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Husband doesn’t understand the whole dishcloth/cleaning rag thing!

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Sago Wed 30-Jul-25 17:41:16

We recently moved home and we have got rid of masses of stuff and bought lots of lovely shiny new things.
However some things cannot be replaced.

I have a huge kitchen drawer with a basket of probably 30 dishcloths and another of cleaning rags.
The cleaning rags are pure linen tea towels that are old and worn, they polish like magic, the dishcloths are proper Lancashire dishcloths, I think some of these have been with me 40+ years.

They work brilliantly are not made in China and I love them.

My husband cannot understand my attachment and bought me some new dishcloths (yes been thoroughly spoilt I know!)they are Chinese rubbish so have been relegated to the utility room.

He thinks I am mad……I think I am perfectly sane.

AIBU?

Cateq Thu 31-Jul-25 14:32:29

My gran and aunt used to knit dishcloths which became a much wanted gift as they lasted much longer than shop bought ones. In fact I still have some from 1985. Mind you it became rather difficult to find the hanks of cotton.

mrsba Thu 31-Jul-25 14:29:35

After 45. years my husband still can't grasp that only Yellow dish cloths are to be used to clean the toilet and he grabs tea towels for all sorts of cleaning jobs and spills in the garage. Go to dry the dishes and it's a hunt to find nice clean tea towels with no stains on

Casdon Thu 31-Jul-25 14:13:00

This thread sent me on a quest as I like to find British made if I can. I found some beautiful linen tea towels and glass cloths made by Thomas Ferguson in Northern Ireland.
www.google.com/aclk?sa=L&ai=DChsSEwjr7sDylOeOAxVmlFAGHenEHjEYACICCAEQRRoCZGc&co=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI6-7A8pTnjgMVZpRQBh3pxB4xEAAYASAAEgJeYPD_BwE&sig=AOD64_3BvscfcbcnWnNNsIfkwV_BCZfTLw&q&adurl&ved=2ahUKEwiGxLvylOeOAxWNZ0EAHXmjCcIQ0Qx6BAgKEAE

madeleine45 Thu 31-Jul-25 14:10:35

I run my home , no one else!! So when I need a cleaner in or some job doing, I make it perfectly clear but politely ,what I want doing and how. Of course no doubt a lot of the reasons that these husbands dont notice the difference or pretend they dont is that they rarely or never do much cleaning to find out the difference. When in doubt follow the expert/owners!!

Woe betide anyone who attempts to make coffee and does not follow my strict instructions, about warming the pot, the exact amount of coffee etc etc and of course must be poured into my china mug. Absolutely NEVER in a horrible paper or earthenware cup! Well at the age of 80, there are many things that I either can no longer do , or have to admit take a lot longer for me to do. But my standards will never fall regarding my coffee especially. The japanese tea ceremony has nothing on me!!

Keeper1 Thu 31-Jul-25 14:01:28

BlueberryPie

I mean, sometimes I dust with a washcloth. Other times, a paper towel or a sock or even the cat. No difference. shrug

Snap

Romola Thu 31-Jul-25 13:55:57

I do agree about linen tea towels, but they are hard to find.
Apart from that, I'm not fussy.

Mojack26 Thu 31-Jul-25 13:44:13

I agree with your husband!🤣

Babs03 Thu 31-Jul-25 13:32:39

One bit of useless information from a Lancastrian is that in Lancashire we say ‘pot towels’ for ‘tea towels’. When we first moved down south and I said pot towel people stared at me as if I’d gone mad.

Casdon Thu 31-Jul-25 13:27:45

I have to admit to having no commitment to dishcloths or rags. I’ve got a brilliant 20 year old microfibre window cloth, I reckon the harm it did to the environment has washed out after being washed weekly for the last 20 years, so I don’t feel guilty. I use old cut up white T-shirts as rags, I have lots, so I save them up and do them on a hot wash when I’ve got enough. My son uses them to clean his golf clubs, which is fine.
As an aside, you might be interested to know that apparently the last British manufacturer of tea towels is Bancroft Mill in Lancashire, I saw them on Buy British Made, and they look really nice.

Sago Thu 31-Jul-25 13:03:56

Sago

Mt61

I’ve never heard of those Lancashire dishcloths either, only Lancashire dusters.
I bought mine from Lakeland shop. Must have had them donkeys yrs. They don’t shed like those yellow dusters.
My dishcloths must be large, 100% cotton so that I can bleach them, Same with tea towels, white.
The only thing I can’t seem to get a hold of is those herringbone oven cloths, mine are freyed now.

