away". A gentleman drove from the same town as the other person, to buy a few plants from me for £2. He didn't quibble or complain that I lived too far away.
We have driven all over the place to collect insulation and flooring we purchased through Facebook. Saved us a small fortune Never once have we been concerned about the distance. Makes a nice day out somewhere new and met some lovely people.

knspol Thu 24-Jul-25 20:30:47

Never used Freecycle because have heard so many tales about people collecting stuff and then selling it to make a profit. Just take what I can to the charity shops and other stuff goes in a skip.