I have these too!
Amazon.

Just purchased more woven oven cloths from the link I posted earlier.
I’m on a roll now!

Sago Thu 31-Jul-25 12:58:55

I may ask him for some of these for Christmas..

I would love to say I’m joking………

www.google.com/aclk?sa=L&ai=DChsSEwjo_e2mheeOAxWpmFAGHYOZLsEYACICCAEQIhoCZGc&co=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI6P3tpoXnjgMVqZhQBh2DmS7BEAQYASABEgJezvD_BwE&cce=1&sig=AOD64_01UqebQlr2CHubk7UbiDB3cNRkIg&ctype=5&q=&ved=2ahUKEwiLvOmmheeOAxWacUEAHcsTCFgQ5bgDKAB6BAgGEAs&adurl=

Sago Thu 31-Jul-25 12:55:08

Mt61

I’ve never heard of those Lancashire dishcloths either, only Lancashire dusters.
I bought mine from Lakeland shop. Must have had them donkeys yrs. They don’t shed like those yellow dusters.
My dishcloths must be large, 100% cotton so that I can bleach them, Same with tea towels, white.
The only thing I can’t seem to get a hold of is those herringbone oven cloths, mine are freyed now.

I have these too!
Amazon.

Sago Thu 31-Jul-25 12:53:42

petra

Sago

I even iron my rags😱

Sago
You’re not my friend, Pam from many years ago at Tollesbury, are you? 😂

No sorry!

Babs03 Thu 31-Jul-25 12:50:29

I cut up old tee shirts for cleaning cloths and buy dishcloths from the shops when my old ones look worn and discoloured.
Am not sentimental about it at all, perhaps because I hate cleaning.

Gin Thu 31-Jul-25 11:25:50

In infants school, learning to knit, we were expected to make our mothers a dishcloth. We were given a ball of cotton and it stuck to the needles, tied itself in knots and put me off knitting for life!

Devorgilla Thu 31-Jul-25 11:25:31

My husband never did understand the difference between using an old cloth to clean his motorbike as opposed to the new ones I had just bought for the kitchen. He no longer has the bike so my cloths are safe. Still trying, after several decades, to teach him to close cupboard doors. My mother's house was broken into - not badly - but the one thing that really upset my sister who did her cleaning was that they had dared to touch her dusters. angry

Aldom Thu 31-Jul-25 11:12:25

Visgirl when I was growing up in the 40's and 50's knitting dish cloths was something many housewives did.
I knitted some as practice once I had learned to knit.

woodenspoon Thu 31-Jul-25 11:09:10

My aunts used to knit dishcloths from balls of cotton many years ago. Nowadays, I just buy mine from the supermarket or use old face flannels that are past their prime.

DH has a stash in the garage for his diy jobs. Occasionally they find their way indoors so I have to be vigilant!

Visgir1 Thu 31-Jul-25 10:57:01

Chocolatelovinggran

To add to the 1936 vibe here, I'm proud to say that I knit my dishcloths from cotton.
My children think that I am ...nuts..

I worked with someone once who also did this... We too thought she was nuts 😅

Mt61 Thu 31-Jul-25 10:40:41

I’ve never heard of those Lancashire dishcloths either, only Lancashire dusters.
I bought mine from Lakeland shop. Must have had them donkeys yrs. They don’t shed like those yellow dusters.
My dishcloths must be large, 100% cotton so that I can bleach them, Same with tea towels, white.
The only thing I can’t seem to get a hold of is those herringbone oven cloths, mine are freyed now.

Elegran Thu 31-Jul-25 09:15:58

Try telling him that you have been using his best fine-detail wood-carving chisel as a screwdriver, paint-tin opener, and concrete breaker, as you thought chipping the edge didn't matter - it's just a tool.

petra Thu 31-Jul-25 08:26:34

Sago

I even iron my rags😱

Sago
You’re not my friend, Pam from many years ago at Tollesbury, are you? 😂

M0nica Thu 31-Jul-25 08:26:26

Desdemona

I don't know what Lancashire dishcloths are, but I feel I have missed out and now I want some. smile

They are those stockinette roll dishcloths - at least that is what came up when I googled them. I hadn't heard of them either, but I recognised them when I saw them.

I think when we moved a chucked a whole lot out that I had inherited unused from an aunt and I hadn't used them either, so out they went.

Desdemona Thu 31-Jul-25 08:08:28

I don't know what Lancashire dishcloths are, but I feel I have missed out and now I want some. smile

Allsorts Thu 31-Jul-25 04:27:20

Well I suppose it was kind of your husband to notice.